Let's be real, a lot of men wear their hearts on their sleeves. This includes the Red Pill aware. If you wear your heart on your sleeve, every time you get rejected, you feel crushed. You thought that this girl was the one who would actually say yes.

I've written posts talking about rejection a lot and that I count my rejections, kinda like trophies. I don't look at rejection as a negative. I focus on making the approach and not bitching out. I feel bad on days when I go out, see an attractive woman who I want to approach, but I don't. I use that "bitch out" moment or day as a sign that I need to warm up before I start cold approaching again. This is when I just socialize with random women. I smile at old women, I'll have small talk with a couple of attractive women without trying to get their number. I focus on increasing my interactions as a way to warm up to approaching women again and trying to get with them.

When you get rejected, by maintaining a positive outlook about it (you took action and approached and didn't bitch out), you take that positive energy into the next approach. This positive energy feeds on itself and you'll notice that the women will enjoy talking to you. Also, the fear of approaching women dwindles. You may notice that as soon as you see an attractive woman, you'll approach her almost immediately.

"Enjoying rejection is a coping mechanism"

Let's say you set a goal of approaching 1-2 women a day. Your goal is to focus on making the approach, having a good interaction, be bold, solid, and confident, and only approach women you think are really attractive. You aren't concerned about getting rejected or getting the girl. Your only concern is taking action and having a good interaction with an attractive woman.

By having this mindset, you will start looking for attractive women everywhere you go. You will look forward to going out talking to women and having good interactions. You will make more attempts to get the number, go on dates, or hook up with the women you approach. If you get rejected, you'll feel good that you made the attempt and look forward to the next approach.

Trust me, if you get this mindset into your subconscious mind, it will become almost effortless approaching the women you want.

Remember that cold approach is not about getting the girl in front of you. It's about practice to find the women who shares mutual attraction and genuine desire for you. The more you approach, and play the numbers game, the more likely you'll find them.

What are your thoughts?