How to: Shut down attention whoring without cringy comebacks or being a dick for no reason

LastRevision · 2014-05-07T00:46:12+00:00

Just say "okay" and smile. That's it.

Well, that's a possible reply, yes. There are better ones out there depending on the mood of the conversation. It's just not clever, and at the very least it further breaks rapport.

naturally she will say something to offset the statement and win back your favor.

You can't assume that. You should be leading the direction of the conversation as part of maintaining frame.

These responses fail hard because:

They can fail if the tone is off. There's a fine line between teasing and insulting.

AuctionSniper · 2014-05-07T00:05:21+00:00

"Hot guys guys hit on me too, so what's your point?"

CanadianStrangeTamer · 2014-05-07T04:38:00+00:00

As a suggestion, if you say "okay" in this context, say it like James Bond would, not like a 16 year old girl would.

NoLongerSisyphus · 2014-05-07T00:11:34+00:00

"You were sexy, until you started telling me how sexy you are."

KingofRiders · 2014-05-07T03:48:24+00:00

With proper frame control, you can say anything and get a positive response. Girls rarely react negatively to being teased for being slutty.

If you spit the words out like you're disgusted, of course she'll recoil. An unwavering man doesn't care about some floozy's comings and goings.

shamanbard · 2014-05-07T02:42:17+00:00

I disagree with the last paragraph. The point of most game techniques is to make the woman feel inferior to you, because women are attracted to men who are better than they are. If she feels equal to you, she isn't as attracted as she could be and she won't feel the need to qualify herself.

Moreover, an "okay" followed by awkward silence is something that the blue-pill me who rarely got laid would always say when I got this particular shit-test. I get much better results with "you poor, poor thing, let me get my tiny violin!".

SariaLystra · 2014-05-07T04:05:52+00:00

"A. Suddenly YOUVE become the narcissistic one, and it's completely unwarranted because in reality you're really not that cool."

That's really not a good reason. Its not about whether you really are that cool. All that matters is how she perceives it.

"Your limited response leaves what might be an awkward gap in the conversation."

What girl would want to talk to a guy who makes awkward gaps unless the awkward gap focused on her?

Idrinkjdbythegallon · 2014-05-07T00:15:02+00:00

I use the okay response and act like I'm waiting for the story to continue.. Slight pause. Then I smile/start to laugh, "you want a cookie?".. "I thought you were going somewhere with that"

Disclaimer: I'm ridiculously condicending. I laugh genuinely hard the entire time

DontBeAMangina · 2014-05-07T00:09:14+00:00

Perfect. She doesn't get any feedback from you so she discontinues her shitty shit tests.

still_very_alive · 2014-05-07T04:35:31+00:00

Or in other words: http://imgur.com/seh6p

It's amazing how many situations you can apply this to.

tylerthecreature424 · 2014-05-07T14:34:05+00:00

There's nothing wrong with being a dick to women when they attention whore or to women in general. Seriously, it's like THE solution.

projectself · 2014-05-07T07:46:08+00:00

just learn when to shut the fuck up and go do something else for a little bit..

.. think of it like training a puppy.. any attention, even negative attention reinforces bad behaviors. do not listen to what she says, because she will raise hell.. watch her actions. reward good (your time, you provide emotional response in her), ignore or punish bad (remove your time, remove emotion)

PaulRivers10 · 2014-05-07T18:44:38+00:00

These responses fail hard because:

These can totally fail like you're saying, but there's several things missing here:

1. Context - Those kind of responses work for a girl who's fanatically sidetalking about it trying to make themselves feel or look better. A response saying that she's going to have to try harder, or yeah you do seem like a slut - these are responses that are sidetalking back saying "I'm bored with going on about this, to keep things interest you're going to have to do something different".

2. The guys tone and frame. It's not meant to be said "I mean this seriously in a personal way" way. It's meant to be said with a cocky grin and a "I'm just saying stuff, but my underlying point is that this isn't interesting to me".

If you've read the series of essays on The Gervais Principle - http://www.ribbonfarm.com/the-gervais-principle/

Then responding with the above comments using Straight Talk is a bad idea, using Baby Talk is a very very bad idea, but when it's effective is when it's Power Talk (and the girl is also talking power talk).

But here's the part that I think the OP is most likely missing - there's lots of girls who would be offended by those kind of responses, but those kind of girls tend not to be hogging the conversation talking about how much they get hit on for attention.

P.S. Lol, I see the OP updated the post saying Jesus Christ was an alpha.

Sigh. This is one of the problems with TRP - so much native TRP advice concentrates on the dark triad heavily sociopathic women, while so many of the people who disagree do so from such a heavily blue pill viewpoint.

CanadianStrangeTamer · 2014-05-08T05:22:11+00:00

Red pill is a clusterfuck of neckbeards who really have no experience with the things they promote. If you think that being a douchebag is okay, then you will end up a very negative, selfish, and miserable person.

Sadly, ive also recently come to this conclusion. Although I will say that there are a few members who are legitimately giving good solid advice to those who dont have the common sense to react properly in social situations, i have noticed that theres just way too much dick-measuring going down here. When someone even comes close to dick-measuring around or within my group of buddies, we immediately shut them down...hence, why it never happens. A so called "alpha male" doesnt need to show off or any of that shit. He should be portraying his dominance through confident body language, speech, and a calm and collective (yet determined and efficient) approach to situations. Many men here are completely misinterpreting the redpill and believe that a dominant male is basically some douchebag, which will get you women to a certain extent. This in turn makes them believe that what theyre doing is "alpha". Then, there are the "neckbeards" that you mentioned who just hate women because they cant get any...i believe that it is those misogynistic fools who "say" that they respond with things like "yeah, you do seem like a slut". The truth is they dont have the guts to say that to a broads face. They "say" that theyd respond with something like that because they need validation and believe thats what the douchebags above would say or find funny.

edit: totally butchered the formatting lol

Moneyley · 2014-05-07T05:34:59+00:00

"So many guys hit on me" I would too if I was desperate or shows how desperate we can be.

boscoist · 2014-05-07T05:38:49+00:00

eh, so many girls comment positively on my appearance, that i come back with, "so many girls tell me i look like ____ from ___ show in the 90s."

dousche · 2014-05-07T11:38:02+00:00

I thought we already had a thread for this.

Sufferix · 2014-05-07T12:03:46+00:00

dislike of her comment is very subtle yet easily detectable.

One of these things is not like the other[s].

Numeromancer · 2014-05-07T12:59:57+00:00

“okay” implies assent; the only way to counter that implication of assent is with sarcasm so heavy that it's a turn-off.

Since the blatherings of attention-seeking women are like those of attention-seeking children, this seems a propos:

When we were children, and were blathering something stupid to my Dad, he would adopt an expression of subtle amusement and say “izat right?” or “zat so?” It provides just enough attention to keep them interested, just enough doubt to make the hamster spin, and implies neither agreement nor controversy.

synpse · 2014-05-07T16:22:59+00:00

Yeah.. if i follow this advice, the bitch won't leave me alone. Like they've got something to make up to me for, to prove themselves awesome n fight for my attention. The more condescending, the more I get chased. Wrong game. I want them to go away. So.. I have to double-think some creeper shit to say/do/respond.

Idontlikekarmawhores · 2014-05-07T17:14:33+00:00

Indifference. I see, i might use it

UrNameIsToby · 2014-05-07T17:59:56+00:00

I'd probably go along with it sarcastically and be like "Oh gee you're right. You're so fucking hot. /s What was I thinking? You should be talking to some other dude who can properly praise it." Then play it by ear from there. If she's super obnoxious, I'd go find someone else to talk to immediately after. If not, I might try to help her pick out a good beta to kiss her ass. "Hey I bet that guy could totally praise your beauty! What about that one? I bet you could get a free drink out of that!" Pretty much amplify and show her if that's what she wants, there's lots if saps out there to give it to her. Not me.

Blatant-Ballsack · 2014-05-13T02:15:13+00:00

You got it. I see a lot of these planned responses some guys put out and I just think damn, now everyone in the room is going to feel awkward as fuck. There are correct and incorrect ways to handle this.

bradyo2 · 2014-05-07T08:37:58+00:00

I like this "okay" line, cause it completely shuts them down. It's effectively like laughing in their face, without doing the actual laughing.

You might wanna make it more like an "ooookayyyy..." and maybe turn away as well for full effect

2014-05-07T07:07:44+00:00

"Don't flatter yourself"

cherrypoptart27 · 2014-05-07T13:04:02+00:00

I also like the line "Your dad must be so proud" or "I bet your parents love you now"

The simple fact that girls attempt this is a hilarious example of projection: they think because preselection works on her, it'll work on guys. Sorry sweetheart, we already have your attractiveness sized up from the moment we look at you.

SmellyJelly22 · 2014-05-07T04:55:14+00:00

I say "are you fishing for compliments? Of course I'm gonna say you're pretty. Im not stupid. Youll never know of I'm lying or not."

dvrzero · 2014-05-07T14:15:36+00:00

Well it works for Lil Jon.

http://youtu.be/Ryog-cgp9_I

redpillshadow · 2014-05-07T12:25:12+00:00

You are sarcasm.
You are dislike.
You are subtle.
You are calm.
You are collected.
You are amused mastery.
You are superior.
You are water.
You are future.
You are life.

Offensive_Brute · 2014-05-07T13:14:18+00:00

Give her a quick up and down with a slight grimace of disapproval on your face. Just a couple of seconds, long enough for her to notice. End it with eye contact and then smile and change the subject.

Its like what the OP says but you get to act superior, and in control.

RedPill4LYF · 2014-05-07T00:43:21+00:00

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slcjosh · 2014-05-07T18:01:43+00:00

if your value is high enough, you can say whatever you want.

Title	How to: Shut down attention whoring without cringy comebacks or being a dick for no reason
Author	jagex_blocks_ur_pass
Upvotes	184
Comments	88
Date	May 6, 2014 11:46 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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