I feel like vomiting.

HappyManBeast · 2015-10-12T21:48:38+00:00

Just don't build up a tolerance, next one better be a normal size human. You are not the first, and you won't be the last to make this misjudgment, this is a game of trail and error. Men make mistakes and learn from them, it is called experience, so don't be to hard on yourself. By violating your moral standards you have become aware of them, use this to your advantage. You are now a better man.

Edit. Go tell your friends, so they can bust your balls about it. Laugh it off, and get this shit into the past.

penguin_says_slide · 2015-10-12T20:51:00+00:00

Don't take yourself so seriously. Laugh about it and it will be fine.

hamsterbator · 2015-10-12T20:47:51+00:00

hire a fucking prostitue bro. no fat chicks. these girls have fuckin fungus growing in their pannus folds from bad hygiene.

find an ugly girl with a busted face before you fuck a ham

Roshambo_USMC · 2015-10-12T22:38:06+00:00

What the fuck is up with this community lately? Guy posts a story he obviously laments, including why it was a mistake, yet several of the responses are "don't do that" or the "thanks a lot for validating a fatty" douchebaggery. It's like logic has been suspended so you can get your dig in. Let me break it down Barney-style for you Schadenfreude shitheads (including those upvoting D-bag comments) :

If an OP says "I did X, take it from me and learn from my mistake, don't do X!" the rebuttal of : "hey buddy, thanks a pantload for doing X" or "Dude, doing X is such a bad thing to do, you should've known better" isn't only unhelpful, its textbook shadenfreude and is an indicator of poor character. It's also irritatingly redundant as X was already shown to be a poor choice and regrettable.

And no, being an asshole in this community doesn't make us want to have you come over and twist our niblets because rudeness turns us on, it makes the community weaker by being a shitlord to someone with balls enough to point out a mistake he made to his peers.

For those helping him accept it and to build off it, good on you. The other asshats veiling their odd contempt behind some tough-love is off the mark as long as the mistake was owned up to, which it was. This attitude deters these much-needed reminders and FRs that bring lessons and modern context to the sidebar writings. It's disappointing fellas, you can do better, we expect it here.

[deleted] · 2015-10-12T20:36:27+00:00

Yup. Giving in to someone way lower SMV than you is very insulting.

Which is why hot girls act so insulted when creepy guys hit on them. "Those guys think they are on the same level as me?!"

iambecomedownvote · 2015-10-13T00:31:13+00:00

Fat chicks are like mopeds. They're fun to ride, but you don't want your friends to see you on one.

MyLittleAtomBomb · 2015-10-12T20:26:52+00:00

Thanks for validating yet another landwhale. God knows we need more revolting barrels of lard walking around with the ego of a super-model.

JP_Whoregan · 2015-10-12T22:53:12+00:00

Did you at least get the fat chick blow job?

Usually the big girls can suck a dick.

If you're going to go hogging, at least make sure they slob the nob.

Everyone needs a slump buster now and again. Happens to the best of us. Now that you literally have the stink on you (lol), work on rebuilding your base confidence and get some outcome independence.

Stop being the walking wounded and get on with it.

[deleted] · 2015-10-12T20:57:41+00:00

Hey, relax dude. You banged her and life goes on. Don't take things so seriously.

I myself banged few fattys*. So what, they usually have good tits and you really can use full force because she ain't movin bro.

*fattys, that means a litlle bit more than chubby. No landwhales or other dungeon beasts.

MentORPHEUS · 2015-10-13T05:04:41+00:00

I have had plates and GFs who were pleasant, happy, clean, self-confident, good sex drive, earnest and adventuresome in bed; who happened to be on the plump side. They worked out because they always brought numerous positives to our transactions in the sexual marketplace.

Fat girls almost always have even fatter friends, so I've witnessed sloppy, unclean, insecure, angry, demanding fat girls who put zero chips on the bargaining table, yet maintain spoiled, narcissistic attitudes and behaviors in their occasional beta-snagging love lives.

It sounds like OP had a Covert Contract in his mind, wherein he expected any fat girl to perform for him like the former, but went out and indiscriminately picked the latter and feels buyer's remorse. Now he's projecting his self-loathing upon all fat women; I do not see this coming from a place of strength.

darkrood · 2015-10-12T22:33:56+00:00

Some guys (alpha and beta) just prefer a wet hole over their hand. You're being too hard on yourself. A lot of natural alpha guys I know don't just fuck hot girls. They fuck everything.

MattyAnon · 2015-10-13T00:56:08+00:00

um.... I don't think reeking of desparation due to a dry spell is the exact issue. Girls tell men they are desparate as beta shaming. The idea is that the girl stops not only acting desparate, but doing anything. And wouldn't be attractive in any case.

The things that really are the issue are outcome dependence, neediness, too much pull and not enough push, and passivity.

Outcome dependence: you worry too much about the results, and stop having fun and start getting attached to the outcome. Rather than pressing things forward and enjoying yourself, you get all in your head and start protecting your investment and "trying to make it work". This one is big, and it is hard (I am not going to say it's veiny...). Solution: stop caring by seeing the bigger picture. Focus on what you can do, and ignore the reactions. Don't feel bad if girl reacts badly. This is the stoic stuff. Free yourself from the chains of other people's problems and reactions through indifference to negativity.
Neediness. this is where you need things from the girl. A certain reaction, a certain level of affection, a certain amount of attention, a certain response, etc. Basically you project your needs onto others. People hate it, and women are especially finely tuned to it from men. Observe this in others, and do everything you fucking can to never do it to anyone ever. Ever.
Pull and no push. You keep on pulling and there is no push/pull. Girl knows she can't lose you, and therefore loses attraction and interest. Fix with forwards/backwards. Tease her when things are going well. Push her away, ignore her, flirt with other women once you've gotten her interest.
Passivity. You feel desparate so you compensate by being passive. You stop trying. This is obviously bad when dealing with women.

bat_mayn · 2015-10-12T23:13:04+00:00

There is no such thing as a "dry spell". Stop determining your self-worth by whether or not you are fucking some slag. Could you possibly lower yourself anymore than that?

This is where I really get off the TRP train - so many latching onto the idea that you just have to be fucking someone non-stop. It's just hedonism.

Jakenbake781 · 2015-10-13T00:44:32+00:00

Been there. Done that. Picked myself up and never will do that again.

Manmore · 2015-10-13T18:31:58+00:00

I've fucked a few chubby girls, mostly at times when I just felt fucken lonely. It's almost disappointing to pull them because of how easy it is. Still you hope they'll overcompensate in bed, which they often do, but it's still not worth it.

bea5tly · 2015-10-12T22:18:42+00:00

A landwhale didn't take care of other areas you say? Hmm... Also if you are that needy of sex just get a prostitute. Pick out any hot piece of ass you want and get a hotel (don't bring them to your house)

Do that once or twice a month and fuck other bitches too. Never validate fat asses. They need to die alone and with their heart clogged. (sigh.. I miss FPH)

[deleted] · 2015-10-12T22:19:03+00:00

you fucked a fatty, everyone has one in their closet.

get over it and move on

monsieurhire2 · 2015-10-12T22:39:13+00:00

I just commented on this last week. I'm glad you're post is here to confirm what I said. It is just not worth it.

Now, there are exceptions. Some chubby girls have cute faces, take care of themselves, and have okay personalities, so if you must fuck down, at the very least, pick one that at least meets some minimum criteria; don't just fuck anything, emphasis on thing. Also, if YOU find her attractive, who cares what anyone else thinks? I can personally say from experience that it is liberating to date and fuck women who you find attractive but who don't meet mainstream criteria, namely older women, chubby chicks. Should you aspire to wind up with them? Fuck no. They are waypoints. An older woman can't turn back the clock, and a fat girl will either not lose the weight or gain it back at the earliest opportunity. Nonetheless, you can still have nice experiences and then use it as "proof" that you are "not shallow." Or not. There's a silver lining to most every experience.

But in your case it sounds like you had an unpleasant experience. Well, you learned something. Sometimes a pig really is a pig, no matter how much psychic lipstick you try to smear onto it. Hopefully other guys on here will learn from your mistakes.

Remember: The fool never learns from his mistakes, the smart man learns from his mistakes, and the sage learns from other men's mistakes.

moose_war · 2015-10-13T00:14:22+00:00

Depends on the level of pig. I'd never fuck a woman that big, but the chubby ones can be good enough for those purposes. The main trick is to only let them blow you, no PIV sex. Don't even let them get naked. You'd be surprised how many ugly/fat women are cool with the idea of just getting face fucked. No making out either. No need to see the possible horror show underneath and less chance of her calling you again.

generalatomics1 · 2015-10-13T01:58:33+00:00

I was in the same exact situation as you. Low confidence and a horrid dry spell from my LTR. This past Friday I was sick of it, so I downed three glasses of whiskey, started texting a cute enough tinder match, and was in her bed by 2AM. Woke up on Saturday feeling like I had two cocks.

MortalSisyphus · 2015-10-13T01:11:42+00:00

I don't think I could ever be desperate enough to fuck a fattie. Even when I was a virgin I had a fattie straight up offer me a blow job and I said fuck no. That shit doesn't build self respect, it crushes it.

ZioFascist · 2015-10-13T02:04:22+00:00

id rather be celebate than go pork huntin'

-TempestofChaos- · 2015-10-13T03:03:24+00:00

Lol, sucks bro. You learned from it, I bet, all that matters.

RedPillJax · 2015-10-14T13:23:19+00:00

Don't be so hard on yourself, brother. You wheeled a girl and closed the deal - it just wasn't the right girl or the right deal for what you really wanted to get out of it.

Laugh it off. I've gone harpooning more times than I care to remember - and yes, the shame is real. The best antidote is treating it like the joke it was - yes, you landed a manatee. Yes, it should be funny. Yes, you should laugh at it.

Go forth and work on upgrading to at least a heifer next time - you'll get there!

GrandmasterHurricane · 2015-10-12T21:39:02+00:00

I can feel your disgust through your post lol.

I know the feels.

faded_jester · 2015-10-13T01:19:38+00:00

Well a big difference between making a mistake and being a moron is that you learn a lesson from it. Sounds to me like you learned a lesson....so just chalk it up as more knowledge and don't let it get you down. Everyone falls into pits....not everyone has the guts to climb out and admit they fell into it.

AdonisHera · 2015-10-12T20:35:54+00:00

Don't stick your dick in a fat-ass. I've been where you are and currently going through my own dry-spell, but brother there ain't no way...and ADONIS MEANS NO WAY, Id bang a fattie. Stick with the program, you know our way to be true

prodigyx · 2015-10-13T19:41:20+00:00

It's a mistake you only make once. Lesson learned. You move on and do better. No worries.

CockThunderchad · 2015-10-13T01:08:10+00:00

I lowered my standards and felt disgusted with myself after. Oddly enough that encounter encouraged me to really make strides to further improve my smv.

Use this as motivation, if you really want to get laid keep trying to make it happen, if you feel like it is clouting your judgement then go into some level of monk mode, you WILL come out of this in a better position than you are/feel right now

darkrood · 2015-10-13T01:55:52+00:00

(pat) we've all been there, bro. It just takes some courage to admit it.

People often try not to talk about their bad sexual encounter to be seen as losers.

My suggestion: Buy a meiki toy, and you will never bother to ever do disgusting people.

spaceghost6868 · 2015-10-13T01:56:10+00:00

lol me and my friend use to call this "Lets go Hogging!". I've fucked a couple of fatties. Ok so what. I wasn't really able to get my nut off with most of them and I couldnt do missionary.

cocaine_face · 2015-10-13T02:55:03+00:00

I remember the one time I was desperate enough to fuck a very, very fat girl.

She was disgusting, her stomach popped up above her belt, she was older and I needed like four drinks to even think of fucking her.

She made this weird sound and wiggled her fat as I fucked her - I imagine it's like what fucking a pig that decided to fuck an octopus would sound/look like.

But you know what? After I got over the initial disgust, I said to myself, "Well, at least you can still get laid by SOMEONE", picked myself up, and fucked more girls in the months after that than I ever had before - and this was years before I discovered PUA.

Brush yourself off, and go fuck cuter girls next time.

philovivero · 2015-10-13T03:53:35+00:00

Interesting. One time I took a reasonably-cute but definitely too-large girl home. Not for any conscious reason, really, just because I could.

We did some drinking (back at my place), made out, went to my room. I stripped her naked, looked at her a-bit-more-blob-like-than-I'd-prefer form, and thought I'd be more interested in the morning. Went to sleep.

Woke up in the morning, looked again, still wasn't interested. Showered her, sent her away.

Word on the grapevine is she told everyone I was a really upstanding guy and wouldn't take advantage of her drunken state. I'm glad that's the version of the story she told herself and everyone else.

The real lesson in all this is, don't take home a fatty. The best case is you won't fuck her, and she'll tell everyone how cool you are. The realistic case is your disgust will show through, and she'll have to hamster that away as you're a bad person somehow. Rape accusations etc. In any case, you're not gonna get any more confidence. I don't remember thinking anything better of myself after the incident.

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T08:10:19+00:00

Caught yeself a porker, son!

The upside is you didn't marry the beast, like some dumb beta.

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T12:24:02+00:00

A trip to thailand would have fixed your issue than fucking a dangerous hag.

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T13:08:30+00:00

I know that game. My ex got huge during our relationship. The smell, her taste, just gross.

Keep working on your SMV and keep those standards strong.

svegni · 2015-10-13T15:10:11+00:00

Are you me? Day one was pride. Day two was shame, so much shame. Day three+ was lulz, shit happens. Thank god she doesn't know my fb, phone or name even. Please let her never find me again.

Stythe · 2015-10-13T16:46:45+00:00

Haha, it backfired eh? Well, the bright side is that you've realized YOU'RE better than that.

I never used to care if the girls I slept with were overweight (except landwhales) but more recently I got together with an old plate who was hefty (I think she got fatter) and it sucked. I decided to swear off fatties for the indefinite future. Its too much of a crutch and its not fun sex. They can't keep up and they're usually gross in regards to self maintenance.

blackberryx · 2015-10-13T18:01:42+00:00

gotta fuck a 4 to appreciate an 8

R1fle · 2015-10-13T18:16:40+00:00

Honestly dude. It's hard as fuck, but you need to approach girls. If you don't have a cool social circle that goes out regularly to environments with single women, you basically need to push yourself through the ugly rejections of hot women until you become socially savvy around any hot girl(whether she's with her mom, dad, guy friends, girl friends, alone).

benuntu · 2015-10-13T20:02:45+00:00

It's more of a confidence builder to pass on the mediocre. It reinforces your self-worth, rather than lowering it.

Lookin4SomethingReal · Fri Oct 23 22:46:16 2015 UTC

One night my friend chatted up six Buffalo in town for a Bachelorette Party. One of the herd mentioned her friend gives "Great Blowjobs." I grabbed my cattle prod and just took her by the hand to the bathroom. The Buffalo was at least 250lb; so we obviously went to the handicapped stall and I pulled my cock so she began to suck. She literally fell over Humpty Dumpty style and had to roll over to get back up. I texted everyone I knew. It was my moment.

MakingItWorthit · 2015-10-12T22:17:22+00:00

It. Was. Horrible. Not only was she overweight, she didn't take care of herself in other areas

Pounding a pig

I dunno whether I should feel disgusted at the thought of you doing that, or disgusted at the thought that you boosted the ego of one of those thus perpetuating the entitlement problem.

Lord_NShYH · 2015-10-13T03:51:38+00:00

Heavy girls better have great hygiene; still, you have to let these beasts know you're doing them a favor by throwing that dog a bone.

RedBigMan · 2015-10-13T04:48:59+00:00

In hindsight I don't know why I was surprised by this, if one does not put forth the effort to look attractive, there should be no surprise when other shortcomings are overturned.

It's like a health inspection at a food place. If everything looks clean at first glance the inspector will assume everything is clean. If they notice dirt and stuff then they're going to dig and nitpick every little detail and probably get the place in shit maybe even closed if it's bad enough.

Luckyluke23 · 2015-10-13T05:08:32+00:00

work out, eat right, keep up a clean appearance, and work my goals.

this is the only way my friend. I'm seeing this more and more Att the moment in my own life. best thing to do iskeep on truscking man

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T05:18:27+00:00

You went hoggin! It will make for a good story with your close friends.

Hey at least you learned to never settle for something gross. I'd rather stay in a dry spell than harpoon a land whale.

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T05:30:47+00:00

You're doing the right thing to reflect on it.

If you did it just to get your dick wet, well, we've all banged one that we regret banging. Stop rationalizing that it was a confidence thing and accept that you let your hormones overrule your self-interest. Laugh and move on.

If it was really an attempt to boost your confidence, then you need to realize this is a blue pill mindset. The blue pills think that all women have the magic power to bestow confidence on a man with the power of their magic vaj. NO. BAD OP. Good sex is fun, even validating, but even a hookup with Candace Swanepoel won't give you more than a temporary boost if you think that the vaj has that power. Confidence comes from mastery and accomplishment. Good sex is just one of the perqs. Read Jack Donovan's Way of Men. Focus on accomplishing something, mastering a useful skill, and building your confidence on your own abilities rather than on the approval of flaky women (or worse yet, on motivational phrases).

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T06:08:02+00:00

I did this a while ago after drinking and being horny. Lined her up through tinder and had her around hours later. She was bigger than I was expecting.

I felt physically ill for days and had to drink myself to forget for a solid week after.

Never again.

IM_PRETTY_RACIST · 2015-10-13T06:34:16+00:00

Hahahaha, ouch. You'll be alright bud. We've all been there in one form or another. Remember, no broad can 'give' you that self-perspective. You have to develop it for yourself. If you need validation/approval externally, you're already doing it wrong.

Glaadbag · 2015-10-13T07:16:39+00:00

The last time I stooped that low to get laid, my bed literally shattered into splinters beneath us mid coitus.

Don't feel too bad bro. We've all been there once or twice.

michael9314 · 2015-10-13T07:28:20+00:00

Yeah mate, that's what makes people gay. Don't fuck dirty pigs.

4Iex · 2015-10-13T07:36:52+00:00

One man's trash is another man's treasure

Guffbrain · 2015-10-13T07:44:58+00:00

Haha, dude, we've all been there. I still shudder when I think about one Valkyrie I fucked. And it was years ago. Never again.

The one positive I took away from the experience, though (and I'll be the first to admit it's flimsy, but bear with me), is that it actually contributed to my Beta-recovery.

As a younger man listening to the wrong sources I was fed the narrative that sex is some 'favour' women do for men; that every woman is a goddess and her vagina is special and men should be grateful; that the Hollywood romance wuss-journey is the way to get laid. No suprise then that I never got laid.

Contained in that narrative is a woman's next morning regret after having sex with an unattractive guy. "Oh Christ, that was a mistake. He's gross. I guess this is bound to happen eventually when you have options. Lol." [Tells her gal pals about it over brunch and holds up her little finger]. Where is that trope allowed in modern culture for men? It's not. That would be misogyny. But finding myself repulsed by the thought of what I'd banged gave me access to that mindset. The woman can be the horrendous one, not just the man.

So once I got my shit together there were hot women and whales that previously thought they were too good for me eager to spread their legs. I was still in a scarcity mindset so I harpooned a whale and immediately regretted it. But it was empowering to have the though resound in my brain, "No. I'm better than that."

throwaway783487387 · 2015-10-13T08:27:14+00:00

Ah, come on, shrug it off. We understand. Did she shat your bed? Or, was that grease from MickeyD?

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T11:26:39+00:00

How fat are we talking about? I never fucked a girl over 35% body fat. The worst I banged was a a HB4, maybe HB5 with 30-35% body fat.

However she was a nice girl. I was 52 days without ejaculating, horny as hell. It actually was good but it didn't increased my confidence so I fully understand what are you feeling. It probably made you feel worse if your ex-GF was hotter.

__ROOSTER__ · 2015-10-13T16:06:26+00:00

there is low and then there is LOW.

mugatucrazypills · 2015-10-13T16:08:09+00:00

it's the ghost of pussy past

never go "full retard" in your search for pussy -1 to -1.5 your normalized SMV max

you're better jerking off in the meantime

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T15:43:59+00:00

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nzgs · 2015-10-13T16:08:20+00:00

I dont know why guys need to fuck fatties for confidence. Just do what females do - go on to online dating or tinder and flirt with matches, then flake em if they're unattractive.

itsbooming · 2015-10-13T03:19:18+00:00

Please describe the experience in detail, if for nothing else but to make sure other men don't follow your initial path. What did she smell like?

DontKnowMargo · 2015-10-12T20:39:23+00:00

Banging fatties is for BP nerds.

Why the hell are you on TRP again?

Betas gonna beta.

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