"I have a boyfriend."

jb_trp · 2017-10-17T20:25:24+00:00

Ahhh... Step by step instructions for 90% of the male population to turn into creeps. Bravo.

As with all things, take this advise with a grain of salt. Know when you're barking up the wrong tree, when a chick isn't interested, and when she actually has a boyfriend and zero interest in fucking you. Communication (both verbal and nonverbal) is subtle, as with the seduction game. If you get zero nonverbal IOIs and she says she has a boyfriend, your time is best spent gaming other women (i.e. don't be "that guy" at the bar... it comes off as creepy and desperate).

Dmva100 · 2017-10-17T21:01:37+00:00

"Oh good, he can make us breakfast in bed."

"That's cool, I'm not looking for a girlfriend."

"Nice when's the wedding?"

"Don't tell me about your problems."

Ignore/A&A. Hold frame. Escalate. Don't text back.

Sir_Distic · 2017-10-18T02:37:03+00:00

I had a girl tell me yesterday right before she gave me her number: "I'm kind of talking to this guy. We're exclusive but he's not my boyfriend." lol. That hamster was spinning. All I said in response was "Give me your number." She did.

"See? I knew you could land a man!" or "I'm not really interested in a 3-some." or anything that shows her you give no shits about her supposed "boyfriend"

I once told a girl, with a sincere head tilt of total concern.... "Really? With your personality?" dead faced concern. Then I smiled. She laughed and smacked my arm, calling me a "jerk" 10 minutes later I had her number. It never went anywhere. But girls don't give out their numbers to guys if they have a boyfriend, unless they are interested in possibly branch swinging.

hodltaco · 2017-10-17T20:25:01+00:00

Never forget...women come from many countries but they all have a common 1st language which is shit test.

0signal0 · 2017-10-17T19:56:20+00:00

It matters if the guy is likely to find out and beat you up or even kill you. Happens here in Colombia all the time.

rahl_r · 2017-10-17T20:40:14+00:00

I've always wondered what the box is like. Whether the ~~cat~~ boyfriend in there is comfortable, or crammed in place. Alive, or dead (in which case, at least they wouldn't mind being squashed).

Aside the obvious title, what I find inspiring (in broader context) is this:

You unwillingness to be "that guy" and assuming you're "bothering" girls is your own insecurity peeking through your ego protection defenses.

See, some guys are so far gone they need to have it spelled to them. Thanks, I guess.

Guthix4Days · 2017-10-18T10:00:40+00:00

Not sure this is the right thing to do.

The whole "I have a boyfriend" thing is an excuse that really means "not interested". The best thing to do is to back off and move on to the next, big deal.

Failure to heed such warnings results in dire consequences (coming off as needy, creepy, desperate etc.) and any attraction that was left will be killed off completely. Abundance mentality is everything.

TunedtoPerfection · 2017-10-17T22:32:57+00:00

You have to evaluate the context of the situation before just barreling through resistance like this.

If you can't even finish your first sentence before your hit with a snappy "boyfriend line" move the fuck on. Does it matter if she really does? She being bitchy I don't got time for that shit.

But if after 30 minutes, while we are on the dance floor, I got a giggle and a bit of playful resistance followed by the "boyfriend line". Don't even acknowledge it, if she actually had a boyfriend who she wasn't looking to cuck she wouldn't even get in this situation

Its always about the subcommunication ,context, and general vibe of the situation. Women live their lives in this maelstrom of emotions, so you have to be aware of the winds swirling around you as your connecting with them.

bkk123 · 2017-10-18T07:46:26+00:00

I honestly don't think it's a shit test with the girls I meet.

It's more of an "absolve me from my personal responsibility for cheating so I can later hamster that you made me do it" kind of thing.

herrrro · 2017-10-18T04:53:16+00:00

Don't worry about those stuck in the blue pill mindset, your still helping those out on the beginnings of their journey

Thanks for the post mate! keep up the good work

rrkilla · 2017-10-18T00:49:30+00:00

"I have a boyfriend" My favorite line: "Yea me too!"

FU-ThatsY · 2017-10-17T21:56:15+00:00

A girl who is attracted to you will hide the fact that she have a boyfriend if she has one. If she lie about having one then you're not attractive enough for her to give you her time.

FirstDitchEffort13 · 2017-10-18T04:12:50+00:00

You sound like a Beta creep. Respect women as equals and realize they don't "owe" you anything, little Beta fish.

slumdog-millionaire · 2017-10-17T20:32:34+00:00

Absolutely, agree with virtually everything you said, go to responses:

Who said I'm interested in you that way.

I have a girlfriend but I'm allowed to talk to strangers

Did he tell you not to talk to any other men?

Great post OP

thesmithofwords · 2017-10-17T21:37:06+00:00

One of the hardest shit tests IMO, because it forces you to cross the point of no return. No more plausible deniability of just chatting or having fun.

You have to double down on your intentions, this shit test especially sucks if the girl is part of your social circle (AKA persisting may negatively impact you). You have to be able to read if its a shit test or if she actually wants to remain faithful which is not easy without practice.

SmashingSenpai · 2017-10-18T10:06:56+00:00

Or maybe you could just leave her alone and realize she's not interested in you.

Euphoricentia · 2017-10-17T21:31:46+00:00

I always reply, " I have a dick"

onemantwo · 2017-10-18T00:33:49+00:00

Met up with a girl on Tinder, grabbed food and she suggested we go see a movie. Drove to movie and we are sitting in the car. We are talking and she says she has a boyfriend. I ignore it and continue on. Eventually I went for a kiss and she had heavy resistance. Tried holding her hand as we were walking to the theater, pulled away. She payed for the tickets btw. During the movie I tried to hold her hand again, pulled away. On the way back to the car I put my shoulder around her and she pulled away and almost UBER'd home.

Later that week we were texting and she """accidentally""" sent me a pic of her BF and her.

Anyways we still ended up meeting up again, grabbed food, then she bought me Boba tea and we played cards.

I then asked her if she wanted to watch X and she said okay. Day of she asks me where are we watching the movie at and I told her my place. Which she said I can't come over then. Told her it's just a movie and she still wouldn't budge.

Haven't texted her since. Should I just move on? lol

RedPillgrim · 2017-10-17T21:44:04+00:00

i have never gotten the "i have a boyfriend". ever. not to say i'm some uber sexy chad (almost) but the girls interested enough to engage with me have never said that. i was flirting with a milf once, and she mentioned her daugh- little girl. if a girl is attracted to you enough she'll do anything to get you on her side.

Title	"I have a boyfriend."
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Date	October 17, 2017 7:39 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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