January 05 - Weekly Improvement & Progress Thread

TRPalexmehr · 2018-01-05T20:25:51+00:00

My entire life, in my relationship with my sister I have been the "sacrificer". I would never buy anything/ask for anything while she would spend hundreds of dollars on makeup and clothes (we grew up pretty poor), I would always get the worst seat at the table, my sister would constantly be asking me to do her "favors" which were really her bossing me around constantly, and on and on with hundreds of small examples like these. I had many fights in the past with my sister, but because I didn't know how to approach these fights she would always outwit me and I could never seem to escape this dynamic. Finally in the last two weeks I have managed to break this dynamic.

One example: last week we had a bunch of family over for the holidays where we got into a disagreement and were trying to work it out. Instead of listening to me, my sister was just trying to order me around as usual which I did not take. She got all pissy and made a scene which I ignored. She brought it up at the end of the night and was saying how I should apologize, and I told her that I would not be apologizing, and she should apologize. Again throws a scene and storms off. Since that incident I basically cut her off and would not really respond to her except for short curt answers.

Three days into this and she hits me with "I'm sorry you got angry" - no actual apology for what she did. Ignore this and continue to ignore her.

Yesterday - full apology, and recognition that she messed up.

In the 20+ years that we've been fighting, I think this is maybe the second time that my sister has apologized to me and recognized she was acting inappropriately.

TRP, I can not say this enough, THANK YOU! No more taking bullshit and getting less than I deserve.

Nutty_Nutts · 2018-01-05T15:10:22+00:00

Going to purchase/invest in a high end computer (2K$) so that I can spend my weekends working on intensive computing hobbies to take advantage of my degree and help with job prospects / independent projects skills. Needed something to do while relaxing after workouts so I can get something done that's not distracting videos. Should cover mental and creative ( and financial) side of hobbies with that. Just gotta keep myself from using it for games instead.

Still keeping up to date with workouts, added another 10 pounds to all workouts so it's accumulating. As well as losses with another 2 pounds over holidays, slower but still keeping pace. Still sore a few days after so that's a good thing.

Getting better with eye contact during a conversation, and noticing the nervousness of my friends while chatting doing so...

trexgomez · 2018-01-05T14:16:04+00:00

I'm improving every single day as I continue to spend 90% of my waking time at academics/gym/side projects. There's this constant flow of growth as I continue to push myself everyday.

I really want to ask one question here. Is it normal to be hated by almost everyone in your social circle? It hasn't bothered me emotionally. I'm pretty much self sufficient in general sense. It's just that I figured that in the long run it's better to have some friends. Of course having enemies is a sign that you're doing good. And I've internalized that all my life.

But really if there's something I need help with, I have nobody. I get to hear the general gossip here and there sometimes. People think I'm arrogant and selfish. And that I don't talk to people just because I think I'm better than everyone else.

Now before you jump on the keyboard telling me how I'm a beta for caring about what others think, I don't. I never have. It's been a week since I've heard the last gossip and it just struck me in the middle of my work today that I will need some help at some point in life. How can I possibly have some folks having my back if anytime I get close to having a folk he develops a disliking for me because I constantly work to get better?

SilverFoxMarine · 2018-01-05T17:24:41+00:00

Today is my 40th birthday. Self reflection has been the theme all day so far, but not in a negative way. Here are my updates for this past week.

Accomplishments:

Lowered alcohol consumption by 75%. Was noticing that the hooks were setting in and decided to stop cold turkey before it became an issue. Only beer & wine during social events for the rest of 2018.
Ran the same Marine Corps physical fitness test I was subjected to back in the late 90's, beat my younger self by 15 points.
Pushed my entire Christmas Bonus towards debt with just a few mouse clicks. Which makes my goal of being debt free 3 months closer than scheduled.

Fails:

Failed to tweak my diet (long overdue) to get past a plateau. My two-pack would probably be a 4-pack by now if I wasn't procrastinating this chore for the past 2 months. I am suspecting it is psychological in nature. Never had a 6 pack in my life and I think subconsciously I am afraid that because I have been on this journey for so long, that I won't know what to do once I accomplish it. Crazy.
Despite obvious sexual IOI's from my stylist, I cannot pull the trigger on asking her out. I have no issues with other women, I think it is because it took a long time to find an awesome stylist, and I don't want to risk losing her in case things go south. lol
Skipped Leg day this week. No good excuse, I just did not feel like it.

Overall, I am happy with how I look and feel right now at 40 years of age. The road never ends though, I will always create new goals to keep me hungry. I know as I get older, the competition in my age range gets lower & lower. I can't help but fucking smile. :)

reddishworm · 2018-01-05T15:38:02+00:00

Ghosted my Oneitis of five years. She cannot hold me long in her weakening grip.

Pascor22 · 2018-01-05T18:40:18+00:00

I am 40. Gym 5 times this week. Lost 2 pounds! body fat = ~13% Reading Models (wow) and Sex God (Am I ever horny...) and the 48 Laws of power (sigh... this one is not my style - I ain't Machiavelli... but it is useful). Divorced my wife 40 days ago. Moving in my new appartment this week-end. I need friends. This is not my home city. I have a great job and been here with the wife more than 7 years. Never made friends here - just did my own shit and worked. I need to find a way to get social. My friends love me but are 2-3 hours away. No spanking the monkey, no porn, but still playing VGs 6-10 hours a week. Started TRP 2 days after leaving my wife and have been working out more and reading TRP books since.

alpha1705 · 2018-01-05T14:52:47+00:00

Started lifting again, after a one month pause (I didn't have much time between school and other projects).

Other than that I want to start reading some non-fiction. I ordered The 48 Laws of Power and The Prince. I think they are really good for the beginning.

FirstNamesMusic · 2018-01-05T15:27:37+00:00

Been going to the gym 6 days a week training.

Kept my workout schedule/easting under control for the holidays and lost weight.

I began putting together and leading a worship team at a top 5 church in the southeast.

Also joined a classical chior in order to expand my musical horizon to more complex technical pieces.

At work crushed another coding project and will soon be working at an international bank on their corporate account website.

Bad:

Have not been sleeping well.

HannibalBacara · 2018-01-05T16:05:47+00:00

Down from the heaviest I’ve ever been at 207 to 192 when I woke up today. So I’ve lost 15 pounds over the course of about 3 weeks. Granted most of that is probably water weight but still.

I wasn’t fat or anything but I had an internship in the fall that paid for lunch everyday and I slacked off really hard with my diet. Just ate junk food for lunch everyday which led to me going from the 180-185 range to ballooning up to 207. Then my poor eating habits just led to other poor choices like not working out as much and just being lazy in general.

I was in really good shape before so me gaining 20 pounds didn’t make me look fat just gave me some love handles which I’ve now mostly burned off. My goal is to get to a lean 165-170 by the summer.

Since New Years I’ve started tracking my weight on an excel spreadsheet so I can make a graph of my progress when I reach my goals.

Overall in the past 3 weeks I’ve not only eaten very healthy and gone to the gym 6 times a week, but I’ve had a lot less screen time and focused much more on my meditation and reading.

All in all, a very good start to the year. But I need to stay dedicated.

MeatySmurfProlapse · 2018-01-05T18:28:30+00:00

Pretty bad week. Fapped three times (which is more than Ive fapped put together in the last month). Injured myself and used that as an excuse to lie in bed eating ice cream. I've done nothing of value this week, am still injured, completely fatigued, and down; I'm usually full of energy and barely eat sugar at all.

However I have organised a modelling shoot for tomorrow which is always useful as a DHV. I have also (finally) worked up the courage to stop talking to some very negative influences in my life, mainly BP friends whom I care very much about. It's difficult pulling away from them but I couldn't justify hanging around them any longer.

ShesLikeOMG · 2018-01-05T20:25:58+00:00

Overall week 8/10

Fitness 10/10

Pause Bench PR. 115kg
Also pretty nice 140kg x 5 reps on Beltless Squat to depth.
Down 2.2kg to 85.8kg in 5 friggin days.
Otherwise just generally good work
Ordered lifting belt, knee warmers and competition shirt.
Signed up for competition

Education -/-

There hasn't really been any work to do so... lazyness

Social 8/10

Dancing and shit w/ 4 HBs. Fun. Felt pretty calm and leading a bit.
Some days I feel very social. Other days not as much.
Met many old friends, hugs and whatever.

Other 6/10

Arranged some stuff for driving license.

Salted_Pretzel · 2018-01-05T17:50:32+00:00

I have been doing well in improving myself everyday. Learning 2 languages, coding, reading more books as well as re-reading older books, drawing and designing. It's tedious and there are times where I don't feel like I'm improving but it's the micro things, the 1% daily increases that add up.

TheSx505 · 2018-01-05T19:07:45+00:00

Workout at least 1:30 hr/ every day, reading 48 laws of power, working to get a raise, beginning to make an app project, mantaining a full productive "Monk state of mind"--- I'm still in need to expand my social circle since i cut all toxic friendships (3/4 in my case)

SumoIsCheating · 2018-01-05T21:51:33+00:00

Focusing more on applying rather than reading so much (theory). Ready to start spring semester.

majorketone · 2018-01-06T03:43:23+00:00

Good:

Picked up playing the guitar. Have practiced everyday since getting it
Reading the 48 laws every night before bed
ignored a former oneitis when she hit me up

Bad:

Lost discipline in my eating and sleeping habits
Have not worked out

gkt3 · 2018-01-05T17:00:52+00:00

Good things: started running, didn't really hold out for more than 10 minutes or so but the feeling of pushing myself as far as i could go was very rewarding. also started lifting at home. the muscle pain feels like a reward. i also took care of business regarding some household items my ex left behind. did loads of fun stuff with friends and family and finished reading The Rational Male.

Bad things: felt invincible on NYE but started feeling miserable the day after. thinking too much about my ex and all the practical stuff i still have to do now she's gone is still a heavy weight on my shoulders. i'm also worrying that my alcohol consumption is getting in the way of me losing weight fast. i already dropped over 30lbs last year but still want to lose another 15-20 as soon as possible.

youngzari · 2018-01-05T17:04:01+00:00

Pros:

I left my job of 9 years (Finance industry) and will be moving into the Insurance industry starting in February. My last job was really toxic as it has become too gynocentric. I had also become to complacent and realized I needed to act now!
Bought a laptop will now be recording music at home saving a ton of money than visiting a recording studio.
Made my list of goals for 2018 (All my 2017 goals were fulfilled. Many thanks to TRP)

Cons:

I sprained my neck last week and have not been able to work out. It's the longest I haven't worked out in almost a year. I realize I need the rest but it's just been a little weird coping. I'm going to begin slowly today.
Mustering out of a small but unusual dry spell. I'll chalk it up based on the weather (-20c/Toronto) and the holidays. Thankfully, I mean, I have my plates but I do enjoy hunting for a new one.
I feel a little disorganized I'm going to use the weekend to plan out my week, clean my place and recenter myself to feel more aligned.

Overall I'm feeling grateful, determined and focused on a new path. Here's to 2018.

prophetoftruth17 · 2018-01-05T19:03:43+00:00

I focused on meditation everyday this week to focus and stay in the present. Trying to change the constant negative thoughts and learn how to get in touch with emotions (as in what they are telling me and what to do about it) and stop having them control my life. Reading alan watts and studying buddhism has changed the way i act and behave. Trp has changed the way i observe others and how i behave with girls. Got laid two night ago for the first time in a while and realized getting laid isnt always the answer to happiness. The whole glass is already broken parable is Really changing the way i see life in its everyday moments. Still got a long way to go but i gotta thank the ppl in the community.

Guerilla713 · 2018-01-05T21:10:52+00:00

I've gone up in quite a few lifts this week. I was mostly doing sets of 8-10 and doing weight I could comfortably lift. Researched bodybuilding.com and other sources and learned how to properly gain muscle mass. Life much heavier weights for 2-7 reps.

For example on dumbbell press, I was doing 60-65 pounds. Then earlier this week I went to 75 and this morning 80 right off the bat. Thought I'd struggle but it was surprisingly very easy for me to lift so I plan on going up to 85-90 sometime next week.

And cool thing this morning was the new muscles and veins I kept seeing as I worked out.

BurnoutRS · 2018-01-05T22:02:00+00:00

Im up to half the volume i was lifting before the accident. Still only half the weight on some of my compounds. Deadlifts skyrocket my blood pressure, same with squats and if I get dizzy in the middle of a big lift, well thats just another wall im gonna push through. Gotta take it easy on my back too.

3 exercises, 4 sets of each 2x a week. I started off with high rep low weight stuff in the beginning. Now im more in the middle, failing in the 8-12 range on most exercises. Throwing in some drop sets and pyramids again. End goal is to be back powerlifting, 6 exercises, 4 sets each, 4 days a week. I also hit a workout two days in a row in two consequtive weeks. Even had one week where i hit the weights 3 times

Gotta love that feeling of regaining old muscle. This is the second time ive had to regain my body after a major life event put me out of commission. In in that glorious stage where you go up 5 pounds on every lift with each workout, and you pack on mass so quick your friends think you're taking steroids. Then again all my friends are pretty BP. Im only 6" 180lbs and about 22% bf. Used to be 210 at around 20% bf.

This time around im not eating refined sugar. Jesus fuckballs what a difference that makes. I packed on way too much fat in my last big bulk. Since cutting out the sugar im pretty much maintaining 180 and trading fat for muscle

Applejuice42 · 2018-01-06T01:17:49+00:00

I bought a wristband made of local lava stones for a girl im dating. Shes into geology and im staying in gran canaria. Wanting to tell her about it, i open my phone. Read a text she sent the night before: "If you're only going to text me when youre horny, dont text me at all. Thank you".

Was really hurt by that comment. Felt betrayed to see her dismiss all the attention and emotional energy i spend on her. Especially having bought that bracelet. Told her "Fuck you too then. Dont worry, i dont mean that in a sexual way."

Connected with a few other girls too, they are wonderful and im starting to get feelings for one in particular. Lifted weights every day and worked on my startup. Its going really well and i even delegated several tasks without feeling guilty.

fortune700K · 2018-01-06T05:40:01+00:00

Went to the gym for the first time this week. Got stuck outside my house in the freezing New york cold for an hour and didnt go for the second time. Shouldve just went. Also ate wayy too much food and masturbated. I'm dissapointed and im also getting scared that im used to dissapointing myself. How do I pick up?

PremixedBox · 2018-01-06T05:55:55+00:00

The Good: Started to run again as a part of my workouts. Ordered a pull-up bar (next week I'll start doing them). Increased the weight on my bench press. Started nofap yet again. Deleted social media from my phone.

The Bad: I haven't been reading any books (which I need to start doing again), I've been waking up too late (which I need to correct ASAP), and I removed some people from my social circle who were negative.

iamanalterror_ · 2018-01-06T12:01:38+00:00

Went back to the gym after another week long break. I've been falling out of the redpill since last year, and now I'm coming back. Late 2015 and all of 2016 were some of the best years of my life due to finding TRP and starting on the journey of self improvement.

Tomorrow I'm going to put my old speakers, TV, old car and car stereo up for sale online. I'm also going to make my lunches for work, and continue the search for a new job and a better place to live.

engincel · 2018-01-06T15:47:43+00:00

Started working out and dieting again, stopped smoking weed and trying to quit nicotine next.

Banished_Monk · 2018-01-06T22:13:19+00:00

Hit the gym the last 5 days, lifting and cardio. Down from 200 to 196 from Dec 31. 3 dates this week, ended up making breakfast for 1.

Having difficulty stopping drinking completely. Worked down to 2 nights of the week. Also having issues with keeping on my diet. I do shift work (LEO) and need to get a meal plan going.

Title	January 05 - Weekly Improvement & Progress Thread
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Date	January 5, 2018 1:11 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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