Last weekend I invited a plate over. She spent the night, and the morning, and though it was already noon she was still determined to stick around. I kept asking her about her plans for the day, and told her she should go do them, and still here she was. Well, at some point I had enough, and told her plainly that she should go. She became upset that I'm kicking her out, and went away with an insulted air.

Now, deep down I'm a nice guy. I felt bad for a few minutes, and considered apologizing, or just sending her a nice message, but I didn't. Because here's the thing: She may have been offended, or she may have been pretending. But if I sent her a message, I would never know. I would be playing into her story, into her frame, and in her story she is offended, regardless of reality. And who knows how far she would play that game, and I would have a string of shit-tests to pass. Of course, I risked losing her as a plate.. Good thing I have others spinning!

Late at night, when she was certain I'm not going to say anything, she sent me a message, apologizing for her behavior. I didn't even read it, I was too busy having fun. In the morning after, she sent another text asking if I'm upset. This is the same girl who yesterday left my place acting like I'm an asshole, refusing to even say a proper goodbye.

So guys, keep your frame. Don't fall into silly mind-games. Women desperately want you to validate them, but they will respect you much more if you don't.