Hey everyone. Just wanted to submit my first (proper) field report after lurking for a long time. Before I get into the report, I want to go into my Tinder game. I have been on Tinder for a few months and never had any intentions of meeting the girls I matched with. I wanted to experiment with what lines worked, how conversations should go, etc. After these months I came to the conclusion that at my age bracket [college student, 18-22?], going for the number close ASAP does not cut it. You can't show your intentions to fuck through text messaging, because this will make the girl feel like a slut. I don't want to call it my "go-to lines", but I found what gets the conversation flowing, while showing interest and flirting without coming off as too creepy (it works for me at least, of course everyone has their own methods). I will list all my red pill observations from this date at the bottom.
The FR
After chatting/flirting a bit on Tinder, I found the perfect opportunity for the number close. Lets call her Rachel. These were the exact messages:
R: GET WIth the proGRAM
Me: Is your phone ok whats with the capitals
R: It was supposed to be me screaming at you
Me: No, you should get your phone checked
Me: Text this toll free number (my #) for a free consultation and diagnosis
R: Smooth
R: (Her #)
Texted back and forth Wednesday night, throughout Thursday, and scheduled for the movies Friday (today). I know the rule is to text for logistics only, but I feel as if it doesn't work as well at my age. We talked about random things like tattoos, sex, and education to name a few.
We met up and immediately I started kino by wrapping my arms around her. I knew from the texts she was already into me, and I didn't need to look for any signs to start this at all. She held onto throughout the day, and we headed to the movies. I paid for the tickets, she paid for popcorn and drinks. Things were a bit slow in the beginning, us eating our popcorn and me trying to really get into the movie (Black Panther! It was awesome. She had already watched it but I just made her watch it again). After about 20 minutes she just grabbed my arm, so I put my arm around her and she laid on my shoulder. Another 10 minutes past and she puts my hand on her tits. I'll save the erotic story for some other time, but after playing around a bit I ended up fingerbanging her, and she gave me a HJ in the movies. After the movie was over, she asked if my parents were home (they were) and I asked her if her's were (they were). We got lunch (I paid for mine, she paid for hers), walked around a bit, and went home.
My red pill observations
ABUNDANCE MENTALITY. I feel this is really important. The truth is, I do not have plates I am spinning nor girls I am "talking" to, however she kept telling me to stop talking to my hoes often when I went on my phone. I made it a point in my head to not reveal that I actually didn't, and kept playing along as if I had. I guess it helped that (not trying to sound too cocky) I am fairly handsome and confident in my looks. She wanted my attention on her and not my phone (I was actually texting my friend about a lab report, go figure).
VALIDATION THROUGH TEXT. DO NOT DO THIS. You matched with a girl on Tinder, that should be enough validation for her. Anymore and you risk coming off like a white knight. She sent me a picture of her body, and I casually just asked why she was covering her face. She started probing me about if she was "thicc" enough to which I did not directly answer.
R: Oh so I'm not good enough for you
Me: What led you to that conclusion?
R: Cause you not gassing me up like these other guys.
Don't be like those other guys.
SHIT TESTS
To be honest I can not remember any of them except one (maybe because she didn't send them, or maybe I was unconsciously just passing them? I don't know). While at the movies, we were talking about something (don't remember what) when she leaned in and said something like "just like your small dick". I just ignored it and kept watching because honestly I did not want to agree and amplify. My dick has always been my biggest insecurity and I still am trying to find ways I can learn to cope with it. Anyway, I chose not to agree and amp. because I felt that if I did, it would come off as self-loathing and beta because I would not be able to pull off the A&A with enough finesse. Still got a HJ and afterwards she wanted to come over, so I guess fuck it.
Room for improvement
I was not taking charge of the insert erotic story at the movies. I did not want to cross any boundaries without her "consent". Only took action when she would literally guide my hand (she put my hand on her pussy for me). She kept trying to touch my dick by putting her hand really close and I didn't have the balls to just put it there for her, but I guess this leads back to my dick insecurity. But in the end IDGAF and just put her hands in my pants.
Thats my FR guys. Please, all criticism is welcome. Not sure if my username is familiar but I once posted an FR about a year (?) ago about some really weak pussy shit (Not breaking eye contact with a girl!). The journey never ends, and its a very long road. Still really need to get over my dick insecurity, it has to be the thing that has hindered me the most with women.
Might put a TLDR later, but not now, I'd appreciate if everyone read through this all.
This is the end. Best of luck to everyone.
edit: formatting
Edit: A lot of people mentioned I should have gone to bar, fucked her in the car. I'm 19 living in NYC, there is almost no point having a car in this city. I agree I could have taken her to the bathroom but the movie had just ended and it was packed. Airbnb is about 100 and thats the cheapest, I'm not willing to spend that on some poon.
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