(originally posted on April 15, 2014 over here )

NO CONTACT GAME

This intelligent, funny, workout-grunt bartender friend of mine says to me, “you look like a real sad-sack….”, as I am sitting at the bar with pint in hand, slumped over the stool, leaning on my elbows, head resting in hand, he continues, “…absolutely miserable bud.”

I had just been sent a text message detailing, in length, why I could not see her anymore. I didn’t bother to finish reading it or go back a hundred times to re-read it to see if maybe I missed something. It’s the same old story. Can you be dumped from a relationship that was really just sex and weed and some chit chat? Sure as shit you can. A beta male can.

Another pint poured.

“D, I got something for you to do.” my bartender friend says. He feeds out some blank paper from the chit machine, rips it out and begins to write on it. “What are you writing Grib?” I asked.

“This is called a thirty day no-contact something or other (I cannot remember).” he said.

This is what he wrote:

  • 30 days N/C no contact
  • go on 2 dates.
  • cook one nice meal for yourself every week.
  • go buy new clothes.
  • get a hair cut.
  • get a new hobby.
  • Questions to ask yourself/things to do:
  • Why do you want her back?
  • What would you do that would be different?
  • What reason did she give you?
  • What is the reason YOU think this happened?
  • Why do you feel the way you do?
  • Forgive her, forgive yourself.
  • Write a list of positive things about yourself.

Being honest with these answers will only help you. Remember you are the only person that will read this.

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So I did all of that, minus the dates (I know I know, I am working on that).

Guess what happened. On day thirty, while I was waiting in line at the grocery store, post work-out, I got a text message. You know what that message said, it said, “Hey.”

And do you know who that was from? You’re damn right, the girl that exactly one month ago gave me a plethora of reasons not to see me anymore. I banged her for several months after, then the blue pill-relationship-behaviours came flying in and high-jacked my frame again and all hell broke loose. That is another story.

I don’t know if the next girl I use my N/C (no contact) game on will go as well or take as long but what I do know now is that it WORKS. And after reading some manosphere articles I think I may know why.

Before you betas find yourself in a situation where YOU might get next-ed, don’t do what I did and wait, pull the gun out of the holster and do it before she does. You never know, you might get a “Hey” one month from now. -dcl

(NOTE this is a glimpse at who is was nine months ago. Of course, I no longer communicate with her)