No Woman is Ever "Single"

AnonTheGreat01 · 2025-08-04T16:59:08+00:00

Really depends on the specific woman in question, but you're mostly right.

Girls who score high on big 5 traits extraversion & openness (and lower on agreeableness and conscientiousness) are likely to also score high on sociosexuality (willingness to engage in sexual activity outside of a committed relationship.)

There are absolutely girls who are afraid to meet men/go out and go work>gym>home>sleep repeat.

But most girls you'll encounter dating are fucking around with attractive/fun guys. And just hope/wait for one to stick around.

Realistically speaking, the only thing you can do is maximize your own value and also fuck around and have fun. When you meet a girl that is high quality enough and also very much into you, committing becomes an option.

And yes, if you want to date attractive women, it's competitive as fuck. That's why having a highly attractive partner as a man is a status symbol. Most guys can't get one because it's competitive as fuck. The same goes for $$.

StrongAd9651 · 2025-08-04T14:49:31+00:00

I believe it’s important to not pursue or waste your time and effort on a woman with less than 100% interest level and desire. NEVER settle.

louielouie222 · 2025-08-04T18:22:44+00:00

I think this is almost correct. Was thinking something similar the other day: A woman's 'singleness' has little to do with her interest in you. Whether or not she's 'single', an attractive woman is going to have simps, orbiters, fuckbois dm'ing her, etc. Even if she's 'single', doesn't mean she's 'looking', because she can just open her phone and have a choice dick inside her in like under 2 hrs (in nyc). And if she's not 'single', she's always ready to leap to a better option. Only exception, I think (I hope), is if she's married.

Last year I was sitting at a bar in NYC, just me, and a couple seats over, 2 ~28 yr old blond girls and an older monied guy travelling (mayb 45 yrs old). They just met and were chatting, and he eventually asks them to come out the next night....They first say, oh "we both have boyfriends, but like we'll definitely try and come"...."we don't really believe in exclusivity, until we're married". I kid you not. Some of these women (far from all, of course) are just getting ran-through like never before, even when they "have boyfriends".

VasiliyZaitzev · 2025-08-04T18:55:11+00:00

Guys interested in this topic will benefit from Schrödinger’s Girlfriend - “Girls are never single, girls are never in relationships.”

PlusGoody · 2025-08-04T22:55:07+00:00

This has pretty much always been true, even before social media and online dating. Attractive women have options and many attractive women are literally never “single” from the age of 15 on.

jjj2576 · 2025-08-04T14:42:50+00:00

I haven’t look at your shit before, but I dig the gold here. In an Hypergamous AWALT world, women are always receiving attention from someone, somewhere.

OP— what has you reflecting on this?

warrior_up · 2025-08-04T20:44:13+00:00

I think the most impactful and important take away from this, is that abundance equates to higher than normal sexual partners as well. How headcount impacts the female psyche, and its toll on long-term relationships and divorce rates

Scary shit if you ask me

yomo85 · 2025-08-05T08:04:16+00:00

Take it from eugenics. For every woman who successfully bore a child, 17 (yes, seventeen) men were unsuccessful. But 17 lives who have no vested interest in society won't contribute, and just after roughly 40.000 years of modern human existence, we are moving back to square one.

hitlicks4aliving · 2025-08-05T04:56:42+00:00

Yea man I’m constantly reminded of their version of single in very tragic ways I feel bad for the guy. If they’re bold they’ll even use their guy as a joke hitting on you, after you pass it as a shit test of course. The devious grin gives it away it’s like “let’s throw this at him see if he loses frame”. They’re always single in most cases just worried to lose face publicly so if you keep your mouth shut and can still sleep at night somehow you’re good. Just so you know this is how most serious rivalries start out, so better to just avoid it unless you plan on bouncing and going somewhere soon or you might wake up with some bullet holes. If the guy is super bluepill minded and saw the girl as his life purpose he will take it personally and want to harm you whereas someone like us would just see the girl as defective and salute the guy for saving us money and grief.

ForeignAd3910 · 2025-08-04T17:31:20+00:00

It's been so much easier for me to just not even try. I'm that guy you mentioned spending months watching Netflix and porn

mr_sandmam · 2025-08-04T18:32:31+00:00

Yeah, and the means she has to get that attention are ever expansive and accesible. That's why the competition has gotten so brutal. I find that as a man your two best strats are to go all in or not at all, because any half ass effort will be trumped by a more dedicated man.

mcmonzi · 2025-08-04T21:43:27+00:00

Do you think it’s as much about as a women’s need for validation that causes this? Or because men tend to hit on women more than women hit on men?

Duc_de_Magenta · 2025-08-04T21:27:11+00:00

I once had a female coworker who was beyond excited to be finally be "single" after a 10yr relationship.

Turns out "single" to her meant dating multiple men & women at the same time... Completely different from the male experience of "monk mode" - and people wonder why many attractive women lack all forms of introspection or personality independent of their current paramour.

MrSaveYourLife · 2025-08-04T19:42:19+00:00

A red pill that many guys find hard to swallow is that whenever you bag a woman you are taking her from someone else. You are winning a competition, even if you don't realize it.

Sounds a lot like money 🤔

Gandalf32 · 2025-08-04T19:47:27+00:00

Well written, and very true to boot.

Budget_Revolutionary · 2025-08-04T23:27:56+00:00

This is the greatest ever post on this subreddit

Lev-- · 2025-08-06T05:35:23+00:00

Yeah but why the fuck does this matter?

The problem with modern women isn't the fact that she is talking to other guys or has other dudes in orbit it's the fact that after you start going out on dates and are dating her she continues to humor these guys well into your relationship

That's the issue women are having they can't put that attention down and focus on themselves or the relationship and what ends up happening is they spend time entertaining both you and the other guys they were talking to and they break down because they don't have time for anything else

CompetitiveBoss2383 · 2025-11-12T19:46:55+00:00

While I was always aware of this and have taken the interest of many girls in relatio ships its really interesting to see it written out in words.

ozneoknarf · 2025-08-04T18:13:06+00:00

I kind of disagree, I think you pushed the meaning of what truly single means a bit too much. Sure no single attractive woman will spend more than a month in life with out being hit on but thats a non statement on her personality or how she treets relationships. If she isnt engaging back she is absolutely single. And there are plenty of girls, especially those who work and study that completely remove them selves from the dating world. My current girlfriend is like this. I know this for sure because her best friend was the one giving her life trying to get her out there in the dating world.

alwaysvulture · 2025-08-06T13:48:50+00:00

Yeah my missus always has guys hitting on her. Personally I just find it a massive ego boost cause I’m the one who won her and bagged her for myself, you know.

Skorzeny_ · 2025-08-08T00:09:48+00:00

as a teen in HS I noticed this too. And more: most good looking and interesting women are in relationships. They get hit by every single dude in sight when they're single and for them we're all the same. Unless you're a white fly, the guy she got is already good enough. Thinking women should be waiting to find *you* is ludicrous.

And they all have the gene for "mating with fun dude, raising family with stable dude", which is a main point in RP since the beginning.

NeighborhoodSweet132 · 2025-08-21T23:52:58+00:00

Simply not true. I'm considered attractive and get approached a lot, less now because I'm becoming a furniture lol. I haven't had sex in 7 years due to religious reasons. I have 0 contact with the opposite sex, even my female friends I only talk to once a month or less because I'm working lots

DapperAd3569 · 2025-09-04T17:23:25+00:00

bro spitting real truth

CompetitiveBoss2383 · 2025-11-12T19:46:59+00:00

While I was always aware of this and have taken the interest of many girls in relatio ships its really interesting to see it written out in words.

eat_ass_all_day_errd · 2026-02-07T22:39:47+00:00

This is the kind of quality post we love.

eat_ass_all_day_errd · 2026-02-07T22:41:14+00:00

This is the kind of quality post we love.

tropicsGold · 2025-08-10T13:59:25+00:00

I would have agreed with OP when I was younger, because most of the girls you see in the “dating scene” are above average in looks and more extroverted and they easy can and do go to man to man

However now as an older man, I see a very large chunk of the female population (daughters, workers, ordinary girls) who are like 4-6 average looks, introverted, and they are absolutely starved for good men, and they aren’t going from man to man at all. Most have had like one ex who ended up being a total asshole and loser, and a significant number are virgins.

Any guys out there who want a good girl, just do the following: develop character so you are a basically honest, sincere, loving person, and have at least a little ambition. You don’t even need success or money, just AMBITION to do something with your life. Trust me the bar is REALLY LOW.

From my viewpoint above the fray, it seems like the vast majority of young men who are not in good relationships are total losers. Zero ambition. Weak, flabby, no social skills, they spend the vast bulk of their time playing video games, getting high, and just wasting their lives.

If you just start doing the basics, and start putting in work to be a good partner and successful, you will have plenty of women who would be thrilled to meet you. But women tend to be far more shy, so you will have to learn to find and approach them. But deep down they are really eager to meet such a man.

Title	No Woman is Ever "Single"
Author	SalporinRP
Upvotes	546
Comments	84
Date	August 4, 2025 2:23 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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