Look at my post history, you can see myself asking for advice on this situation these past few weeks. This whole thing is embarrassing due to the obvious redflags I should've taken seriously, and I expect to receive backlash from everyone here, but hopefully some of y'all can learn from my mistakes.
To start off, let me tell you about myself and give you context. I'm 21, college graduate, 60k a year, 5 years of lifting, and a solid social life. I'm not bragging that girls fall into my lap at whim, but I'm definitely sought after by some. Onto the story.
In December-January I started seeing this girl, strictly FWB-nothing more. 22 [F] great set of tits and ass, physically pleasing to look at but the mentality of a preteen. She smokes, abuses amphetamines, gambling/credit problems (ran up 20k on her parents credit card at a casino and used to steal from her ex-boyfriend), born again lesbian 8 months prior, etc. Red flags everywhere, but I paid no mind. We started having sex 2-3 times a week, using a condom, but eventually me being immature and having an invincibility mentality, took her word for being on BC and started going inside her. I started to get serious with my now girlfriend and cut contact around January.
In February, she texts me out of the blue and tells me shes pregnant. I was not about to put my future on hold for an illegitimate child and abortion was the only option- she agreed. We met up and I gave her $450 in cash due to her losing her job (cringe at myself for doing this), couldn't go with her due to work, few weeks later she tells me its done, cut contact again. I continued my life as normal without a single thought about the situation until May.
I was on my way to the gym when she texted me saying that she never went through with the abortion. I immediately told her to meet me. We meet and she gives me the go around. Shes 22 weeks pregnant, never went through with the abortion, showed me ultrasounds of the boy, told me I didn't have to be involved, oh and shes had a boyfriend since March. I immediately told her I want a paternity test. She kept saying its mine and to wait until its born due to it being less expensive than the non-invasive paternity test ($1600)...When the fuck did she care about my finances when she obviously doesn't care about others?
Leading up the Paternity test, she tried to bait me into changing my mind about waiting to get it. I almost fell for it if it weren't for my mother, reddit, and my guy friends. She tried to plant the seed of doubt by saying that her parents are happy to meet me, her whole church knows I'm the father, telling me the boy is going to have my last name, she wasn't going to pursue child support, etc. Real sweet icing on the cake to change my mind. On the day of the paternity test, she tells me she probably wouldn't be able to leave work because the animal shelter is short staffed, called her bullshit and replied saying I'm on my way to the shelter to pick her up. She said she'd meet me instead. We get to the clinic, they drew her blood, swabbed my mouth. Afterwards she went onto saying I just wasted my money, etc. I didn't care.
Samples mailed Saturday, Samples received Monday morning, email saying the samples are in and it should be 7-10 days for the results to be available online. Tuesday afternoon, the samples were completed, results were in. 0% chance of paternity, excluded of being the father.
I called her father right after telling him everything from the boyfriend they didn't know about to her taking my money for the abortion and lying. He apologized and told me she will pay me back. Texted her the picture of the results, said I just got off the phone with her father so don't try swaying the story, and told her good luck raising that bastard. Blocked her number.
Obvious redflags that any redpilled man with common sense should've saw from the get go but I was immature and had a "nothing bad can happen to me" complex going on. It was truly an expensive, humbling life lesson. Don't shy away from any red flags, don't believe them when they tell you they are on birth control, wear a fucking condom, and get a paternity test if they try to pin you. If you're in your 20's, graduating college, and starting your career -females who don't have a damn thing going for them will see you as a financial target and try to trap you. Be fucking vigilant, learn from me, because my life was almost ruined for the next 18+ years.
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