One of my plates put up LMR every other time we had sex. “I don’t want to have sex tonight/I’m on my period” etc. I would always smile relax, and get ready for sleep. She would immediately jump on top of me and ask me why I was going to sleep before taking my clothes off. The ease with which this happened eventually triggered a huge shit test from her, about 6 weeks into the relationship. It’s probably the biggest shit test I ever passed.

Her: “Sorry we’re not having sex tonight”
Me: “Sex is not a big deal”
Her palms get sweaty and after a while she starts rambling but basically is hinting that she’s afraid I’m one of those guys that will never be exclusive. She states "I feel like you're sleeping with other girls because you don't care about sex"

Me: "ok goodnight" (this often works btw. you don't profess your love for polyamoury, becky's tits, etc when a girl starts a relationship conversation. It bores you. you listen stare blankly and change the subject. It's beta bait just ignore it as a go-to unless she presses)

In my mind she doesn't ever explicitly ask a question so I don't answer any.

Her: "You didn't really answer my question."

Me: "Ok then, what are you asking me really?"

Her: "Are you sleeping with other girls?"

This is where I hold my cards close to my chest but do my best to speak genuinely and truthfully. When a girl is explicitly asking, I want to be honest. If it ever does go towards the LTR route, I don't want it to be an LTR where I feel the need to lie to them to appease them.

Me: Short pause- "Yeah I'm seeing other people, aren't you?" - pressure flip

Her: "Well I kinda stopped..."

Me: "Commitment is a really big deal for me. It takes me a long time to trust someone, and it takes many months, sometimes 5 or 6 or even more before I enter into something serious with someone."

She pretty much agreed, visibly relaxed and started cuddling with me.

Her: "I was so worried you would lie to me. I'm really glad you didn't just don't give me any STDs"

We had sex twice that night and once in the morning. This is an example of a girl agreeing to be non-exclusive, after she explicitly opens the discussion. I spun her for about 2 more months after that night. The LMR before sex would pop up once in a while- so much shit testing from her. One night she was on her period and after a half hearted handjob she said "I'm sorry I can't do more for you." I am okay with getting a little messy - made her cum twice with my fingers and even had some bloody period sex. Because of her looks I was hoping this girl would step up to the challenge and show consistent good behavior for the possibility of a long term relationship, and it looks very unlikely. That night I decided to soft next, and faded it out. I'm so glad I did - I am focused on interactions that lead to experiences that reinforce the frame I want. Hanging on to uninterested girls leads to bad habits.