Purple Piller grows a pair, confronts his cheating wife, and plans to divorce her

sandboarding · 2013-08-24T03:31:02+00:00

Oh shit, I don't want to lead this guy on, better suck his dick.

Fucking hilarious.

thebears1986 · 2013-08-24T03:43:23+00:00

I have also gotten a call from my mother in law reiterating that our son need’s a father and that people make mistakes.

vs.

My dad said he can recommend me a good lawyer to help with the divorce and paternity issues.

Oh man, such a hard decision. Whose advice to take?

the_letter_P · 2013-08-24T03:57:08+00:00

I think his pill might start turning a bit more of a shade of red :)

But this is pretty standard fare. A Woman cheating and lying. The little nail in the coffin of the fact she doesn't blow him...her husband and then goes and blows a random guy. Never let your wife go on holiday unattended. I have had sex with more women than I can count on vacations, and I can bet a good handful of them had partners back home.

I have been in the same situation with my first major relationship. I too had to play a similar "mind game" to get the truth out. A woman will be a lot better at lying to your face than you think. If you ask her directly you will not get the answer. Unfortunately I have seen a lot of guys do the whole "I looked her dead in the eyes and asked her, and she said NO...and I trust her". This just doesn't work.

When I found out my one, I used a similar tactic. You have to give the impression that you know more than you actually do. Then the woman is caught in a conundrum of either saying that they did a little bit more (and risking you knowing even more than that and being caught red handed as a liar) or otherwise just going all out and telling the truth. So in my case, I told her "your brother told me everything" (when in reality he didn't).

I swear with these women you have to have the cunning of a police interrogator. But always assume she did cheat, and let her think that you know. That way if she did cheat, she is going to tell the truth and hope that her coming forward will be shown as a sign of honesty to save things or otherwise she will fight tooth and nail that she didn't do anything, in which case she may not have been cheating. Alternatively she may still have cheated in which case either keep probing, or go away and rethink a strategy.

Another strategy which may have worked in this case is talk to the friend of hers and said something like "She told me everything...How could you let her do that?". If the friend starts apologising profusely it means she did something, otherwise if she seems confused, it may mean she didn't.

Its a shame we have to use such Machiavellian tactics these days, but its the best way I know of to keep your house in order.

ekjohnson9 · 2013-08-24T03:32:52+00:00

I was in the original thread. Lots of shaming language. Hamsters gonna hamst

Hormander · 2013-08-24T04:32:52+00:00

What really hurt was that she never blew me because she said that if she did that then I would lose respect for her, and then she blows another dude because he bought her drinks.

Sounds familiar, huh?

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-08-24T05:26:25+00:00

If he wants to be a good father, then he needs to show his son not to be a pathetic little bitch.

It's disgusting they are trying shame HIM for standing up for himself using the child as a pawn.

You don't raise a child to NOT have boundaries. That child becomes what he sees in you, not what you tell him. If you want to be a good father, you need to set the good example.

If you want to be a good mother, then don't be a lying whore.

OppsItHappened · 2013-08-24T04:03:24+00:00

Fingers crossed that he's not the father. It sucks enough to be in a relationship and be cheated on... but if he's the dad... yikes.

Good on him for dropping her ass though. And, just to brag a little -- called it in the last thread. If you have to ask, something happened. 9 times out of 10.

RedBigMan · 2013-08-24T03:50:17+00:00

This guy just got his balls back. Welcome to the Man Club.

roe_ · 2013-08-24T05:13:57+00:00

Classic example of "trickle truth."

n0c0ntr0l · 2013-08-24T09:07:19+00:00

We fucking called it.

I want to be happy, but there is another guuy who's life has now been dashed!

EDIT: Actually the more I read the previous thread with all the white knights the more I feel fucking angry.

DasWood · 2013-08-24T07:06:39+00:00

I just stared deep into her eyes and said, “Oh so while they were messing around and you were drunk you were just watching T.V.?” It became obvious that she was lying and it wasn’t long before she says, “Look ____ and ____ are the slutty ones I didn’t do anything.” I tell her, “Oh it’s just that I got the phone off with __________ (her friend) and she said you did a bit more than watch T.V.” All of a sudden she starts crying hysterically. She starts pleading with me that she didn’t have sex with the guy that she just blew him because she felt bad that he bought her drinks and didn’t want to just lead him on.

1st she lies, says a small get together. Then when confronted admits she was partying. Then when confronted admits went to a hotel. Then when confronted admits giving head and puts on a huge show.

Who wants to bet she and her slut friends were taking turns barebacking guys every night they were out and that if confronted with the truth she would admit to letting a stranger knock her up?

EDIT: Lesson is, don't marry sluts or women who consort with sluts.

fullpowerattack · 2013-08-24T04:05:38+00:00

This story makes me laugh, but it also makes me wonder: What stage of TRP am I in now?

When I first stated, these stories made me cringe when I saw similarities between the OP and myself.

Now they make me laugh, specifically at how ineptly he handled the situation (although I still feel bad for him). He let his wife go to fucking MIAMI with slutty girls. Did he think she was just going to hold their hair when they were puking?

IllimitableMan · 2013-08-24T10:06:32+00:00

it's amusing how stuff like this doesn't get cross posted on /r/thebluepill

30303030303030 · 2013-08-24T15:17:25+00:00

this is what happens on "girl only trips"

And she fucked him/them. Women always sell the most tame version of what happened that's possible.

He is lucky she broke. Most women would lie to the end, unless shown the hard proof. She must've assumed friend of a friend told how it was.

That's also a reminder, if your girl, or any girl, is friends with sluts, that's not because she stands out.

watersign · 2013-08-24T04:06:44+00:00

i read the original post last night, cant believe how much hamstering / beta attitudes were there.

2013-08-24T07:19:26+00:00

Feels bad On top of that I come to find out she is spending the night at one of her guy friends house.

Beating a dead horse. At least he found out before he signed the birth certificate.

iggybdawg · 2013-08-24T17:44:01+00:00

Oh poor woman, blowing your husband won't make him lose respect for you, blowing another man will.

sniperhiding · 2013-08-24T18:10:14+00:00

Goes to show that MWALT (most women are like that). Yeah, sure there might be some outliers, but most women will either cheat (the wife), or they are the friends who know but refuse to hold her accountable. Beyond her two single friends, I GUARANTEE you that girls gossip and it got around to other girls. I bet at least 20 people knew the real details a month after the trip, LONG before hubby ever found out.

And since the husband is probably NOT high value (because if he was high value, other girls would get jealous and rat her out), they "kept the girl code".

Notice her friends pretty much had a choice:

Choose to stick up for the wife's social status (deny she's a slut), even though the foundation of the marriage (fidelity, child should be fathered by the husband) was ruined from the near start... defend hypergamy even if they were not the actual cheaters...probably attack and shame the man...spread false rumors about him....

or

Choose to let the father know what he needed to know, and be willing to hold the wife accountable for her actions....refuse to let her ruin her family.

Gee, I wonder which choice most female friends take? The cheating wife and the friends are all hypergamous.

Just like this blog post says...

Girls will lie most often to protect their of their friend’s social status.

jolly--roger · 2013-08-24T03:40:16+00:00

I put my hands together in a clapping motion!

For those with a shorter memory, it's the same guy as in http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1kwxa0/blue_piller_in_raskmen_is_worried_that_his_wife/

RedBigMan · 2013-08-24T13:18:06+00:00

Let's not make purple a thing. Either your eyes are open, or they're slammed closed, It you have the pill in your mouth.

thrownaway_MGTOW · 2013-08-24T19:29:27+00:00

TL-DR Suspicions were right she did cheat on me (blew another guy supposedly) I tell her I am getting a divorce. She pleads with me to get back together I ignore. She is at friend’s house I am lonely and sad.

What a sad naive fool.

She didn't only "blow" one other guy (and there was no "supposedly" about it); that was just the limited extent she confessed to when pressed.

If he had kept digging he would have found out what she REALLY did... which was probably more along the lines of blowing AND fucking a series of guys on successive nights, including one time where a couple of Cuban-dudes* they met on the beach "spit roasted & probed" her, then the dudes swapped ends and did her all over again... while she was both drunk on booze AND high on the E they tossed her.

It was a fun trip!

EDIT: Also...

Feels bad On top of that I come to find out she is spending the night at one of her guy friends house.

LOL. She's already got the next one lined up and is laying the groundwork for her next slave (probably been giving HIM BJ's as well...)

* EDIT2: Nothing against Cubans, but seriously she went "down" in Miami. If she and her slutty friends had gone off to Iceland to get her knocked up (which was the purpose of the trip) then the kid would be blond-haired, blue-eyed, and be into weird music when he grew up; but she went to Miami, so...

Nutz76 · 2013-08-24T16:31:36+00:00

Damn, beat me to it. I just saw the update that she admitted to cheating. Right now she's only admitting to giving the guy a blowjob. Hellooooo Trickle Truth.

Here's the OP with the updates in case it gets deleted.

Link to original

Update

I talked to a friend of mine who is good friends with one of my wife’s single friends and voiced to him my concerns. He said he is more than willing to help me figure out exactly what happened in Miami so he offered to talk to my wife’s single friend. After about 30 minutes he calls me back and told me that supposedly they went to a big house party and the next day went clubbing with the guys they met at the house party. I asked my friends for details on what exactly my wife did but he said that my wife’s friend was very vague when it came to specifics.

I muster up all the courage I have and I confront my wife about what happened in Miami. She said, “Oh we just went to a small get together and then went to the beach.” I looked her dead in the eye and said, “So you guys didn’t do any partying in Miami?” She then amends her statement and says, “She went to a party with her friends the first day and that her friends brought two guys to their hotel room but I didn’t do anything.” I asked her, what exactly did she do, and she said, “Oh I didn’t sleep in the bed while they were doing anything I just watched T.V.”

I just stared deep into her eyes and said, “Oh so while they were messing around and you were drunk you were just watching T.V.?” It became obvious that she was lying and it wasn’t long before she says, “Look ____ and ____ are the slutty ones I didn’t do anything.” I tell her, “Oh it’s just that I got the phone off with __________ (her friend) and she said you did a bit more than watch T.V.” All of a sudden she starts crying hysterically. She starts pleading with me that she didn’t have sex with the guy that she just blew him because she felt bad that he bought her drinks and didn’t want to just lead him on. I tell her that it is perfectly fine and she doesn’t have to lead him on anymore because she is newly single. She starts mentioning our son that I would be a terrible father if I left him for something so small. I don’t respond to her cries, I get my car keys and go out for a drive.

I return home about an hour ago, I think my wife head off to spend the night at her friend’s house. I have called my parents and told them what happened they said they want to come over to check up on me. I have also gotten a call from my mother in law reiterating that our son need’s a father and that people make mistakes. My dad said he can recommend me a good lawyer to help with the divorce and paternity issues.

As for now I am not sure how I am ever going to get into a serious relationship with another girl; my trust issues and insecurity are through the roof now. After talking to my mom and dad I feel much better but I am still pretty lonely. Thank you guys for listening to my story just feels really good getting this off my chest. If you guys have any advice for me as of now please share thanks.

TL-DR Suspicions were right she did cheat on me (blew another guy supposedly) I tell her I am getting a divorce. She pleads with me to get back together I ignore. She is at friend’s house I am lonely and sad.

Edit 1 What really hurt was that she never blew me because she said that if she did that then I would lose respect for her, and then she blows another dude because he bought her drinks. Feels bad On top of that I come to find out she is spending the night at one of her guy friends house. (After I ignored calls from her cellphone she called through his landline). Another thing I really hope I am not the father of this child, I can't imagine having to deal with her every time I go to pick or drop him off.

elpezadent · 2013-08-25T02:17:54+00:00

The wife is a slut and he has earned his freedom even though it was the result of something pretty horrible. Hopeful he gets his stuff together and never makes the mistake of getting married again. That and I hope child support payments don't kill him.

mechakingghidorah · 2013-08-25T03:05:08+00:00

This guy was lucky, he almost ended up being a literal example of alpha fucks,beta bucks.

frazzleddd · 2013-08-29T20:05:22+00:00

Shit like this actually makes me sick. I don't plan on marrying but just the thought of someone, who I trusted enough to marry, going out and blowing some dude for beer makes me physically ill.

luxury_banana · 2013-08-24T15:19:53+00:00

I remember reading this post from a few days back. I thought that the chances of actual cheating were more like 70/30 against. Now I have massive amounts of egg on my face.

RedBigMan · 2013-08-24T07:02:42+00:00

http://np.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1kz0u5/should_i_ask_for_a_paternity_test_update/cbu3fj6 this comment pretty much sums up the best course of action.

Why_You_Trippn · 2013-08-24T18:38:18+00:00

On one hand I'm sad for this this guy. On the other hand hes a retard that deserves this.

Title	Purple Piller grows a pair, confronts his cheating wife, and plans to divorce her
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Date	August 24, 2013 2:54 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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