Shit test: "I'm fine"

Laughing_Jelly_Bean · 2013-10-20T16:27:35+00:00

Always deal with it the same way, relationship or not.

If it's really important, she'll tell you and not play that game.

Clauderoughly · 2013-10-20T18:07:39+00:00

"Ok then"

And go back to what ever you were doing.

When women do this they are trolling for attention.

Don't feed the bad behavior, and don't nurture it.

When she pitches a fit, (and she will) just explain to her like a father would to a child, That if she is having problems then she needs to address them like an adult.

Pouty silent fits are childish and will be ignored.

When she gets pissed and throws a tantrum, go back to ignoring her.

Only talk to her when she starts acting like an adult.

If she gets really pissed and does something stupid like throw something or something even close to violent, throw her ass out on the street until she calms down.

Edit: Would the dickbags down voting me, care to say why ? Else I will assume it's the usual SRS / Mangina brigade

mrust · 2013-10-20T16:57:07+00:00

"Great." Smile, go back to sipping your latte.

Do not dig into her emotional state. You are buying into her little game and setting up negative anchors. Wait until she blows up (and she will), and then put your foot down that she said she was fine, you don't have time for her games. You should lay down the same rules you do with your plates.

If you're in a relationship, you don't have to kick her to the curb. Just let her know that her behavior is not acceptable. Punish her (perhaps by withdrawing your attention). If she starts yelling or getting unreasonable, ask her to leave. Wait 2-7 days before getting back in touch.

nathanisfat · 2013-10-20T16:56:03+00:00

"Hey, baby, how you doing?"

"I'm fine."

"Really? 'Cause you seem kinda angry. Wanna talk about it?"

"NO."

"Alright, cupcake. I'm going to go play video games. Call me when the bitch pill wears off."

redpilldude · 2013-10-20T17:06:09+00:00

When a woman acts like a child, respond as if she were a child: ignore her behavior. She is hoping that you will play 20 questions and spend hours trying to figure out why she is mad. Don't do this. Just ignore her. Hopefully, she will realize that acting like a child isn't getting her what she wants and she will stop. If she doesn't stop, then I suggest that you dump her ass.

2013-10-20T18:04:07+00:00

My girlfriend does this a lot. Not necessarily saying, "I'm fine." but she'll start asking a question and say, "Nevermind." I hate it but I've learned to just deal with it. She knows when she's starting to be too girly and needy and she wants to keep it to herself. There's nothing wrong with it, just leave it alone and ignore it.

IllimitableMan · 2013-10-20T17:12:27+00:00

"You're not fooling anyone, go home." (if you're out) if you're not out together, drop the go home bit.
"OK I'm fine too" (mirror her and piss her off with it until she reveals her deal, but don't actually get sucked into her emotional state, you want to parody her to infuriate her into talking)
"Yes and I like being lied to, so keep feeding that bullshitting girl." (call her out)

You get the idea, call it out if you wanna resolve it. If you don't, withdraw your attention "OK, you be fine by yourself then" and then just GO. She may come crawling back, you may never see her again, whatever. You have to be willing to play the takeaway card, if you're avoiding conflict she's controlling you with the pussy.

3rt41 · 2013-10-20T17:28:25+00:00

"ok" and walk away

GrantNexus · 2013-10-20T17:38:46+00:00

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Snapsplease · 2013-10-20T18:07:40+00:00

I just tell my girl "what is wrong?" "nothing" "I know something is wrong tell me what it is so we can sort it out" "no its nothing" "fine" or "ok" turn my attention to something else and not give it to her until she comes and tells me what is wrong.

Red_Work · 2013-10-20T20:59:17+00:00

If I get the I'm fine routine, I leave her to fester as well as maintaining zero contact until I feel the need to respond to one if the million texts and calls that will inevitably happen after about an hour. I always go somewhere social where I can get tagged in photos with other girls or where mutual friends will wonder where she is and text her as such. Works great, plays off the jealousy and lets her know that my options are, as the have always been, numerous and available. Sometimes ill wait a day, sometimes a week, depends on the situation. Its never too late to walk away, unless of course you're married and live in Florida, then you're fucked.

Traz_Onmale · 2013-10-20T19:13:49+00:00

Don't get into a relationship with someone like that.

Silentpandas · 2013-10-20T22:38:47+00:00

Don't start a relationship with a girl who does that shit.

RedBigMan · 2013-10-20T16:27:16+00:00

Step 1: Ignore it.

Step 2: Stop giving a fuck.

Step 3: Listen because if it is important enough you WILL hear about it sooner or later.

tl;dr... If she says she's fine maybe she is?

kingoftheheap · 2013-10-21T02:08:22+00:00

Took me a while to realize this myself but when your girl gets mad there's not much you can to change it. Just keep your cool, don't react, and don't get mad back. It's what they want.

One girl I dated briefly remarked that I didn't get mad when she did, and that that annoyed her. I told her it's her problem, not mine, and she'll get over it eventually and all I have to do is wait it out. 20 minutes later everything was fine. Of course sometimes it takes much longer.

TheeRyanGrey · 2013-10-20T22:03:21+00:00

You: How are you Her: grumpily I'm fine You: shrug go on about your day Her: 5-10 minutes later

"blah blah blah this is what you did wrong blah blah blah emotional outburst blah blah"

You: you're right, you're fine. walk away

Florist_Gump · 2013-10-21T19:33:42+00:00

Me: how are you?

Her: I'm fine (snarky)

Me: cool (go about my business)

Its no more complicated than that. There isn't even a single follow-up question as that just encourages the initial "lets play guessing games" mentality.

slcjosh · 2013-10-21T20:50:12+00:00

me: you ok? Her: IM FINE ME: if you want to be a grown up, you can talk to me about it. carry on with my business.

I made the mistake when i was young to actually give a shit about this. Its all just a ploy for your attention and her to control you with her emotions. if you dont play they game, they either respond positively and stop acting like a 7th grader, or you realize you arent all that compatible and you can move on.

darksoldierk · 2013-10-20T18:37:29+00:00

Well I find that saying something like "well I'm here for you, if there is anything you want to talk about, or if I can help, just let me know" tends to work. Might be a beta solution, so it depends on how alpha you want to be.

mclorie · 2013-10-21T10:33:37+00:00

Good advice from the top comments, however, a slight twist, my girl hides things from me so as to not worry me or because she doesn't want to involve me in what she thinks are "petty" problems.

Usually they are petty problems and I appreciate her consideration in keeping it to herself. Either way, a good technique:

Grab her, pull her in, kiss her head, squeeze her and say "Come on babe, I can't help you with a problem if you don't tell me what it is." No question, just look into her eyes and wait for her to open up.

Title	Shit test: "I'm fine"
Author	batfish55
Upvotes	36
Comments	60
Date	October 20, 2013 4:11 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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