Summary

Trigger warning: this is a post directed at rock bottom people who read TRP mostly to mentally masturbate and are a sort of self-improvement junkies who never take action so if you've got your shit at least somewhat together this will probably only waste your time

 

 If you have an all or nothing "Do it now!" mindset when you're a complete loser trying to get out of his rut and improve yourself you will always deplete your willpower in a couple of days and go back to being a loser until another inspirational YouTube video catches your eye and you try to fix everything at once for a brief period of time until you inevitably give up once again. The way to get out of rock bottom is to take it slow and accept that it's going to take you many years to come out.

 

Body

 

It takes years. Not weeks.

 

 This is for you. The guy who reads posts on TRP constantly and tells himself he's not ready yet but he will be soon and he will enact the knowledge and start on the path of self-improvement yet continues riding the porn, video games and fast food instant gratification train while wasting his life away and feeling like shit doing it. If you're just starting out from rock bottom you need to take it slow and smart. Not doing so is part of the reason you're not starting to act. This is contrary to a fuck ton of advice out there on this topic. The motivational platitudes that make you believe you're capable of anything and feel ready to take on the world right now feel good at the moment but never work in the long term. This is because they address and advise you to work on the surface level which barely if at all affects the depths of the ocean.

 If you have no foundation of self-discipline and large amounts of will power the "Do it now!" stuff is going to work for a couple of days at the most. That's because you're trying to race a jet with a bike. Sure you can peddle really strong for a while but you'll lose energy fast and give up since it's getting you nowhere. You have to focus on improving/remaking the bike instead of peddling harder. If you try to increase the output without improving the foundation all you're gonna do is fuck up the production capability. I'm here to say that if you want to get out of your loserdom slump you have to take it smart and slow. The bad habits that got you where you are probably took years upon years to develop. Expecting that you're going to change them all fast is ludicrous. You need to think years, not weeks and focus on the core character traits and habits that make you a loser and change them. The frosting of confidence, more willpower etc. will come together with that without you having to focus on them specifically at all.

 

Obese Neckbeard to Greek God

 

 Rock bottom in the fitness department? (fat, weak and low-energy from fast food and no exercise) Walk a kilometer every day. If one day you say to yourself "Aww fuck it, I can go without one day" walk 500 meters that day. No matter what do something and the point is to slowly grow the new habit instead of going hard. Bettering yourself is a marathon, not a sprint. Eventually, it will get too easy to do that short walk, you'll actually want to do more. So increase your shit then, but don't up it too much. Let's say it's 2 km now. And keep the rule of "Even if I go fuck it and want to skip a day of working out I'll walk a little bit at least". Eventually, you'll want to do something even more and then you can go to a gym or do a bodyweight fitness routine. Decided one day to spend all day playing video games like you're so used to? Even if you do that, leave a couple of minutes for bodyweight. Too often it's too easy to go all or nothing for losers and after trying to develop good habits you do "one" cheat day after which the attempt to better yourself just fails as you succumb to your past routines. That is you taking more than you can handle. Set aside your ego for a while and realize there are limits to what you can do. Those limits will get pushed further away with time. Lots of time. Delayed gratification vs instant gratification. The time will pass and you won't even realize one day that you're seeing real results.

 Instead of using your will power use your brain and put yourself in situations where you will need a lot less will power. Yes, I am saying to you to use a lot less of your will power.

 Example: You are the typical neckbeard and you want to get the physique of a Greek god instead of your pathetic flabby excuse of a body. You muster your will power and go to the gym. To get out there you spend a ton of time and effort just to get prepared because you don't really have clean clothes and haven't prepared your gym bag in advance. The friends to whom before this you enthusiastically mentioned how you're going to start working out and have more energy and how many positive effects working out has on you responded with a resounding "Meh". During your workout you exert yourself completely and can barely walk out of the gym. You feel terrible but somewhat glad over what you did. When you get back your mummy has baked a cake for you to celebrate your work out. You say you won't eat it but later on you grab a bite when you get hungry and there's nothing else in the fridge. Since you're lazy and don't have your shit together you throw your gym bag and it's contents all over the place and sit down near your pc. Next morning comes. Every single muscle feels like it's dying. You don't have any of your gym clothes prepared so you procrastinate until it's too late in the day and you figure fuck it you'll go tomorrow. Skipping one day can't hurt right? That day becomes a year. The problem here is you're using all of your willpower and it isn't enough. So after you fail the belief that you're a hopeless loser gets even more deeply entrenched into your psyche. After all, you couldn't even keep going to the gym for a couple of days, right? So you must be useless. No.

 This is an example of how you go out to the gym using your will power differently:

 The time to go to the gym comes. All your gym clothes are packed already and you use the untold effort of picking up your already packed shit and going out. You rush out because there's a friend of yours who you got to go to the same gym with you already waiting for you. In the gym your work out is weak. You exert yourself but not with every fiber of your being. As a matter of fact you use nothing but the bar for compound lifts and try to look at the mirror and do them in proper form. You see that 20 kg dumbbell across the gym. You ain't no bitch, you're gonna curl that shit like it's nothing you think to yourself but you quickly humble yourself after barely managing to take it off the rack and stick to proper weights. You go back home, look! Your mummy made you a cake. You throw that shit in her face and yell: "BEGONE DEVIL! THOUGH SHALT NOT STEAL MY GAINS." Well that or you already have food prepped from the night before in the fridge and you grab that. You put the cake away somewhere you couldn't see or better yet arrange shit so the cake doesn't get cooked at all. You hop on your pc and open the TRP irc channel. There you get called a faggot and told to do push ups to stop being one.

 See what happens here? You use your LIMITED (Severely so actually if you're rock bottom) will power to setup things in your environment that will FORCE you to go out without applying too much of the limited resource of will power for going out itself. It's using your will power intelligently so it serves to bring you long-term results. And the funny thing is that will power will increase as you do this more so than if you simply applied it to go out to the gym day in and day out. So the first thing to do if you want to get healthy and ripped is not go to the gym and give it everything you got. You have to give it everything you got at prepping your food and gym bag, getting someone to go to the gym with you etc. You use your limited will power to set up the environment in which it will be easier for you to continue with your goals.

 

Shitty Beta "Friends"

 

 You have to dump old ones and get new ones. Hardest part about it early on is the slight amount of ruthlessness required for this. You will be guilt tripped and shamed for leaving your old buddies that served to do nothing more than keep you at their level and entertain yourself somewhat while you're all driving the slow lane to what amount to suicide really. If you don't have the guts to just cut people off just distance yourself from these people by isolating yourself somewhat. Decline invitations to smoke weed and hang out for hours on end. Don't have the guts to say that the reason you don't want to go out with them is because they're losers? Say you're busy. Eventually new and better friends will arise as you improve yourself gradually and over long amounts of time . I can't stress this enough.

 There is a very important reason I'm mentioning changing friends. It goes back to using your will power to forge your environment instead of using it directly to affect change. The circle of the people closest to you including your family have a major effect on you. The effect is so important I would argue someone really successful couldn't be so if he was in the same environment people-wise as a loser. It's nice to imagine yourself as the ultimate alpha with impenetrable frame who can make it on his own but it's very rarely the case.

 If you're at a very low-level in life putting yourself among higher-level people is almost a cheat code to how much you will improve yourself. You'll do more you ever could with your will alone.

 

The Concept of Taking it Slow

 

 These same principals extend to any other facet of your life you want to improve. You're a virgin and you want to be a player? Don't think you can learn game in a couple of days. Start slow. Keeping eye contact with strangers at first.

 Mentioning baby steps might evoke some hatred and you might call that a weak mentality and precisely the thing you should avoid. However, I encourage you to see how taking it fast has worked out for you and also consider whether having to do so much in such a short period of time when you're not ready stops you from taking action because the challenge seems so huge and insurmountable. Especially after you have failed to keep at it even for a brief period multiple times.

 The main reason you ought to take it slow to get out of the deepest pit instead of going fast is simply you do not have the means to take it fast. Your body and mind are weak and not ready to take on such a task after years of conditioning to be a loser. The only way to do it is to slowly, day by day improve the foundation instead of applying a bandage on a broken leg.

Conclusion

  • Wanting fast results in self-improvement is a result of a character foundation of looking for the path of least resistance which is one of the main reasons you don't work on yourself in the first place. If you actually want to improve yourself and take action in real life you need to change the foundation by working on it instead of working on the results of the foundation

 

  • You shouldn't push yourself to do everything at once with 100% power and commitment if you're just starting out on the path of self-improvement. You simply don't have the tools to make it work for long periods of time. You should instead use that power to setup and environment in which it will be easier for you to follow through on your goals

 

  • Stop mentally masturbating and theorizing over a million TRP posts and manosphere blogs. In all likelihood you have read enough. Go out there and take action but not the "I'm gonna move that mountain" kind of action from the get go. Start slow and work your way up

 

  • The concept of taking it slow and using your will power intelligently can and should (mostly if you're at a low level) be used on any area of self-improvement. Stoping your gaming addiction, getting girls, career goals etc.

 

  • Motivational shit is just that. Shit. Motivation and drive are the surface effects of character. Work on your character and you will have the motivation down the line