The Red Pill was right all along

EpicLevelCheater · 2018-02-27T02:35:42+00:00

We're glad for you. But you still need to follow our formatting guidelines.

flyalpha56 · 2018-02-26T15:32:22+00:00

Cut her off completely, when she comes back, ignore her. Fuck her best friend for shits and giggles.

RunawayGrain · 2018-02-26T15:34:10+00:00

For that, I want to say thank you.

You've been given a gift and the best way to say thank you is to go out and apply what you've found here. Channel all that anger you feel into something productive for yourself. Bone up on the sidebar, lift, get in shape, make profitable decisions and just generally just have a good life.

As a starter, focus on making you happy. Forget all the shit you've been programmed with that says you need to find a girl to make you complete. As my old man said, "See to your own happiness, and everyone else is just a passenger on your train." You will start to see shit fall into place when you get to that state of mind.

Lennythetrp · 2018-02-26T19:27:50+00:00

This stuff happens, we were all there once. Meet girl of your dreams, fall in love, debase your self-worth and tie to to hers. I'm positive this didn't happen for no reason, there's things about yourself you need to be honest with and look at before you consider moving forward. It's easy to be angry right now, but the great potential of this feeling is that you can target new lifestyle patterns (lifting, continual self-improvement) with a greater tenacity.

Also, if you don't already, start a journal or a notebook and start writing every day about how you feel, what you've experienced, and engage in mindfulness activities like meditation.

Don't chase this girl anymore. Don't message or call her, and if you see her around campus ignore her but be polite and stoic if she chooses to approach you.

Sidebar has lots of good info for you also.

Best of luck.

biglaughingcock · 2018-02-26T16:49:05+00:00

If you're learning this at 19, you are so lucky.

AggressiveBeta · 2018-02-26T17:23:14+00:00

Anytime a woman’s behavior suddenly makes a consistent change seemingly out of nowhere, you can be sure there’s another guy in the picture

dRePe_Thill · 2018-02-26T17:56:35+00:00

"The Red Pill was right all along" ...

We know. - TRP community

**edit: formatt, +1 for thanking community and mark as field report ;)

MattyAnon · 2018-02-26T20:09:03+00:00

Then around a month ago her behavior suddenly changed. She went from immediately answering my calls to not answering them at all and calling back hours later. She started ignoring or even leaving some of my texts on read and if she would reply she'd answer with extremely short and cold sentences. We organized a day to hang out on Valentine's Day and she flaked. Didn't answer any my calls for hours until she texted me very late that night saying "Sorry I wasn't able to make it".

This is a woman passively "dropping hints". She's hoping you get the picture without her having to say it. It's a cruel and selfish way for her to avoid responsibility for her actions.

I wouldn't have ever thought she'd be that type of person.

It's hard to believe the A in AWALT isn't it.

I was devastated because there wasn't any closure

There is never any closure, but you should ensure she doesn't get any either by presenting her with cold, hard, happy indifference.

Closure, for women, means "being certain he's not attractive" and "leaving him a broken loser". If you happily get on with your life, she gets no closure and it leaves her in a confused state.

. They will lie and manipulate with their words to make you their bitch and have all the power and the upper hand of the relationship so that they can get away with doing whatever they want.

Yes, and then they lose attraction and then they leave. Don't walk so willingly down this slippery slope next time.

Stationarity · 2018-02-26T20:22:41+00:00

You're lucky you learned this at 19. Took some of us til we were 49.

askmrcia · 2018-02-26T17:40:44+00:00

If I had a dollar for every time that I've seen this happen to a guy I'm sure I'd be a millionaire.

I know this sucks because I like everyone else on this sub had this happen.

There is good news in all of this. You learned what went wrong and how you can avoid this situation in the future. Now that you're here you'll better understand female nature. Unlike you, it took three different girls to wake my ass up. And you got some good sex and memories out of this.

Seriously though, this shit happens all the time in college. I personally wouldn't even do ltr relationships in college (really at all, but that's for a different post).

GPbootlegger · 2018-02-26T20:36:59+00:00

At least you're learning now. You can thank her for that.

I want to clarify something though. Women lie and manipulate yes, but not usually out of malice. They do it because, even regarding a man they care nothing about, they care about how they are seen by others.

She ignores you, because she's so unattracted to you. But she doesn't have the masculine ability to just shut you down. She bitches to her friends that you don't "take a hint". She goes, "UGGGHHH it's him again" to the guy she's seeing now. EVEN THOUGH you were close a week earlier.

So it's not so much women being evil, it's women being women. It's all amoral.

anotherent · 2018-02-26T17:41:26+00:00

I'm 29 and wish I had this knowledge ten years ago at your age.

bitchpotatobunny · 2018-02-26T17:07:02+00:00

It's what happens if you don't make them submit.

Careful there serial killer. Reread some of the sidebar. I believe what you mean to say is "If you allow yourself to be sucked into their frame."

Sorry to hear about your life lesson, but be grateful you got to learn it early in life. Use the experience to inspire growth.

TheLun4 · 2018-02-26T15:46:19+00:00

I feel you man. Something really similar happened to me, and i just couldnt figure what in the actual fuck was going on. The day we were supposed to meet and talk seriously, i got flaked and later discovered she was with another guy (lmao). Discovered red pill a while later and it all fell into the right places. Fuck this shit bro, rofl

RedDespair · 2018-02-26T15:55:16+00:00

Realize that you have to live it for yourself once.

When you are blue you can’t fuck up your relationship just because someone said it on a forum.

Now that you have seen where this path leads you’ll know better in the future.

It’s the sacrifice you have to pay in order to get fully unplugged

Dorkan · 2018-02-26T17:40:00+00:00

When dumped and you handle rejection like a champ, you always get to fuck them again.

Key is wishing her well while you cheerily continue your path

patrickwyeth · 2018-02-26T18:29:51+00:00

Exactly what happened to me, word for word

sixtynineningbeavers · 2018-02-26T19:00:19+00:00

Dog, never ever get in a relationship in college

ex_addict_bro · 2018-02-26T16:02:53+00:00

no shit sherlock

tell this to all those downvoting crews who get triggered every single time i write something about video games or "friendship with women"

newgrounds · 2018-02-26T23:58:42+00:00

Sorry man. Bitter pills, better pulls.

zue3 · 2018-02-26T16:42:54+00:00

These field reports always suck because they're always kids.

Dude I was a dishonest shithead to the opposite sex from 17-22 as well. I essentially branch swung to my third girlfriend when I got a car at 16.

Young men; when you are young relationships are so futile to begin with. You're fucking kids. You don't know shit. Not knowing shit about relationships is one of them.

You all really need go get out there and fuck botched, cheat on a girlfriend, have 3somes. Ditch your girlfriend for some other chick.

You all clearly had less than average dating lives. This is all whiney beginner feelings. If you think women are the source of all evil for fuck sakes will you be bleeding from every orfice possible with digust the further you get.

It's absolutely foolish to have had someone be shitty to you and chalk it up as all of them shitty.

I was shitty as fuck too. I've literally done everything you all complain woman do and that makes them the succubus of the planet.

I was also a fucking kid. Whether you agree women ever grow up or not, one thing is inevitable; people grow from experience. Do you think I enjoyed having to fight some chicks boyfriend when I didn't even know she had one?

You young bucks need to roll a flat blunt and maybe see; in your young 20s no woman or man in their right mind would rationally want anything serious.

Then get older and start thinking end game. Those of you who are anti LTR. Have you envisioned what you would be thinking on your death bed. "I banged lots of bitches and now I get to lay here and bleed all over my stacks of cash. And at the end nobody." If that's your honest true end game more power to you. But I'm pretty sure most of you are lying to yourselves that's what you want. Don't let this place convince you that wanting to die not alone and happy is a weak thing. That's inhuman horseshit.

ActuallyARaptor · 2018-02-26T16:56:57+00:00

I stumbled here 5 years ago, like you, I was young & naive. and while I'm still far from a master of game, I've internalized TRP and always am a step ahead of every social interaction.

I didn't come here to toot my own horn, I came to say it sucks what you're going thru, but AWALT. If you look at this like it's a part of your metamorphosis to manhood, it'll be easier to process in retrospect

TomeofBlood · 2018-02-26T16:49:23+00:00

Cut her off completely, try to transcend your SMV, try to communicate she's not who you thought she was, try to communicate that something happened and it wasn't you, rotate a harem of equal or higher SMV women around her, have a personal value explosion and a life-changing experience.

If she comes back purposely frame your relation with her as a casual affair then treat like a piece of cud. Sleep with her best friend. Ghost her, just dial back interest and effort to the most casual possible and ignore bad behavior while punishing very bad behavior. Her drama doesn't lead to capitulation or sex. Never be jealous when she tempts you, be calm and resolute like you don't care. Alpha Widow her if you can frame it right.(see: girls ask guys alpha widow). Put her through many hoops of investment then drop her. Demand more concessions from her for your occasional rewards at random intervals.

Rares5555 · 2018-02-26T19:16:00+00:00

Women are not the ones who have the upper hand in relationships.

The one who’s the least invested/less in love has the upper hand.

EatGreatEvnLate · 2018-02-26T19:40:06+00:00

They will lie and manipulate with their words to make you their bitch and have all the power and the upper hand of the relationship so that they can get away with doing whatever they want.

To be fair, your actions (excusing/ignoring a month of bad behavior) handed this 'power' to her and allowed her to play the manipulation game while she performed a month-long branch swing. I imagine you were scared to lose her, thus avoided poking the nest while she acted 'strange'. Lesson learned, and man you are really lucky to be learning this stuff at 19.

jtmazari · 2018-02-26T20:57:06+00:00

Destruction is the purest form of creation. Use this energy to work on yourself and live a life where you do what you want and you just don’t give a fuck. I use to have the best workouts after my heart was broken, this is your first taste of the dark side use this power wisely... anger is a weapon

krawm · 2018-02-26T21:15:58+00:00

my only is advice is not to hate her, she is a child wrapped in an adult skin and that is all she will ever be...you can be angry at her for her short sightedness and idiocy but dont hate her. hating a child makes you no better than a child.

by hating the female you give her power over you, as yoda said 'hate leeds to suffering' donit wast your emotions on creatures not worthy of them.

Jman1994678 · 2018-02-26T23:13:18+00:00

Also having a girlfriend in college is pointless. There's a bunch of easy girls you can smoothly get.

--Edog-- · 2018-02-26T23:46:12+00:00

Be lucky you learned so young. Don't be so nice in the future. Nice = countdown to getting dumped.

YasserZe · 2018-02-26T16:29:49+00:00

Move on , let it go , game other girls , and fuck her

newmeforever · 2018-02-26T15:36:21+00:00

so what did you do wrong to make her behavior change?

Please enlighten us

Dextorian · 2018-02-26T16:17:51+00:00

Happens to the best of us bro, cut her off and go concentrate on yourself! What’s done is done but if I was you try pinpoint where it stared going wrong and correct it so it doesn’t happen again! First proper relationship dude bound to happen learn from it and don’t do it again! Don’t put her on a pedestal

1v1crown · 2018-02-26T17:49:44+00:00

You may be realizing it now, but her flaking out on you is the best thing that could of happened to you. We've all been there. It's what opens our eyes. You are going to have a good life if you keep your eyes open.

OshayPukeJackson · 2018-02-26T17:56:31+00:00

At least you realized at a young age brother.

Takenshiro · 2018-02-26T18:43:09+00:00

Sorry that you had to learn the hard way but i also had to learn the hard way just be lucky it wasn't after years in a relationship. Read the rational male, and continue to dive deep into the forums, they're a great community of men who genuinely want to help each other out, aside from the occasional troll, but hey its the internet. I want to wish you luck in your journey but I'm sure thing are going to go great for you!

L0wD0g · 2018-02-26T19:51:09+00:00

We're all gonna make it bruh

Host_of_Embers · 2018-02-26T21:12:16+00:00

ALL WOMEN ARE WHORES UNTIL PROVEN OTHERWISE. End.

chinese-bible · 2018-02-26T21:29:43+00:00

Well, less than a year so it could have been worse.

Be thankful you learned something before you proposed to this woman, sharted out a bunch of kids, and THEN she left you for Chad Thundercock.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2018-02-26T22:36:13+00:00

Just ask yourself what you learnt, and what you can do better next time. There is never failure, only opportunities to grow and learn, depending on how YOU choose to take it.

Maybe next time don't give so much to her. Don't make her such a big focus. Focus on YOUR shit, YOUR goals, YOUR self-improvement. Take control of your self worth, don't tie it to a woman.

Always remember you're just having your turn...and you're letting her come along for the ride for whatever length of time she is willing to give you what you want.

Don't look for a woman for emotional support, find it elsewhere.

And next time you get her dropping interest...don't let her rule shit. You coulda been out doing your thing, making other plates, and putting a sense of dread in her.

jaysire · 2018-02-26T22:39:38+00:00

The gift of "everything falling into place" is one of the greatest ones. No more sleepless nights, no more wasted time. It's worth it to take the pill for that alone. Welcome.

_Hamburgler_ · 2018-02-26T23:20:07+00:00

This truth just became reality for myself, in a similar manner as well, and I feel liberated to know that my time reading on here has not been wasted reading fallacies. The red pill is as real as it gets, never trust a woman's words. Time to internalize this motivation.

8TheKingPin8 · 2018-02-26T23:59:47+00:00

I agree with you completely, I was in one relationship similar to this. The problem with me though is that I have autism therefore it's very difficult for me to read what her body language is trying to say. I know when something is off by reading her body language but I can't tell what it means.

DrCarter11 · 2018-02-27T00:43:54+00:00

Why make a throwaway for this?

varlogmessages · 2018-02-27T02:00:44+00:00

Some of her actions were pretty heavy signs. Who cares you're in college. Why would you want to settle anyway

danO1O1O1 · 2018-02-27T02:31:35+00:00

There's an anger phase, go through it not around it.

[deleted] · 2018-02-27T02:33:10+00:00

Try to give the feeling you have right now to other sloots by smashing and ghosting. That's how you get off.

mwjwork · 2018-02-27T11:05:31+00:00

Guys do this too, but yeah that sucks. Not every girl will do this to you, so don’t beat yourself up too much about it bro.

bluedragon2388 · 2018-02-26T17:04:50+00:00

Ig knowing And applying TRP inner game, being attractive, and taking action would really put you ahead of the curve...

Anyway OP, where did everything go wrong in your relationship?

What did you fuck up?

yummyluckycharms · 2018-02-26T18:56:01+00:00

One more thing to remember when it comes to breaking up with someone - you aren't owed anything by them, nor, do you owe anyone anything in return. You dont owe them a face to face encounter to telling them that you are dropping them, nor do you owe them closure.

In fact, in this day and age, ghosting would be the ideal way of preventing being accused of sexual harassment or trumped up charges of physical assault, which might happen if you dared to give them a face to face meeting to dump them. Cant be charged with something if you werent there, and your phone's GPS can be used in court to prove you werent there.

badlifecat · 2018-02-26T23:09:51+00:00

dude, I'm sorry this shit happened to you but blaming the entire gender for one experience, especially at the age of 19, is not a good response to this. We all do fucked up shit to one another; this is a fact of life. People are generally terrible an act in their own selfish interest, but you absolutely cannot blame an entire demographic for the actions of one. I hope you get over it and move on but please don't create generalizations out of it. People cheat and fuck around all the time, it's really nothing personal in the end if I've learned anything

Lambdal7 · 2018-02-26T19:23:10+00:00

This isn't redpill. She lost interest and flaked, this happens all the time to men and even more women, where guy is tired of fucking her and lets it fizzle out by not responding etc.

zyqkvx · 2018-02-26T20:21:00+00:00

It sounds a hell of a lot like you became ultra needy so it was more about you than her. Don't sweat it, just don't do that. I can totally remember a situation when I was 20 I was as needy as fuck. This is the point you say what the fuck am I dong with this needy stuff and figure it out. It's easier today, you can read stories about others being needy.

stop_stopping · 2018-02-27T01:30:14+00:00

this is the most sexist shit

Title	The Red Pill was right all along
Author	gtafan912
Upvotes	450
Comments	120
Date	February 26, 2018 3:21 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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