The single most important signal that lets me know talking up a girl is going well

30303030303030 · 2013-10-28T16:26:47+00:00

Stroking forearm is another one. If you have veins on forearms they will stroke it like a dick after a drink or two. It's like a horn telling me to start serious kino.

Bman135 · 2013-10-28T16:37:23+00:00

I love when theories I have are thought by other people. Girls fake anger is always a noticeable and important step.

Zackcid · 2013-10-28T17:23:13+00:00

Gotta keep this shit restricted! If more women find out about this subconscious thing, they might start picking up on it and faking it when the circumstance calls for it.

Just look at what happened to girls twirling their hair or hugging you. It used to be a genuine sign of interest, but now girls are just hugging to make you think you still have a shot.

lol.

FemtoG · 2013-10-28T16:08:51+00:00

I agree. It's like the first "gate".

plopliar · 2013-10-28T16:30:06+00:00

I knew exactly what you were going to say before I even read your post. I don't know why they do this, but it is definitely an indicator that you are doing the right thing.

the99percent1 · 2013-10-28T16:57:10+00:00

I get this even from girls I've friend zoned/been friendzoned or i have no intention of fucking.

Esp awkward when one of them happens to be fiance to my best friend..

GrantNexus · 2013-10-28T16:47:08+00:00

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IdleGod · 2013-10-28T18:54:40+00:00

I had one girl put it rather succinctly. "I want a man who can call me on my bullshit without being an asshole".

She was an overweight, chain smoking, 35 year old with a bastard child, so take it with a grain of salt.

TRPinitiate · 2013-10-28T18:31:00+00:00

Pretty obvious IMO.

Pretty much any excuse she uses to touch you is a very solid indicator.

cagethepepper · 2013-10-28T16:43:56+00:00

To me it's also when they smile at me and play with their hair.

OBJHamSandwich · 2013-10-28T17:32:34+00:00

IIRC from my old non-verbal communications class in college, here are a handful of physical motions women will do to express interest. The first one is touching or playing with the hair. The second is rolling the hips forward-- i.e. standing with her hips out towards you while leaning her upper body back. The third is the "coy smile"-- smiling, looking down, then smiling while looking up at you. Those are almost-universal signals in the US, Canada, and (I believe) the UK.

One you can do to make her more into you is touch her forearm on her right side (i.e. extending your left hand towards her and giving a slight brush). Science is fun.

Nitzi · 2013-10-28T17:05:18+00:00

Some mate: "Hey Nitzi you can't just sit next to a hot girl and don't talk to her" (aloofness)

Me: "Oh yeah" [looks at her] [turn to mate] "Yeah she is a solid 5" (laughter all around) [turn back to my real table]

She hits me.

Now she wants me to talk to her and validate her. I touched her feelings, and this peaked in a physical reaction from her.

Some girl "hey look at that"

[Keep looking in mirror]

Girl: "You see it in the mirror?"

Me: "Oh what" [Lean sidewards] "Yeah I see it" [back to normal posture]

Her: "And why do you still look into the mirror?"

Me: "I see some hot dude there, looks just like me, just a bit hotter"

Her: "Thats YOU!!" and hits me, while she laughs.

Yeah, that is a strong indicator.

"You are such an asshole!", "You are too much" or "You are sooo stupid" are great signals too.

averagepidgin · 2013-10-29T04:33:38+00:00

I have to agree, I thought about this post over lunch and I came up with this... the reason why women love it that you bust their balls is because they love attention. You see, that's their number one complaint, "you never listen", but in reality what they mean is, you aren't paying attention to me. Women demand attention, if they don't get it, then you're out, simple as that. They'll go to where they'll get it. The alpha is constantly looking for the opening, sorta reminds you of a sperm don't it? The opportunity to get in. IN. So naturally he's gonna be on it.

But what I find more interesting is that, really when you're busting a girl's balls, essentially what your doing is actually giving her your undivided attention in such a way where your attention is on all of her being, the way she talks, moves, gestures, the things she says, every part of her is under the microscope, and they love that, especially if you're doing it in a fun way.

It's exactly what they want, they're not dumb.

So naturally, if you give em what they want and your good at it and consistent, they're gonna warm up to you.

In the end they want attention of the best kind, the kind that makes them laugh and makes them feel like the center of the world.

Spacelnvader · 2013-10-28T17:41:59+00:00

This is really a very good indicator.

I recently made a decision to make sure to bust the balls of the next hot girl I encountered. Did so with a new temp at work and have been teasing her for at least 60 % of all our interactions. We used to be on some sort of department trip this weekend and I alternated between teasing and playing nice. She punched me in the arm a few times for some cheeky comments with the "Oh, you!" and "I can't believe you did that!" look on her face, all whilst smiling. At one occasion she even reached out for my hand while telling me something, but decided against it the very last second so she just kind of brushed one of my fingers. She is in a relationship so she probalby thought "What am I doing?!"

On the last day, I was too tired to tease her and played nice almost all the time. I could see how her reaction changed to slight boredom.

Needless to say, it was a very interesting experience for a former Nice Guy like myself. So, tease tease tease!

2013-10-28T22:46:34+00:00

I don't get the arm thing that much but any of these signs are probably good.

Anytime she closes the physical proximity gap.

Anytime she exposes her neck to you. Like moving her hair out of the way so you can see her neck.

Positive body language. Like, she's facing you without her arms folded.

Dilated pupils.

I don't know about busting balls being what you have to do as being the best way to get them. My old man always told me that playing hard to get was the key.

McMurphyCrazy · 2013-10-28T17:37:58+00:00

I'm coming to find that if a girl mentions my dimples when I smile the hook is set.

GayLubeOil · 2013-10-29T04:57:17+00:00

Solipsistic Cosmo Advice: Let women know you like them by hitting them.

vengefully_yours · 2013-10-28T17:16:02+00:00

Older women will touch your arm, not hold hands, but they make contact. The young ones are a bit more expressive, but they all do it when they like you and want you.

puresteel · 2013-10-29T00:49:00+00:00

Cantonese women always do that. It's strange. You wouldn't happen to be from Hong Kong? Or do white girls this as well?

yea_tht_dnt_go_there · 2013-10-28T16:51:58+00:00

If I make out with a girl and she bites my tongue, she wants the d.

magicalbird · 2013-10-29T04:28:04+00:00

If she doesn't hit me we aren't clicking right.

I've had success with girls that didn't do this but if they hit me then it's a much more overt signal.

lifeliberty · 2013-10-29T01:50:20+00:00

Any reason for contact if she likes you, playful hitting, picking something off your clothes, laying on you tc

spaced86 · 2013-10-29T04:40:08+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixQbCXLUUj8

Get to the bit about attachment and how to increase a duck's bond with it's mother.

2013-10-29T08:33:32+00:00

Its their way of breaking the physical barrier, effectively a direct invitation for you to begin kino, particularly if you havent already.

I find personally its more used by girls with lower levels of confidence, which is hardly surprising, i use the handshake in a similar way. Introduce self, offer hand, when they take it hold the moment slightly longer than some nervous beta would and look them intensely in the eye. Frames the encounter as being one with some degree of sexual charge from the first moment and makes the transition to the first level of kino proper (the elbow touch) that much easier in my mind because ive already touched her.

If she smiles while you're looking her in the eye, you're in.

h_b_b · 2013-10-29T19:24:28+00:00

Girl here. I would like to add that hitting a guy in the arm, in addition to the previously stated reasons, is also a very subtle swolestation. Just thought you should know.

GoryWizard · 2013-10-29T20:21:22+00:00

My skills at teasing, or negging, women is pitiful. Any resources? I never know what's going "too far."

hashtagpound2point2 · 2013-10-28T20:11:09+00:00

Some girl fake hit me at this party I went to the other night. I would've gone for it, but I think my buddy's brother is really into her and he was standing right there.

She also was about a 4, but I like to think I didn't go for it because of the other thing I said earlier.

TheBrownMafia · 2013-10-28T23:17:57+00:00

Don't care what signals she is giving me. As long as I get it in I'm fine. You would know if she wants to bang, you can sense it like it's an aura or some shit.

Vespaman · 2013-10-28T22:06:58+00:00

Girls don't really do that here in England. A canadian girl done it a few times to me last week. Must be a cultural thing.

Costafarian · 2013-10-29T02:06:11+00:00

I accidentally discovered this with a really hot chick way before my Red Pill days when I was trapped in a relationship.

A really hot half-Asian slut. She and I were waiting in line at the cafeteria at our dorm together and they were basically serving Asian food. I made a few Asian jokes. Shit like "oh looks like today is your lucky day, it's the food of your people." All with a huge grin on my face. She punched me in the arm and we chatted. Unfortunately I never closed the deal on that one. But to this day I've always figured it was a sign of interest in some form.

2013-10-29T00:12:16+00:00

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