Things I’ve learned about women:

They already decided if they like you or not, within 30 seconds of conversation.

They cannot resist a man with options: if you want ANY girls –any–, always be able to walk-away, and I totally mean it. Do not care. Like, actually do not throw importance on whether you get em or not.

If it is already too complicated before you guys officially date, walk away (misunderstanding on top of misunderstanding…walking on eggshell vibe… RUN)

If it’s too complicated, walk away. No relationship should be that complicated at the start.

If you got a gut feeling that she ain’t the one, she ain’t the one bro. Low Self Esteem vs Healthy Self Esteem is where you will determine if it is on a One-Nighter or a LTR (Long Term Relationship). Good, healthy self-esteem is paramount to a healthy and balanced relationship. Here’s how to test it: Tell her an off-the-chart compliment: see how she reacts. Someone with a good HSE will thank you and accept the compliment. This is the kind of women you want to surround yourself with (if you are seeking LTR).

A woman with a poor self-esteem will refuse to take the compliment. She’ll say that she’s ugly, that she isn’t pretty, that she is fat, etc. You get the vibe. Run. This is not worth pursuing a LTR: she is broken. I met countless 10/10 in my life (I’m an interesting guy, well, I think so haha. I’m 27 and I published three books, and I’m driving around the world in a Jeep, do wildlife photography, manage a business, etc): sometimes, even the most stunning ladies on the planet will downright refuse to accept their beauty. It often comes from daddy issues, no kidding. Many women suffer from an absent father. In most case, it can be traced back to that lack of male-figure in their life. And it isn’t like you have to burn the girl when you realize that she has LSE (Low Self Esteem): just beware what you’re getting into. In any –any– fucking case, do not seek a long term relationship: it begs for excessive drama in the years to come.

Some big no-no:

Never ever sleep with a Borderline Personality Disorder woman, unless you’re seriously aware of the stake. 99% of the guys should move on.

Never get married unless you get citizenship advantage (in my case, Brazilian residency wouldn’t be too shabby).

For fear of repeating myself ad infinitum, if it’s complicated before even the second month of dating, quit. Dropout. Burn it. Don’t fucking stay in a low-energy relationship. You are too fucking special as a man to let yourself waste your energy into something not worth the effort.

And that brings me to the last point:

What you put in the relationship should come back to you. The amount of effort you throw in shouldn’t go to wasteland: she should make it back to you. Men are protectors and are willing to sacrifice themselves to save a girl: it doesn’t nor shouldn’t be that way. If she is willing to make the same amount of effort, to make it back to you, she’s a keeper. But I’ve seen countless – and dated countless– women that want all the goodies but aren’t willing to give back the same. I’m not talking financially here: I’m talking emotionally. Many men stays up late at night to “support” emotionally a girl they like, without her actually giving a shit about his feeling and his need for support. Yeah, that right there? Do not accept this at any time in the early stage of dating. If it’s your wife and she goes through a rough time, that’s different.

Men are saviour-type. Realize that in your inner higher self. Realize that it’s more than mere words, but it’s actually deep in your psyche: you are the warrior going to slay the dragon to save the princess. Let me put it in simpler words: you are the dude that stays late at night to support emotionally a woman going through a hard time with the dragon (her dad, her school, her job, whatever).

I’m just saying as much as it feels natural, it isn’t anymore. You are a pawn for her. The moment she isn’t satisfied, she will ruthlessly go back on Tinder or Instagram and browse to the mass of betaize men that just want an easy pussy.

Remember Rule Number One and Two:

Don’t seek her love: she already decided. A man with options is irresistible. 95% of the time, the moment you walk away, turn off the chat, forget her, move on, she’ll come back chasing you. Make yourself like Indiana Jones or James Bond: they can’t resist. Whoever they are. Rich or poor.

They cannot –they cannot– resist to a man that tells them “I got to go to Tanzania to photograph some rare monkeys”.

So make yourself interesting, and the world will be yours.

Out.

J. UPDATE: well this went wild. Sorry for the typos, I wrote it on the beach while drinking cabernet sauvignon. Little sister kept talking as I was trying to wrote this quick note.

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