Using Hypergamy to Your Advantage

Would you believe me if I told that the best possible way to keep your girl is to get mogged by another guy who is more alpha than you are? Yes, dear reader, it's true. Now before you accuse me of drinking too much of grandpa's dizzy water and advocating for cuckoldry, hear me out. This will all make sense in a moment.

Hypergamy is a powerful, often dangerous, force. Where weak men shudder at lightning and thunder, or cower shrink before the winds, great men see such forces as power to be harnessed and wielded. Like the intrepid explorers of old who harnessed the ocean winds to travel to new lands, or the clever men of ingenuity who harnessed electricity to light the darkness, the man who will succeed in his relationship is he who learns to direct the forces of hypergamy to his advantage.

Truly, the logic is simple (astute readers will already be connecting the dots here). If women are naturally hypergamous¹ and prone to swinging to another, presumably better, branch, then it is in your best interest to channel this tendency, rather than fight against it and become the better branch that she "swings" to.

Thus, the best way to keep your girl is to mog yourself.

Mog Thyself

You are either growing or you're dying. This is the rule of life and relationships. If you diligently direct your efforts towards intentionally growing, you will eventually become the living embodiment of a flex on your old-self.

When my wife and I were first married, I was tall and lanky (think the body of a distance runner) though naturally athletic and active. Shortly after getting married I took it upon myself to repeatedly pick heavy things up and put them down again until I got strong. It took many years, but my physique eventually improved to the point that more often than not I am the most jacked guy in the room.

This process was nothing short of transformative. It is not unfair to say that I not only looked like a different (and more attractive) person, but through a combination of physical and mental gains, I actually became a different (and better) person.

I remember clearly the moment that this concept of mogging oneself became clear to me. I was enjoying a nice dinner with my wife and one of our female friends while on holiday. We hadn't seen the friend in awhile and I had just finished a successful cut after a significant bulk. My wife was excitedly showing our friend the earliest "before" pic of my fitness journey along side one that I had just recently taken.

Our friend was nothing short of flabbergasted at the transformation. My wife responded, "Right!? I don't mean this to be rude, but he looked almost sickly in the before picture." Our friend agreed and the said something to the effect that I looked like a completely different person back then and was far more attractive now.

I agreed and still do.

What was most revealing was the way they spoke about me from before. The spoke about me as if the guy in the before picture was truly a different person. They were frank with their thoughts and said things they never would have said to me back then andtThe way the were speaking about him (me) made me feel like I had swooped that guy's girl.

I had successfully mogged myself.

Goal Diggers

Many women, especially young women, are goal diggers.² Like angel investors considering investing in a start up, they are looking for compelling evidence that there is a strong likelihood of future reward for taking a chance on a guy with potential.

The twenty year old guy who is smart, fit, confident, has his life together, and has a demonstrable track record of accomplishment and prospects of growth is the kind of guy a young hot goal digger gets wet for and would take a chance on. This is good and proper. Just like an investor, she is making an informed bet based on a combination of existing evidence and instinctual speculation.

Where things go sideways is when the guy with potential fails to deliver. Big dreams and lofty goals are fun and exciting, but women absolutely detest it when all that big talk fails to materialize in reality.

"When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent." - Proverbs 10:19

Talk is cheap. Better a man keep his mouth shut than to speak his ambitions aloud and fail to achieve them. This is good career advice too, so write that one down.

Actions speak louder than words, and when a guy says he is going to do something great, but doesn't, he is behaving not just like a lying manipulative lazy bloodsucking sack of shit, but as though he were, may Allah forgive me, a politician.

Being FOMOsexual

On the other hand, the guy who continually works on himself and improves his position in life, who makes steady and observable progress towards his goals, will have the power of FOMO working to his advantage.

A woman is far less likely to leave a man while he is ascending, since she has no idea how high up the mountain he will lead her. Generally speaking, the more a man focuses on the climb and realizes actual accomplishments, the more his woman supports him and exhibits better behaviour all around. Like a promising start up company, early growth begets further investment.

It is anecdotal, but the happiest marriages that I know personally share this dynamic. The man is always relatively ambitious and steadily accomplishes the goals he sets out for himself and his family. He is consistently outperforming his prior self in multiple areas and missteps are quickly corrected.

Similarly, in cases where I've seen women exhibit the shittiest behavior towards her man (up to and including branch swinging) I have noticed that it tends to occur during the man's extended period of stagnation or decline.

Women will tolerate a slow-down, even a pause (for a time), but extended stagnation or backsliding is intolerable and will bring out her worst qualities.

If you aren't growing, you're dying.

How to Mog Yourself

A complete course on holistic self-improvement is the subject for another time, but I want to sketch out some broad outlines and concepts to be considered along these lines.

As one makes effort to improve themselves, it is important to recognize that not all effort is equally visible. Making an improvement, while good, is not enough. If you want to use hypergamy to your advantage, you have to actively demonstrate your increased value.

I have found benefit in drawing attention to my successes. You don't need to be a show off egotist to do this, but when you accomplish significant milestones make a point to celebrate them with others. She wants to see you win and you give her a great give when you draw her into celebrating your accomplishments with you.

Don't expect her to "just know" that you've been hustling and winning as though she is some sort of mind reader or keeps close tabs on your business. That's chick behavior. Focus on showing her the improvements rather than telling her (again, actions speak louder than words) but don't hesitate to bring her up to speed on what you've been accomplishing. Again, she wants to be with a winner so help her see when you are winning.

Know Your Enemy

"Don't be the guy she cheats on, be the guy she cheats with." - Manosphere proverb

Who do women tend to cheat on their man with? Generally a man who is more fit, makes more money, is funnier, has a better social network, and/or is up to more exciting things in life.

With this in mind, if you want your girl to "branch swing" to the future you, you should be making an active effort to increase your earnings, become more fit, develop a stronger wit and sense of humor, improve the quality of your social network, and live an exciting life full of interesting experiences.

There is no downside to continuously improve in these areas in an effort to mog your past self; you can't lose. Even if your girl leaves, you'll have positioned yourself in a much better place by making progress. That said, your cute little goal digger is far more likely to stick around and to see what the future with you holds if you are consistently accomplishing your goals and elevating your life.

For those who want to take action and aren't mere information cons00mers, here are some basic and practical questions to get started:

Q: What area(s) do you stand to need to focus on improvement to improve your sexual market value?

Q: What goals have stated aloud and failed to deliver on? What does getting back on track look like?

Q: Are there wins or demonstrable increases of value that I have not put on display? If so, how do I should I demonstrate these accomplishments?

I want to see you win and flex on your former self. If you want help putting this concept into practice or coming up with a plan, reach out to me via DM.

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¹ There is some debate as to what degree of hypergamy is inherent and how much of it is a cultural condition. Let the spergs argue about that. For our purposes in these modern times, it's an observable reality that to contend with and ignored at your own peril.

² Young women who are not goal diggers have high time preference and are to be avoided for purposes of long term relationships. The last thing you want in your life is the mother of your children, which is a massive resource investment over a significant time horizon, to lack the ability to consider the long-term.