It’s 2:30 AM. Your eyes, normally weak and dreary, are seemingly glued open. The book you are reading contains life changing information. You hang on every word, fully grasping the concepts described in ordinarily tedious detail. You finish the book in a bout of excitement, hardly able to shut your eyes to go to sleep. The following morning you arise, teeming with glee over information you discovered. In the wake of your new found knowledge, you meet up with your closest friend to give him the book that granted you this life changing knowledge. You hand him the book. With a half hearted affirmation, he agrees to read it. Later that night he picks up the book, partially out of pity, partially out of courtesy, and close it a few pages later.

He didn’t read it. Why? You know the book is good. You know the information in there could change his life. But for some reason, he doesn’t seem to care. The answer?

He wasn’t actively seeking out this information; thus, he did not understand nor fully appreciate the beauty of it.

This same principle applies in all aspect of life. A woman cannot fully appreciate your value unless she seeks to discover that value for herself. You must intrigue her enough that she actively seeks out information about you. Always be indirect about conveying value, unless she actively asks for it. When she feels like she discovered it herself, she will be able to fully understand and appreciate it.

There will never be an instance wherein telling her overtly how great you are will stir about admiration in her, unless she actively digs for that information herself.

Examples of indirectly conveying value:

  • Having a good sense of style
  • Being muscular
  • Displaying real confidence and self assurance
  • Articulating your thoughts beautifully