Alpha widow complaining about being used/abused

Dunkman83 · 2021-05-02T02:04:56+00:00

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imdaad_khan · 2021-05-02T02:04:42+00:00

Here’s a radical idea- go be with a man that you are the complete woman for. But you wouldn’t be satisfied with that kind of man, would you?

lurkerhasarisen · 2021-05-02T02:20:20+00:00

The number of men who can consistently date multiple women at the same time is very small. I pulled it off on two occasions in my life, but that was in a time when the mating market was very different from today. If I'd been born 30 years later than I was I doubt I would have been able to pull that off. I'd probably be single, in fact.

A guy who can do that now is a rare specimen, and every woman he knows wants to be with him, and many of those women will try to out-compete the other women by giving him whatever he wants... and for most of them that means sex on tap.

As a guy who did date multiple women simultaneously (well, two of them), let me tell you why I did that. Ready?

Because I could.

It's a simple as that. Unless there's a mutually-agreed-upon pledge to be exclusive, nobody is cheating on anybody. A woman trying to trade sex for an exclusive relationship is no more entitled to that relationship than a woman's beta orbiters are entitled to sex just because they do favors for her whenever she asks.

Listen up, ladies: Men are not vending machines you deposit sex coins into until a relationship falls out.

SammySilver09 · 2021-05-02T03:42:06+00:00

She's living in the same Cinderella fantasy land as most women. She's been used up by Chads and she's so damaged that she can't be in a real relationship. She still wants a top 10% guy to sweep her off her feet and the everyday guy is invisible.

The fact that she's dating guys who can have multiple women tells you what type of guys she's talking about (top 10 or 20% Chads).

Good men have been there the whole time, but they don't give you the tingles or meet some movie character standards. A Good man is boring and everyone knows that you can do anything to a woman as long as you don't bore her.

2021-05-02T03:11:55+00:00

Women choose the men they accept into their lives. No pity from me.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2021-05-02T03:12:54+00:00

"What is the satisfaction for you?"

Well.. you know how you have multiple guys who are willing to provide anything you want when you know beyond any shadow of a doubt that you won't be fucking them? It's a lot like that.

Fucking and having multiple women in my orbit means my emotional and physical needs are always being met. And, all I have to do is make sure my sheets are changed. When the sex is awesome, anything goes and if you find another woman's hair ties and underwear in my apartment you're going to swallow me whole because she's a threat.

I get all the benefits with none of the downside.

GrannyLesbian · 2021-05-02T03:43:17+00:00

One of you whores are going back to him in 72 hours.
Did you get hit with a frisbee in your forehead?

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2021-05-02T03:01:35+00:00

She wants commitment from Chad while completely ignoring the average guys.

NickTesla2018 · 2021-05-02T02:36:29+00:00

QUIT DATING CHAD?! GOOD GRIEF?! They will never get it. Guess what? You can't change him! You also love the drama!

MentORPHEUS · 2021-05-02T02:20:50+00:00

She has both bad vocal fry, and a bad burn on her forehead where she fried it with her hair straightening iron. She's also shooting this in the passenger seat of his car while he's outside doing something. AAAAND, she ends a sentence with a preposition!

She's obviously well provided for materially. I call this out as she's too dull, emotional, and annoying to be worth hanging around with when not having sex. The way you gain and keep the position of main girlfriend or spouse to a high value man with options, is to continuously be the option most worth choosing.

dachengchuan · 2021-05-02T09:21:51+00:00

funny how when men do the same as women it is suddenly a problem ... all women date multiple men at the same time and find it wonderful.

Joaquino7997 · 2021-05-02T09:51:32+00:00

I don't believe this woman nor any other woman who claims that men whom date multiple women "break [them] down" and "makes it bad for the next man who comes along."

Sorry, not sorry.

Women juggle multiple men all the time. And while they claim to be looking for the "right" one, she's really giving each of these men just enough attention to ensure he will continue to provide her with money, resources and/or access to something she can't get on her own. So if they can do it, why can't men?

And okay, let's just say the breakup was hard for her. Well guess what, stupid? Perhaps you should HEAL and focus on bettering yourself FIRST before trying to get into another relationship. Blaming her ex for how poorly she will treat the next guy is just a damn shame.

TL,DR: Women: don't blame your ex for what you do to the next.

xkulp8 · 2021-05-02T07:53:55+00:00

What's with the Mikhail Gorbachev birthmark

Joh_Ghurt · 2021-05-02T07:52:03+00:00

She'll probably doesn't want to hear the answer to her question:
The men she dates just don't give a sh*t about her or any other women's feelings.
The consequences of their behaviour for the women or the wants of those women just aren't a relevant parameter.

What does an elephant care about the feelings of the ants he steps on?

It sucks to be of no significance, Princess.

ZarBandit · 2021-05-02T08:38:14+00:00

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CondensedBemusement · 2021-05-02T10:01:40+00:00

Good lord Woman ... look in the mirror for a minute.

Now ask yourself why a man who's dating you would NOT be dating someone who looks a great deal better than you do?

10 bucks says what you call 'dating' was just a series of booty calls when it was convenient for him. It's your fault you read more into it than he ever said.

And seriously ... you're an adult (or you're supposed to be), so adding a sound track is just pathetic.

newtomtl83 · 2021-05-02T12:07:28+00:00

Clear your fucking throat.

Snoo33176 · 2021-05-02T12:08:01+00:00

You chose him, sweetheart - you picked him. What's the satisfaction you get out of choosing a man who dates multiple women at the same time?

kew05gp · 2021-05-02T14:09:55+00:00

What a self righteous statement. Like women don't break men down. She should buy a dog or die alone

MrNeurotypical · 2021-05-02T14:44:27+00:00

Well, Karen, the answer is simple: We don't do that. We make a decision as to whether you'd make a good mother or a good whore. If you can't be good at one or the other, we get rid of you.

Bluecherrysoft · 2021-05-02T15:52:47+00:00

God she is soo irritating, with her eye movements and hand gestures ugh

Enough-Staff-2976 · 2021-05-03T14:42:30+00:00

Women love to date men far above them socially. The man that beat her up, has more social currency than the men who would treat her nice.

ofcourseathrowaway45 · 2021-05-02T14:40:42+00:00

Yeah those men had a female do that to them once.

Just switch your genders and you have your answer sweetheart

happychickenpalace · 2021-05-03T02:07:30+00:00

Are those scars on her forehead? Bruises?

soonershooter · 2021-05-03T14:12:52+00:00

Snooty

CreditEmbarrassed467 · 2021-05-03T21:51:50+00:00

the same story every time. they only go for the 'best looking' or most confident/chad guy. when youre at social situations such as a party or whatever, girls all fawn over the same 2-3 guys. so chad will kiss 1 girl at the start of the party or on friday night, then he'll fuck another a few hours later or the next day, meanwhile 2-3 girls are trying for him. then next week, a new group of girls joins the party and the same thing happens. in times gone past each girl would get 1 guy and be happy about it. a potential wife who is say a '6/10' who would be great for another 6/10 guy is now trying hard to get a 8/10 guy and if he gives her a bit of attention or a quick kiss then she is happy. then 3 hours later when she is at home he is fucking some 6.5/10 slut who he was texting from tinder or who arrived late to the party. meanwhile the 6/10 guy is also at home alone and all their potential children are never born

Fancy-Ad657 · 2021-05-05T23:59:51+00:00

*plays the smallest violin in the world*

captainsalmon99 · 2021-05-07T03:27:53+00:00

She’s a nutcase! Looks to me me likes the abusive fresh outta prison chads!

uvglassman · 2021-05-12T18:52:44+00:00

Yeah I know hoes like this. They say shit like ohhh my man cheated. when from day 1 they disrespect his ass and treat him like shit without ever giving it a 2nd thought. Then he finds love by accident by someone who cares and has to give his (wife or girl) some Bs.

Why? because they basically feel they owe them. Some still cared about them. But if true love finds a guy then he will dump the terrible women who doesn't respect him.

Respect your men ladies... Otherwise another will

unified_masking_tape · 2021-05-15T17:45:09+00:00

Sit down with a woman and tell her that she's your ideal option without a shadow of a doubt, and that you're happy to drop everyone else. Watch her immediately run in the other direction.

If that strategy had good results in any universe at all we might do it. In fact, we do it by default when we're younger and feeling more genuine/naive. We stop as we get older and have it slap us in the face enough times.

Title	Alpha widow complaining about being used/abused
Author	Mg70w
Upvotes	145
Comments	71
Date	May 2, 2021 1:19 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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