dealing with severe pms

2ndal · 2018-05-01T20:39:26+00:00

You can't control her behavior or her emotions, but you can control how you react to them. Right now you're choosing to be annoyed by her, you're choosing to argue back, you're choosing to just agree with her to placate her. Choose something else.

Your first conscious choice should be to not argue. What good does that do? None. Women argue. It makes things worse.

Your second conscious choice should be stop giving your wife's behaviors or emotions any weight. They're like a fart in the wind. It stinks for a moment but it'll be gone soon enough. You don't go chasing after that fart, running around sniffing until you find it again, do you? You sniff and marvel at it's distinctive odor before bidding it farewell. Until next time, old fart!

Your third conscious choice should be to pick up a goddamn book and read it. I recommend Way of the Superior Man. This will give you a new perspective and help you better understand your wife's emotions and behaviors not as something to fear or get angry about, but as a sign that she is a woman and that is how women communicate: with their emotions. It will give you tools to better separate yourself from those emotions. Not in a distancing-yourself way but in a hey-that's-interesting way. You may find it difficult to read, but that's why you're going to read it twice, cover to cover, to really let it sink in.

Or you could just keep doing the same old shit that you know doesn't work.

screechhater · 2018-05-01T20:13:18+00:00

are you fucking kidding me ? This is my life, bitch

Rian_Stone · 2018-05-01T20:20:07+00:00

So don't bear it.

I'll bet she keeps the tiger on a leash out in public, ever wonder why you don't get the same courtesy?

redsprinklersystem · 2018-05-01T23:06:06+00:00

Stop being such a fucking bitch. Follow that advice yourself, then tell it to her.

Mine has been letting fly with the lunar cunt routine since she came off the pill a few months ago. You know what I do when I notice it flare up? With all of the smarmy mock sympathy I can muster, I place a supportive hand on her shoulder, look deep into her eyes and say "It's OK honey, I understand". She then rants about "You're a bastard man, you understand fuck all blah blah blah..." Then I laugh in her face, give her a cheeky wink and fuck off to do something productive with my time.

Seriously, tease the fuck out of her and bail, every time. Mine usually hate-fucks me like a demon just before the painters arrive, but if not I've had fun with her little tantrums rather than be negatively affected.

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-05-02T02:25:20+00:00

OP, this is the cycle of your life, you should embrace it, because it is a reflection of you.

Your wife of one year, with PTSD, ~60lbs overweight?, low libido (dry honeymoon?), is quite aptly filling the container of marriage you have provided for her.

You have been in askMRP for over a year. Near as I can tell, you haven’t read the sidebar, aren’t working any dread, and instead of using this program that works, you reach in here once in awhile looking for a band-aid to your problems.

Please correct my if I’m wrong.

I read you are in pretty good shape from your outdoor activities.

SO FUCKING WHAT! How’s that been working out for you. All your problems fixed?

She treats you like shit, with impunity, because you do NOTHING to let her know you aren’t going to put up with her shit, and you can do better.

But you CAN’T do better, can you? Because you aren’t doing anything to grow as a MAN.

She’s not afraid of losing you because you are nothing to her.

Become a man worth losing. Become a man other men want to be, and other women want to fuck.

Fix your shit. You’d be surprised how everything else (women) get in line.

Go to r/marriedredpill, find the OYS thread for each week, and read about what other men are doing to own their shit.

Sidebar.

ALL your answers to questions you can’t even think of, are there.

CaptJohnLukeDiscard · 2018-05-01T21:41:37+00:00

You sound autistic so I’ll keep it simple.

You have three choices and you should mix them up to keep her off guard.

Agree and Amplify (with a smile): Yeah, I’m a giant asshole. Sorry but you picked me like that!

STFU: say nothing and ignore her comment. Keep the conversation about other stuff like what’s for dinner or just don’t talk to her at all.

Fogging: “I’m sorry you feel this way but don’t you think it’s actually because of XYZ (some random other thing to distract her).”

There is no way you could pull off amused mastery right now.

alpha-zach · 2018-05-01T23:24:17+00:00

Slowly work back into ignoring. Pick your battles. Re establish frame. If you don’t, you’ll lose her to Chad.

BostonBrakeJob · 2018-05-01T23:42:20+00:00

Ever thought about getting off your lazy fucking ass and getting the shit done before she has a chance to ride your ass about it?

markpf73 · 2018-05-01T23:49:10+00:00

Sounds like you have a great sparring partner to train with

LBEB80 · 2018-05-02T10:22:47+00:00

Hysterectomy

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-05-01T22:10:04+00:00

Are you, or are you not responsible for her feelz. Think carefully.

You should be going to the gym or doing something else with your amazing life... Oh wait. You can't even handle that.

screechhater · 2018-05-02T03:29:03+00:00

Oh hi drunk motherfucker

Not only will a woman crawl accross broken glass to fuck, they will also control their pms bitchy behavior for thr right guy

Tebulus · 2018-05-02T18:14:36+00:00

I am now just agreeing to everything and doing what I'm told because it is easier than arguing for half an hour and then doing it anyway because she walks away. Eg, feeding dogs, something that needs to be done.

I dont remember who posted this, but is that the kind of guy you want to be? A slave to a woman with no self respect?

nastynickdr · 2018-05-02T21:41:26+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3qm961/verbal_intercourse_is_optional/

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-05-01T21:21:08+00:00

If you were more attractive, this wouldn’t be an issue.

Did she have severe pms with Chad when she rode him under the bleachers back in high school during Friday night football?

Does Chad have to turn into a supplicating little faggot ass beta bitch just because she’s on her rag?

Wake the fuck up faggot. Stop reading mainstream advice. She isn’t dying.

JudgeDoom69 · 2018-05-01T20:24:27+00:00

for three or four days she is unbearable

Holding frame means you do not let this affect you in any way. She cannot control your mood, and you cannot control her behavior.

Once you get to that level of frame control, your life will be better because your mood is not tied to hers, and your sense of worth is not tied to your ability to control her.

You might find that her PMS isn't so severe when she realizes it is wasted on you.

red-sfpplus · 2018-05-01T21:49:42+00:00

I dont see "leaving and going to the gym" as one of the things you have tried.

Try that faggot.

Title	dealing with severe pms
Author	cheltman
Upvotes	3
Comments	53
Date	May 1, 2018 8:11 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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