I'm going through the divorce process I initiated and am actively applying dread. I have yet to experience a "main event" and I don't expect one coming. I look for signs of genuine desire as the ultimate buy-in, which I have always equated to a sort of pure overt sexual initiation from the woman. I've been told that what I want to look for his not genuine desire, but investment.

What are signs of investment and what does that look like in my situation?