So lately since my last rant I have started to read.. ALLOT.. and I was already lifting as of about 3 months before finding MRP.. Unfortunately still working on STFU...

Should I confront a man my wife has interest in (he's not surely aware as she hasn't shared it with him but told me ) and ask him to back the fuck off (he comes off interested to me as well but hasn't made surely direct moves), or let her handle her mess...

Here's some relevant history.. I was the worse kind of drunken captain a ship could have, from lazy to sexual demanding and whining.. In this time she built her own frame and ship (once or twice even bluntly asking me to step the fuck up and be the Man she wanted) I was too drunk so she decided I was a poor mate let alone a replaceable co-captain and started to open up to options.. She developed a fantasy/emotional affair for one of our kids friends dad, and again came openly to me about it (Main event/Shit test and I was too hungover to grasp it).

Visit 1- One day while I was at work he came over and they both decided to soft test boundaries he said "hope it's not inappropriate I'm here right now" she responded "no it's fine we're not doing too well" which led to them drinking (he went home and brought it back) and talking for about an hour about kids, marriage, and other crap.. no-one was direct to each other.

Lots of drama later, we're doing better but he seems to be pursuing by visiting when I'm not home (3 times and usually short 5-10 minutes)..

Visit 2- he was picking up his child, tried to start conversation she says but she was short with him because she felt guilty me and her had a really good previous day.. He may have picked up on it and left.. She text me to tell me and I whined like a bitch which was not helpful..

Visit 3- they spoke a few minutes at the door.. She text me to tell me.. I had just found MRP, and got chewed out on my first post, but I was reading and was able to retain my self control.. Unfortunately I did not STFU and asked tons of questions..

Visit 4- He showed up again, we're doing much better now (her rope is probably more like 700 feet now) .. She's being short with him but he starts being short right back towards her and "she felt he might have insulted her a little"..

I tried my best at STFU and didn't ask anything about their conversation or how he insulted her, however I did tell her that the day she responded with "we're not doing well" she basically said "fuck my husband and what he thinks", so she needed to fix this problem.

I said, the reason she texts me everytime he comes by is because she feels it's wrong or she's covering up something extra from his visits.. She said no she tells me because she feels guilty.. So I responded with, then that must mean you're still allowing it because you want to see why he's still showing up, and that's okay for her. However for me it's insulting and I will no longer be insulted, if she doesn't want to put an end to this by telling him he's not welcome at my house when I'm not home. I'll be making the decision to separate our relationship as I'm better then that. She agreed that's why she allowed it, however she would rather save our relationship then continue being curious about his intentions. She also agreed to tell him he's no longer allowed inside the house when I'm not there, she wants to wait until next time she sees him, to not make things awkward for the kids as they're friends...

As I'm reading this, I'm feeling it's more my ego that wants to be a macho man and confront him. I think I handled this well and do expect it to end, but let's see what others have to say since I already wrote it all..