How do I know if I should marry her?

flexingtonsteele · 2024-06-20T15:17:35+00:00

You already said you don’t want to get married

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2024-06-20T15:56:53+00:00

Sounds like you need to learn the hard way. You should marry her: Sex is good, BPD, Lots of guy friends. Forget the prenup too.

redandswollen · 2024-06-20T16:13:10+00:00

If you envision a future with kids, she will become a nightmare. They're all fun and meet your needs until you put a baby in one.

wackedoncrack · 2024-06-20T15:49:05+00:00

BPD alone is a hard no.

You can do better.

Jhadiro · 2024-06-20T16:02:35+00:00

Do you live with this person? How long have you been together for?

I ask because I was with a BPD girl. I had no idea until about a year into the relationship she showed me "her true self" after we had been living together for about 3 months. It got really bad for me. Before that, she was amazing.

badgermonkeyIII · 2024-06-20T15:15:15+00:00

You already know the answer to this question.

Praexology · 2024-06-20T17:08:10+00:00

Screw what everyone else says, I say go for it.

I am 27. She is 28.

She's older than you, that means she'll be more mature and can help you.

But i feel that I don't want to get married.

You dont want to get married right now no time like the present!

I love her but I an not IN love with her.

Nothing a little time can't solve.

Lots of guy friends.

This means you'll probably get a whole host of buddies after you're married and wont have to text her all the time cause she'll have other people to text. Score!

BPD and her family is different to mine.

Awesome, a challenge! Honestly, having some conflict within family has always been an enjoyable aspect of my holidays. Plus girls with BPD are known for their skills at maintaining relationships.

Honestly, you should get off reddit and go marry her right now.

For everyone else, I am making a long call on rope and antidepressants. what an idiot.

BoringAndSucks · 2024-06-20T15:20:52+00:00

What are your stats, betch?

Why do you want to marry?

SmashNDash23 · 2024-06-20T20:24:24+00:00

BPD is crazy bro, they’re crazy as fuck. Well that’s pretty harsh to say but I say that so you understand the seriousness of it, it’s not just like anxiety or depression… BPD is on another level. You will vacillate between the greatest guy she’s ever met to Satan himself when she puts you through the “splitting” cycle. People with BPD either see you as all good or all bad and they have an incredible fear of abandonment and also engulfment (fear of loss of independence) and this balance can never be met unless she’s undergone extensive therapy and has it under control. You’re likely in the idealization stage with her right now, where everything is good and she’s probably telling you how she’s never felt this way yada yada, getting sex 24/7, like freaky shit.. best of your life, that’s the one positive of BPD chicks, they will sex bomb you to hook you in. I’m not telling you what to do bro but just proceed with caution.

Zestyclose-Bag8790 · 2024-06-20T18:12:53+00:00

Just to be extra clear, when you say BPD you mean BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.

If the answer is yes, then you are playing with fire. If you choose to marry her, your life will be unbelievably complicated in every way.

You sound on the fence today. Suffice it to say you need to research BPD.

kim_wang · 2024-06-20T16:00:33+00:00

You want to wife up a FWB?

Ivabighairy1 · 2024-06-20T20:27:47+00:00

BPD? Run! Read the sidebar. I’m guessing she’s the only one you’re screwing and you lack options? Read and put RP into practice.

riggedved · 2024-06-22T09:47:43+00:00

She says her body count is 7. She has BPD, she’s a year elder to you and now she’s chasing you for marriage. Are you blind son? Likh ke lele bhai her body count is 20+

stevecapw · 2024-06-20T18:02:03+00:00

If you're looking for some type of "infatuation" version of love, you definitely should not be getting married. Tell this girl that she's wasting her time with a loser. You sound like a woman.

Str8-Jacket · 2024-06-21T01:27:54+00:00

Bro, save yourself and her the headache if you’re not IN love with her. Divorce can be arduous, stressful and inevitable in this case. Also, I’m no fucking genius but there are a LOT of cases wherein the women go out of their way to care for your wants and needs until they lock you down. I recommend to just keep enjoying the relationship and having fun while it lasts because unless you struck gold, you’re damned if you do and you’re damned if you don’t.

Jihocech_Honza · 2024-06-21T08:18:53+00:00

There are only religious reasons to get married.

2wo2wo3hree · 2024-06-21T15:00:11+00:00

My answer to this will always be, DON’T MARRY HER unless YOU have some kind of religious requirement. We can also make an argument for military folks who get extra compensation for being married in order to better support their families but it’s hardly ever worth it.

Otherwise, there is absolutely no incentive for a man to marry a woman in today’s western civilization. Everything is for the woman’s advantage.

DanishApollon · 2024-06-20T21:18:04+00:00

It doesn't sound like you are at all excited about the thought of marrying her.

Don't marry someone you are not excited about marrying.

Schnookumss · 2024-06-20T23:36:14+00:00

You’re not in love with her, stop wasting her time and yours. Great sex isn’t that hard to find

WarezFez · 2024-06-21T08:28:07+00:00

Don’t go with older woman

SucreTease · 2024-06-21T12:48:46+00:00

If you marry a BPD, your last day of happiness will be your wedding day. Guess how I know.

BigBoiTFB · 2024-06-22T15:53:56+00:00

If you have to ask us guys you are not ready. Even if the girl is good, you are not ready. Lots of guy friends, that alone is a strong no.

Tyred_Biggums · 2024-06-20T23:56:22+00:00

$50 says she’s not actually BPD.

dontgetusetoit · 2024-06-20T17:38:41+00:00

Hard NO, BPD is a real thing, people will say AWALT but BPD is out of the league. Do you think you walk on eggshells. Do you think you want to give up arguing. Do you think you change your plans. Do you think you have to hide some things.

Single yes to above is a No for your question.

BecomingABetterMan1 · 2024-06-20T18:30:47+00:00

Why do you need to marry her instead of keeping her as an LTR? What do you gain from doing this?

WishMeLuck77 · 2024-06-20T21:30:07+00:00

You don’t have other options, don’t you?

Chard-Far · 2024-06-22T09:17:17+00:00

What do you have to gain?

OmoElegba · 2024-06-24T11:29:56+00:00

Move in with her, and you'll see.... Just try it. How can you marry someone if you don't even know what living with them is like bro?

Seems like a lot of red flags you're mentioning.

But seriously... move in with her, but make it a situation where it's your house and your domain.

Set rules and boundaries from the first fucking second before she steps in your house, and enforce them, or your gonna have a bad time.

Sex, and temporary complacency alone isn't worth a lifetime of hell. So test her. How to test her? Fucking ask here and read the material.

Don't be a fucking aimo for some good pussy and a little submission. It's often all temporary and you will find out how temporary it is when you sign those wedding contracts and she finally knows she has you forever. And forever means until she gets bored.

Arigold_Lloyddddd · 2024-09-05T10:38:15+00:00

Are you married yet?

Title	How do I know if I should marry her?
Author	undisclosedpain
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Comments	47
Date	June 20, 2024 3:01 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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