How to pass this comfort/shit test

Alpha_Rising · 2016-10-01T00:07:45+00:00

Playful responses when she pulls away:

"Good save. You might infect me if I get too close."

"My bad. It's totally inappropriate for a husband to touch his wife like that."

UEMcGill · 2016-10-01T04:43:47+00:00

So you're new to RP and want to know why she pushes you away when you are touchy freely? Because you're being a fucking creeper. Attraction is not negotiated.

Read the side bar, lift and get awesome. Don't come here asking how to sprinkle alpha on it.

You should reward her with intimacy and not seek it from her. Once you learn and internalize this you'd realize that.

FireTempered · 2016-09-30T23:53:13+00:00

whats the deal, and should I have better responded??

It is not what you say, it is what you do. Your actions, your positive, playful attitude, will get your point across better than any words that you can say.

In fact, you cannot negotiate her into wanting to be affectionate. You were doing fine till you started talking. For now, just STFU and keep initiating.

Be patient it gets better. Best

breakingchains507 · 2016-10-01T00:41:16+00:00

My wife used to do this alot. With time and persistence, youll develop a DGAF mindset about it. It will get to the point where you dont even recognize it as rejection. Like you, it wore on me for a while. However, my DGAF developed and i just got to the point where i persisted out of spite just to mess with her (im a goofy bastard at my core) and imagined her as an elementary little girl saying "eww he has coodies!", which keeps my mentality light and calm. It helped me get passed things like that for a while. Now, i just say goofy things like, "well duh you dont feel close, cuz you keep having muscle spasms and your arms are getting in the way silly" and i grab her in a big bear hug and squeeze her making ridiculous sounds until i get a laugh out of her, or "i understand.. ive got a lot of awesomeness going on over here and not sure you can handle it" while doing some stupid pose and a corny grin. Converting negative feelz to a funny/laughter setting drastically changes things, if youre able. It may last for 2min and she will go back to being standoff-ish, but you keep at it and it may be 5min next time etc. Its all about mindset, maintaining your cool and remembering that her words mean shit. Take control of her emotions and steer them back to where you want them. If she doesnt play ball, no sweat. Dont allow her negativity to infiltrate your frame and press on with your day. She will do it less and less when it doesnt illicit a reaction from you or stops affecting you. My two cents.. Cheers

cholomite · 2016-10-01T07:23:35+00:00

I second what /u/uemcgill said. You're a creeper. You sound like the creepy guy with rotten teeth who hangs out next to the bar entrance and tries to bum cigarettes and hug on girls.

You're not attractive and your game is weak. I don't care how long you've been lifting or how well you dress because I already know it's not enough. This isn't a test that you can "pass" with A&A or some smooth confident line. Women don't like being touched on by unattractive guys, and right now you're unattractive. You seriously need to work on your game.

Did you really say the things you put in quotes? I sincerely hope not, because that is probably the most unattractive beta thing you could have said in that situation. I'm not going to tell you what to say or how to respond because that would just be putting a new coat of paint on a broken down car. Read up on game and seduction, make yourself more attractive and less available and start over again.

Also, lose the "not an asshole" frame of mind, I think it's holding you back.

sexyshoulderdevil · 2016-10-01T20:07:24+00:00

Asking her what's the deal and just adding a smile is not amused mastery. It's weird.

40mullet · 2016-10-01T21:04:40+00:00

I woke up, wife had shark week and was drinking coffee in the living room, I went there wearing only underwear, put her hand on my stomach (sixpack), she pull down my pants and gave me blowjob. Week earlier I didn´t gave her a kiss whe I wanted because situation wasn´t just right. When you get it, you see the all situations more clearly and know when to act and when to hold you back. Anyway thats how I see things and OI should be your goal but when you are there its more like recognizing situations as they are rather than getting rejected all the time and do not care about it.

trp_dude · 2016-10-03T17:30:35+00:00

What's the deal?

You're unattractive. My wife did the same thing before MRP. This is not a shit test or a comfort test. It's pure disgust with your body.

Come back after you've got yourself a sixpack and then we'll talk. Until then, lift.

nastynickdr · 2016-10-03T20:38:09+00:00

You are using logic against feelz. Feelz always win. You are trying to negotiate attraction, this doesnt work. She pushes you away because shes not attracted to you, and she doesnt know why, she just FEEELZ like that, you asking why wont do jack shit about it, aside from making her feel less attracted to you. Becoming more attractive and less unattractive will.

You: logic logic logic?

Her: feelz feelz feelz

You: So if you feel your feelz, why dont you logic logic logic?

Her: Feeelz feeeeelz FEEEEELZ!

BobbyPeru · 2016-10-04T03:38:32+00:00

If she pushes you away, leave the situation. Leave for an hour or two. First, wait a while so it doesn't look like you butt hurt. Try to do something fun so when you come back you'll have a smile on your face. Stay away long enough so the butt hurt goes away. Work on your Kino. Is this something that happened suddenly?

JuniperSunshine · 2016-10-06T16:05:27+00:00

I used to act this way when I wasn't feeling connected to him. I needed to spend some time just talking, hanging out, or being silly. Touching without being connected lately (as in, the last few days) = "I don't want you to touch me right now". It's like a tiny version of being assaulted or date raped. (Calm down y'all; I said a tiny version!) It's instinctive and even now I get the urge to push away occasionally. It doesn't mean I'm not attracted to him, I'm just too in my head and want some real connection first. My brain has been hijacked by feelz, basically. So don't take it as her not being into you or starting a fight. Now I just say, "Let's play Fallout for a while while we talk (and have touching/maybe sex later)." If I jerk away, my hubs just laughs and says, "Aaww, poor cwanky wittle giwl!" and I get my shit together.

Title	How to pass this comfort/shit test
Author	prarrott
Upvotes	1
Comments	22
Date	September 30, 2016 11:41 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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