Not only in my marriage but I find myself doing this a lot at work.
But for the sake of example I will use my marriage.
My wife was painting the walls in the bathroom. We’re remodeling and she wanted to participate and I don’t like painting. I let her paint. But she was leaving globs of paint on the floor and on the wall. I pointed it out and she got pissed.
I just looked at her when she copped and attitude and walked away to do something else. She’s not lazy at all she will help out a lot around the house but she does things so inefficient and stupid imo. So I try to guide her or suggest better ways. But she’s very sensitive and take every suggestion as a personal attack.
I stopped otherwise it ends in a fight. but now I’m left with globs of paint to scrape off the new tile.
She then says everything she does is wrong in my eyes. I AA but that always pisses her off more. So I just stop talking.
I know you’re going to say I’m in her frame but I notice I micromanage a lot in other areas so In reality she’s not wrong.
I’m very observant and Even at work. I will see people do things wrong and feel the need to correct them.
I am working at being a better leader and I know micromanaging doesn’t make a good one. Anyone have advice on thing?
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