Been with LTR for 5years now, most of this duration being in college. I was aware of TRP before the relationship started so I always made sure to lift, screen girls, always improve myself etc.

As a result, throughout our relationship I’ve always stayed on top of it: I went from 145lbs to 205lbs at 5’11, dressed well (gaining weight to fit in clothes helps!), been social, didn’t take any shit from my GF, and got a great paying career, rarely say I love her (said it for the first time 2 years in and she gets so moved she gets tears in her eyes when I say it). I easily have more SMV than my LTR and she has said it too but not in those exact words obviously, more so in ways such as “you could totally be a contestant in those game show since you’re so outgoing. I definitely could not do it”, things like that.

I kept her along because she’s always complemented my life. Low maintenance, takes care of her looks, never denies sex, helps with things when I need it, etc. That’s a background of our relationship.

Anyways, since being out of college, we both started living at home. Although we have well paying jobs, it was a good idea to save up some money as we live in a high cost of living area. She lives further away from work than I do, and we talked about both moving in together at the beginning of 2020, so we would be able to see each other more than now (1-2times per week) and during college she slept over most nights of the week at my apt anyways since we enjoyed each other’s company. We also talked about plans to get married in the future for the first time.

However, over the last month she started expressing doubts about living together and marrying soon. She said since we’ll be able to live with each other for the rest of our lives, it may be more fun to try and live independently nearby so we can still see each other more but also have the experience with living with our friends.

Of course I will never live with someone who doesn’t want to live with me, and I’m in no rush to live with her, but it’s alarming for her to back out of these plans. It raises concerns for me when I think about our future and I don’t like how the future of our relationship seems uncertain and like it’s in a gray area. What is the best frame of mind to proceed with? Every few days, I’ll think about the situation and feel contempt towards her