Shit testing over diet (IF and Keto)

Scurvemuch · 2016-08-24T13:45:52+00:00

Isn't she cute?

Isn't her trying to prove to daddy how much she knows cute?

Oh, you mean she is being a bitch / cunt for not respecting your Authoritaaay!!

Yea, I bet you probably haven't led in your home, and she doesn't have the experience of you being right and knowing what the fuck you're doing.

My wife told me about 6 months ago that I need to eat breakfast. That I am tired in the morning because I didn't eat breakfast. I chuckled, kissed her forehead, licked at earlobe and told her to bend over so I can show her how tired I was...

Whether the above happened, or not, thats doesn't matter... what matters is the attitude behind it. Stop fighting with your wife...she just wants to be noticed.

redearththeory · 2016-08-24T13:59:58+00:00

She's criticizing you to assert that she gets to decide whether your behaviour is acceptable because thats one way to dominate a person. This is the real issue. If you DEER you've agreed that she gets to decide acceptable behavior and you're now petitioning her to judge you favourably - you've already lost the real fight. Next time she does this smile, laugh and tell her that her unsolicited advice is annoying and when you want her opinion you'll ask for it.

2ndal · 2016-08-24T13:52:55+00:00

She is right. Modeling proper behavior with your kids is important. The good news is, both parents can be effective behavior modelers. In this situation, not only can she model the behavior of eating breakfast every morning, you both can model adult behavior of having differing opinions.

Model away, honey would be my response while continuing to do what I want to do with my own body.

fuckMeRedFuckYouBlue · 2016-08-24T14:10:13+00:00

Dude, getting bent out of shape about this kind of harpy shit is what caused me to have a shitty marriage for oh about 18 of our first 18 years.

Internalize the pill and develop some IDGAF and OI when it comes to this stuff. "Ok babe, I'll think about it." "Thanks for the article babe". "Going to the gym now babe" are what I would have said in order.

In my house, my wife gets to decide the quality of food the kids eat. Organic food? Check. Farm-raised meat? Check. I don't really care about any of that, but she's passionate about it and i let her roll with it and fighting about the $25 a week higher grocery bill isn't worth it.

about modeling proper behavior for our child and that children need breakfast so I should eat breakfast

One last point. I'm not following her point at all. Kids and parents are different. Need different stuff. To me, it's ok to tell your child that you're doing A and I'm doing B and that's how it goes. You're going to bed way before me, I'm allowed to have a beer and you're not, you're eating oatmeal for breakfast but I'm good with coffee, etc.

onmyownpath · 2016-08-24T14:15:44+00:00

Aren't you a sensitive little bitch? Is being bothered by her opinion something a leader would do?

She is just talking. They are just words. If she were forcing breakfast into your mouth that would be worth your anger. Just DGAF about her opinion on what you feed your body.

I like long showers. When we first got married my wife was bitching at me in front of her parents about wasting water. I just looked at her and said "you don't get to tell me how long I can shower or how many times per day I take a shit. You can shower fast if you want" Her dad busted out laughing and her mom's mouth fell open. Wife was red in the face. It never came up again except as a joke. I still bring it up when I need to illustrate that something is completely out of her control and her opinion is irrelevant.

Just add breakfast to the list of things she cannot control. "it's none of your business how many times per day I eat or take a shit, you don't get to tell me what to do with my own body" and then do not ever discuss this stupid shit again.

nastynickdr · 2016-08-24T15:09:59+00:00

"Eating breakfast is important for concentration"

"It sure is"

Dont eat breakfast, resume your normal activities. Shouldnt be that hard.

BetaFeelz · 2016-08-24T14:48:39+00:00

Breakfast/concentration:

"You might be right, I'll keep that in mind if I notice I'm having trouble focusing."

Keto/carbs:

"You might be right, carbs are important."

If you want to dig into her concerns just ask questions. Diet stuff often comes back to anxiety about increasing SMV, and anxiety about shared meal time/prep.

druganswer · 2016-08-25T00:17:11+00:00

dude... less serious.

"Eating breakfast is important for concentration"

1) "Have fun being fat."

2) "What did you say again? I already forgot."

3) "I'd rather be sexy than smart."

4) "No pain no gain."

Are you getting the gist? Don't respond seriously.

Anyway, it is about modeling proper behavior for our child and that children need breakfast so I should eat breakfast.

This I would at least respond to with more than a joke... at least kind of explaining while still pretty much blowing it off. I don't have kids, but I guess that I would at least consider a concern regarding the kids health to be something that we could discuss as more than a shit test.

I would point out that the kid is growing, I'm a full grown adult. I do a lot of things the kids don't do. Kids need to do as I say, not as I do.

You could get these points across with the same sort of lines as above.

nopeToThe43rd · 2016-08-24T13:38:29+00:00

Sounds like she's trying to lead, not being led. What do you want for your children? In the same position I'd make it a point to get them up and get healthy breakfast in them and her, on the regular (oldest teenager, right?), because I believe that children need to start the day with breakfast.

UEMcGill · 2016-08-24T13:38:59+00:00

She thinks you don't know what you're talking about. What have you done to show her you do? If she's been your mommy for years it's a hard habit to break.

ShangoThor · 2016-08-24T13:56:33+00:00

Why is this pissing you off? She sent you something. Your daughter is 1. Big freaking deal.

Follow thru with your diet. Show progress and she will shut up.

I don't know why sending you an article makes her a cunt. It is freaking article to bolster her point. Ignore and move on.

Why should this "subtle warfare" piss you off? She sent you an freaking article.
Send her 3 articles about IF.

assured_destruction · 2016-08-24T14:01:37+00:00

Its a long row to hoe man. You are trying to change obvious common knowledge that has been driven into the psyche since like the 60s. Breakfast is my fave myth, yes feed the kids sugar, that will het them through the day.

That modeling behavoir article was sponsored by kellogs coco puffs. Breakfast IS important to their sales goals.

Title	Shit testing over diet (IF and Keto)
Author	fuckMeRedFuckYouBlue
Upvotes	4
Comments	34
Date	August 24, 2016 1:20 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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