Obligatory stats:

:--|:--| Week|2018-06-03 Age|early thirties Wife's Age|early thirties Years Married|6 Kids|2 Months RP|4 Height|6' Weight|196.6 Body Fat|30.0% Abs Visible|No 5x5|3 times last week Squat|125 Bench|120 Overhead Press|80 Dead Lift|160 Row|105 Dread Level|4 Number of Women Besides Your Wife You Could Call Right Now to Chill This Weekend|0 Name of Last Girl You Flirted with Who Isn't Your Wife|Natasha How Many Days I Actively Gamed My Wife|0 Two Things I Do to Make Me a Good Catch|Leader of men (run a team of 30), I do fun things with my kids and they love me What Would I Do If I Didn't Have Wife/Kids to Go Home To this Weekend|Work on projects with friends How Many More Months Until I Am an Attractive Man with Options|6 My Initiations|2 Rejections|2 Sex|0

I've been on the path for four months now. Subbing to the various RP subs and reading daily has been helpful to keep the principles at the top of my mind. I keep track of my progress weekly as that is how my mind works and how I accomplish goals. My body is transforming and I am starting to see a difference in myself and how I am treated by others.

Wanted to ask you guys about initiating. Before kids it was super easy to initiate sex, just had to pay her some attention and she would reciprocate touch and we were off to the races. Or even better, she would initiate. Unfortunately for me, I can't recall the last time she initiated, which is fine as I'm OK with that being my responsibility but I can't lie that would be a nice bonus. Now it's hit or miss if she will reciprocate touch or freak out when I get near her (e.g., "I don't want to be touched right now"). I actively kino throughout the day with the random shoulder massages, back scratches, and ass grabs. We are fucking ~0-2 times per week. My current method is to gym -> shower -> find her and start massaging her and taking her clothes off until I can seal the deal if she is receptive.

I asked my friend what he does to get things going and he said he just bites his wife's ass and that works like 75% of the time. Need to try that one.

Can you guys share some tips on how you initiate? I realize I may still be too unattractive to her to be initiating which is OK as I am fine going monk mode for a few months to work on myself.