Where do i go from here ?

snatch_haggis · 2018-01-15T09:24:18+00:00

Alright man.

Sit down. If you're a drinking man, you might wanna pour yourself one.

So I went through your post history, and there's a lot going on.

First of all, Captain Save-A-Ho, you stuck your dick in crazy.

My take, she's probably BPD, NPD (Narcissistic), or maybe just a plain ol' terrible person.

The posts about her sitting around playing CoD and reading Twilight for 4 hours a night were especially cringe worthy. Is she a manatee? Because it sounds like she'd be a manatee.

She's definitely treated you like her manservant for basically the entire relationship, and you've been carrying her, your kid, and the two kids from her last baby daddy on your back this entire time like a good plow horse does.

Did you get a paternity test, BTW? Please say yes...

This one made me shed a few very manly tears for you, man:

Hell this week, I attended my GF's 12 year old's Parent-Teacher Conference, he's having a hard time in school. I think she should have gone , but when I got back , she didn't even want to stop playing long enough to listen to what the teachers had to say.

Sweet Jesus, Mary and Joseph, laddie. I have no words.

Then there's this gem:

She wont leave her job ( made 29K last year) cause her boss lets her do what she wants , so i need to make more to compensate for that

That was a year ago, bud. And she's not putting any of that 29K into your shared account? Where is it going?

You still haven't sussed out that you're a meal ticket and that she wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire?

But hey, enough about her, let's talk about you.

Dude, you're still posting in deadbedrooms despite being at this for over two years.

What was your MAP? What's your mission? Who are you? Who do you wanna be? Did you listen to anything you got told here a year ago?

Two years ago you said:

The Relationship is stale and on life support. its the same shit every day , I'm shouldering the workload , while she gets to sit around and do nothing , watch some Mindless Kardashian shit , or play games on her phone.

Of course, you also said this:

i hear everyone say lifting/gym.. and yes i want to do it.. just cant find the hours.. already geting up at 5:30 am..

So here's the deal man.

You probably have a sweet, wonderful daughter. who is growing up in this terrible house with these terrible examples of what male / female relationships are supposed to look like. That kinda sucks.

I think the main thing is that you haven't worked on yourself, and because of that, you have no abundance and you don't think you can do better than her. That's really depressing because I don't think I'd wish this woman on my worst enemy.

She senses that you think you can't do better, and because of that, she owns you.

This is why we say lift. This is why we say STFU. And yes, this is why we say sidebar.

You haven't once given your stats. Are you fat? Can you go out and get laid tonight? Let me guess, no you can't. And because of that, you're stuck getting shat on, over and over, almost daily. This is why your parents want nothing to do with this girl.

Can you turn this around? Will she ever pull her weight around the house and respect you? I dunno, but until you start working on yourself, and living for yourself, she sure as shit ain't gonna change.

First of all, keep the fucking job.

It's tragic you're in IT and making less than 100K. Keep pushing yourself forward there.

If she can't support you doing that, take your daughter to your parents and get the fuck out of there. I'm sure they'd love to help you with that, they've been dying to see you walk away for years, sounds like.

Next, get to work on yourself.

Lift, get fit, get to the point where you like what you see in the mirror. Other women will like it too, and whether you stay or you go, you need to see that abundance, and believe in it, so no woman ever treats you like this again.

Say that to yourself. This is it, never again.

You are the prize, motherfucker. If that's not true, make it fucking true.

weakandsensitive · 2018-01-15T05:44:52+00:00

dance monkey dance.

SimilarSalvation · 2018-01-15T08:50:27+00:00

about ready to walk here

are you?

because this is a threat you can only make once. If you give her this ultimatum, be prepared to follow it through until the very end...

Triadis3 · 2018-01-15T11:01:53+00:00

Not that I think this will change your trajectory in any way... but you are my buddy.

Cautionary tale... He's going to die young, sick, broke, fat, hated, asexual, angry. Living his life for other people.

Like you. You've wasted two years of your life. Why would you do that?

You aren't even fucking married. Just get the fuck out.

C_Till · 2018-01-15T05:37:26+00:00

Life is too short my friend. You love you, the kids love you the GF...not so much. Why would you wanna be with someone who treats you like that? I say walk.

HLM34 · 2018-01-15T07:05:21+00:00

Work on you, if she is disrespectful tell her no stfu. It sounds like she would be fucked without you. Do you have someone else who can look after kids? I.e can you tell her to contribute or kick her out

hystericalbonding · 2018-01-15T14:15:30+00:00

about ready to walk here, and be every other weekend dad

You're already an every other weekend dad. With your work hours, you're nothing but a paycheck. MRP is full of military, doctors, traveling salesman, and workaholics for this reason. WISNIFG has tools for setting limits at work as well as at home.

When you are at home, you need to be 100% present.

I don't understand her income situation. Has something changed from 2 years ago when jacktenofhearts gave you advice about it?

blarggggggggggg · 2018-01-15T19:11:52+00:00

Jesus dude, I get it because I beat my head against the wall with a disordered woman for years too - but you've got to get it though your skull - She is never going to change - you can't make her change - you can only change you.

See a lawyer, make a separation and financial plan to get an apartment and take your kid and get the fuck out. It's scary and hard but how much harder could your life be as a single dad of 1 kid instead of basically a single dad of 4 kids (including GF in this). Be sure to paternity test your daughter just in case.

Life is short and you're wasting it in an unteneable situation that will never get better. You have nowhere to go but up.

screechhater · 2018-01-15T21:59:28+00:00

no matter what, you cannot fix broken

If you are a White Knight, get a grip and move the fuck on

Lift, read, and for God's sake, figure out what your truly want....

Smitehades · 2018-01-15T05:57:26+00:00

Get relationship counselling.

Title	Where do i go from here ?
Author	Venge97RI
Upvotes	2
Comments	41
Date	January 15, 2018 4:52 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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