Controlling her fucking hypergamy.

neat_man · 2019-01-19T13:48:19+00:00

if she branch swings it's all gone

Not necessarily - if her father's sensible and you have a good relationship with him, he'll understand where you're coming from if she does choose to branch swing.

That said you're playing a dangerous game here. If she's really head over heels in love with you, then treating her badly could put your job in jeopardy.

mrpthrowa · 2019-01-19T15:19:36+00:00

You want this so much that you’ll fuck it up for sure

Cool it

_the_golden_rule_ · 2019-01-19T13:53:09+00:00

Whatever control you're seeking, know that it's an illusion. You're not going to defeat millions of years of evolution, that's just hubris. Keep your SMV high, stay in frame, and pray lol

sehns · 2019-01-19T14:01:29+00:00

Sounds like you've got some borderline autism level analytical thinking there. Take it down a notch.

I remember a friend of mine got his job in a similar way. As predicted things with the girl turned south, and the following day the father called him into his office. "I heard things went south with Sarah." "Yes, Mr Smith." "Very well, then starting today you can start by just calling me John." Names changed obviously. He hadn't cheated on her or anything like that it just hadn't worked out. He shook hands with him and that was it.

Your results may be completely different, but the morale of the story is if this role is a career maker for you then don't cheat on her or give her any reason to make you out to be a bad guy that broke his little girls heart. Make yourself an asset in the business then you should be able to keep the role pretty easily. Ride it out for at least 2 years for the sake of your resume so finding a similar role if you do have to quit or get fired will be a lot easier.

SeasonedRP · 2019-01-19T14:35:11+00:00

A few thoughts. It sounds like you don't have other options to make a comparable amount of money. In other words, this guy is going to pay you more than what you're worth because you are making his little princess happy. Don't upgrade your lifestyle to where you are dependent on earning more than what you could get at another job.

Since most men are BP, to the ones who have daughters, daddy's little princess can do no wrong. If anything happens, he'll blame you. Even if he doesn't, why would he keep someone around who is earning more than the market value of his services? It is thus extremely unlikely he'll continue your employment if anything goes south with this girl regardless of whom he perceives to be at fault for ending it.

You say she has "a lot of dudes orbiting her." Girls who have a lot of orbiters/guy friends aren't LTR material. She'll branch out at some point.

The best way to control hypergamy is not to get in an LTR with someone who has red flags. It sounds like she has them, so I doubt you'll be successful. Thus, if you want to make good money for a while, do it, but keep in mind that it likely won't last long, and consider how being let go from this company will affect your job prospects.

Corporation_Pull-in · 2019-01-19T14:33:27+00:00

I also started lifting to increase my SMV and to counter this dread she joined a volleyball team

So she's working to keep your attention? I think you're good bro.

About those other dudes, just make it so you're her only one and make it impossible/impractical for her to meet them.

RedHoodhandles · 2019-01-19T14:14:40+00:00

Controlling her

Read up on Stoicism. Here's your mistake.

kick6 · 2019-01-19T13:48:37+00:00

Well that’s certainly an interesting way to get your pussy where you get your paycheck. And it’s still a bad idea.

throwawaybpdnpd · 2019-01-19T17:16:22+00:00

You sound controlling and manipulative...

The truth is, you can’t control her; you simply can control yourself hoping that she will follow

If she doesn’t, there’s nothing you can do

TRP8myfeels · 2019-01-19T14:55:46+00:00

Your deepening relationship with her will hold her to you and your understanding of her sexual and social and recreational needs will retain her.

If she is enough for you then be good to her. If she is just a stone on your way to wealth, expect to desire more and leave her.

Don't do both. Make a plan and prepare but either way dont blame her for shit, take care of yourself then take care of her then everything else.

Your life falls to shit when you lean too far into anything and let other small things slide.

Never stop fucking her randomly, the instant you are alone, or after a big build up.

Always cultivate her wild side. Make her and keep her a fuck hungry animal that cant stop thinking about the last time and cultivating the next time.

Take her places she hasn't been, grow together.

Treat her best you can but dont spoil her. With absolute power comes absolute corruption in one form or another.

Avoid ruts and cut the bad branches from your fucking tree.

Hypergamy happens. If you see it, consider cutting her loose instead of working with it.

Most of us dont have time for that shit. Either she is yours, or shes out and you have 9s to chase.

Dont worry. Whatever you do, it sounds awesome.

Yashugan00 · 2019-01-19T15:45:00+00:00

keep her mom and dad close by - social shame will keep her in check.

make sure her mom likes you

don't forget to stand your ground and pick a fight sometimes. girls need drama. and they don't respect you if you're a yes man

sure you know this already

dark_rabbit · 2019-01-19T15:27:39+00:00

Jesus, it sounds like you’re in competition with her.

northernlaner · 2019-01-19T13:48:45+00:00

Yeah don't get married or engaged

aanarchist · 2019-01-19T15:52:38+00:00

You're simping too hard. If she's useful to increase your finances fine but if she's a branch swinger nothing you do will keep her satisfied. Hypergamy is a bottomless hole, even chad will get screwed over that's why the only guys she can "maintain" attraction with are illusions in her head.

tallglassofstfu · 2019-01-19T17:25:37+00:00

get her pregnant = the only way

Sighters · 2019-01-19T14:15:13+00:00

i like being optimistic sometimes but don’t put all of your eggs in one basket. nothing is guaranteed. but be prepared if your plan doesn’t follow through with her father or your relationship deteriorates.

desistrategist · 2019-01-19T14:17:50+00:00

a wise man once said, 'never eat where you shit'

dr_warlock · 2019-01-19T15:09:34+00:00

By the time you're 30, you'll have so much better options than a 6.

cluelessguitarist · 2019-01-19T14:20:31+00:00

You cant control hypergamy, focus on what you can, yourself.

Justanotherredditt · 2019-01-19T16:03:23+00:00

Even if she branch swings and her parents like you enough for their daughter they will keep you around in hopes that she will change her mind. I’m in an incredibly similar situation to yours - I started working for her father when we were together and then she broke up with me - all of a sudden I get a pay raise and they want to give me a promotion. You will always feel as if there is an expectation you two will be together. Like others said, it’s a dangerous game and can and will fuck with your mental help. PM me if you’re interested in knowing what the other side looks like.

CRGRO · 2019-01-19T17:44:35+00:00

Think about it like this, if your money depends on your relationship with a mans daughter, the daughter's relationship with you is the source of the mans reason for giving you money, which means her happiness = your paycheck. If you think that carrot comes without a stick I'm sure you'll learn quick. Your livelihood is your responsibility. Good kings are good warriors but not all good warriors are kings much less good kings.

Big_Gifford · 2019-01-19T19:36:00+00:00

Take the job man. If things go to shit and dad fires you, who cares. You would have gained experience and contacts. Take the job, become a linked in whore, make connections and rock the job. Even if she takes everything, she cant take your work experience which you can leverage.

st-johnson · 2019-01-19T22:27:20+00:00

U want to get engaged to a woman who you think will leave you for someone better looking? You're mad mate

ntvirtue · 2019-01-19T14:18:50+00:00

You cannot control another person unless you chain them up and keep them under armed guard.....If you think otherwise you are fucking stupid.

koldkillah83 · 2019-01-19T14:29:27+00:00

This sounds like a movie plot that could go extreme beta pretty quickly. Advice about doing this for a year or 2 for the resume sounds pretty legit.

Psychological_Radish · 2019-01-19T16:26:26+00:00

Controlling her fucking hypergamy

Your entire mindset is wrong. You truly do not understand the Red Pill.

Trying to control hypergamy is indicative of a Blue Pill Beta mindset where women are either bullied or negotiated into submission. If you have to resort to such tactics, then she isn't in your Frame and you don't have a Red Pill relationship.

A healthy relationship is centered around a woman's genuine desire to enter an Alpha male's Frame. If she stays loyal, it's because she wants to please you, not because you've bribed her or bullied her. This is what ultra-religious cultures like those that exist in Saudi Arabia, India, etc. get wrong. Relationships there are all about beating the woman into submission, often literally, instead of inspiring genuine desire.

Classy_Amir · 2019-01-19T16:31:17+00:00

This is pure manipulation and I love that. Using the girl for the position. Here's my advice: make sure the father wants to give you the position because you deserve it, not because you're her daughter's boyfriend. Be his bro. And we'll see who'll swing branches. If she does, well.. you've still got the position and the slut shaming she'll deserve from her parents, especially the father.

actualimprovement145 · 2019-01-19T14:13:08+00:00

Don't shit where you eat rule exists for a reason.

CaptainBW · 2019-01-19T17:02:05+00:00

Damn. I have no tips to give. This all seems like a bunch of overthinking faggot shit to be completely honest. Unsubscribe.

boy_named_su · 2019-01-19T17:09:04+00:00

You can't control people, only choose good ones and ghost bad ones

She's gonna start testing your hard once you sign the deal with her Dad

Crixusgannicus · 2019-01-19T17:45:42+00:00

Personally I never mix business with where I stick my dick. If you insist though, what you need is an ironclad employment contract written by a lawyer who knows his shit. Keep in mind as your SMV increases, even if you don't "use" it, her paranoia will tend to increase. Guaranteed.

Melanoma_man · 2019-01-19T18:24:24+00:00

You can’t control hypergamy unless your SMV is much MUCH higher than hers. A alpha friend of mine who is very good looking, does MMA etc well his GF is a HB5.

He just wanted to settle down and they is a very slim chance she could branch swing to a better and bigger tree.

He spins plates now and then, but she is the mother of his children.

TopOccasion29 · 2019-01-19T19:37:32+00:00

You seem more concerned about your resume and the money from the position at her father's business than her. If that is the case then, spend one or two years working with her father and plan your exit strategy during the time. Some in the comments are saying don't shit where you eat and preaching abundance which i understand and agree with but this could give you great opportunities for your career if you play your cards right.

A girl with a lot of orbiters is a red flag imo. One bad day , her emotions change and she's off riding chad orbiter, and then blames you for not giving her enough attention.

If you truly love her and want to be engaged and them married to her (i highly advise against this) then it's a very difficult & dangerous game even if you're on good terms with her parents especially her father. Remember daddy's little princess can do no wrong. Tread carefully! Just my thoughts goodluck.

mrpoopistan · 2019-01-19T22:33:58+00:00

> join her fathers business

You're dead. I promise. Report back in 5 years to tell me I'm wrong.

You won't be the top dog in her life. Her dad will. And that's the best-case scenario.

Also, everything you're talking about is shockingly outcome dependent. Control her? Go work for her dad?

Fuck all that. You need to have a situation that's within your control, and this plan ain't it. You are headed for disaster, and it is entirely of your own making.

Here's what's going to happen. She's gonna hit her mid- to late-20s. The attention train is going to start falling off. She'll get "bored". She'll cheat. Then your position with daddy will get nuked, because nepotism always favors family. Then all this beta male chumminess goes for naught.

Study what the terms alpha and beta really mean in primatology. It's not this internet self-serving ego bullshit guys throw around here.

Among primates, an alpha controls resources and mating. A beta benefits from the alpha's position. A gamma survives by not pissing the alphas and betas off. And an omega is a dead ape.

You're not the alpha. Daddy is. You're the beta, and you're going to pay hell when daughter dearest swings against you.

bookloverphile · 2019-01-19T22:56:26+00:00

Don’t ever rely on a woman or her dad for your career success.

Melanoma_man · 2019-01-19T23:11:12+00:00

Quite chubby spots etc not revolting but I wouldn’t even plate her in hard times.

cheetopapito · 2019-01-19T23:33:43+00:00

You’re a goofy

mrHappyPotatoe · 2019-01-20T03:18:19+00:00

I fuck around wit coworkers. But somewhere should be drawn a line. You should treat the situation like the father will fuck your life up if she loses tingles for you.

embracingtheredpill · 2019-01-20T04:13:59+00:00

You can't.

If you try to control it you'll fail harder.

Case closed.

Bedtimeshine · 2019-01-20T15:44:19+00:00

“I have a chance to kick my resume into overdrive at the age of 25 but some girl might fuck some other guy, what do I do?”

SirKolbath · 2019-01-19T14:40:59+00:00

You can't. Next question.

FrankVillain · 2019-01-19T16:23:23+00:00

some are way more good looking

Doesn't mean nothing, they are shit if you keep up your status going up. You will have to be always ahead with your ambition, reach some goals, don't let yourself go and you'll be fine.

But you ain't suppose to mix work & bitches and their family.

Kpwn88 · 2019-01-19T17:01:49+00:00

Well as a happy MRP guy I'll tell you that dread game needs to be on point for a LTR. I'm going to advise you against taking the job, because then you will be in his frame. Then he will expect you to marry the bitch. Taking a job based on nepotism rather than based on your actual merits is an easy way out as it is, but the fact that it could blow up in your face makes it like playing Russian Roulette with the gun half loaded. Not worth the risk imo.

cuztrp · 2019-01-19T17:15:31+00:00

If you wanna be her little bitch for the rest of your life, go for it.

Honestly it just sounds horrible. You know she's hypergamous just like any other woman and at some point or another, you guys will break up.

I have a friend from a 3rd-world country and he met a German girl. He gamed her right, married her, and migrated to Germany. Found a job, an apartment, and everything went smoothly for a few years until shit went wrong and they divorced. Not sure what exactly happened, but he got deported 2 months after the breakup.

Now he's working in a calling center in German with a way below-the-average salary and is seeing a psychiatrist to overcome what had happened to him. He's BluePilled to the brim and hyper romantic.

Unless you want to be with no real career and homeless, go for it. Be her little bitch.

The worst case scenario is when her vagina dries up because of the eventual boredom of the relationship, she'll explicitly fuck other guys and you'll just take it and be a good boy.

InsidiousCurve · 2019-01-20T00:39:41+00:00

Listen to this: Are you a female? Why are you trying to control her?

You shouldn't care that she has other guys orbiting her lol. All this anxiety and lack of mental control. This is where having Dark Triad traits come in handy because all those thoughts never enter into consciousness. The red pill community cannot stress this enough: A girl will never complete you, fulfill you in anyway whatsoever- that must come from within. Years of conditioning make this idea unfathomable because it gets shoved down your throat for eternity, but in reality, it's an endgame of feminism itself: to turn men into the good beta cuck security providers that women want after their sexuality is dried up. Before that happens, they could care less about your feelings.

Title	Controlling her fucking hypergamy.
Author	modimian
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Date	January 19, 2019 1:39 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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