Does anyone else stop talking to girls on dating apps if they don't try to continue to the conversation by asking questions back?

GreeneRed · 2016-04-30T22:31:19+00:00

Yep. If she isn't enthusiastic, it probably won't go anywhere. Just another Tinder girl looking for validation

hd40 · 2016-05-01T04:02:35+00:00

It never ceases to amaze me how many girls have "Won't respond to hey messages"

I only get "hey's" from chicks

Twrecks2 · 2016-05-01T06:34:13+00:00

I don't. You simply can't hold them to the same standards as yourself.

Put yourself into their shoes:

You open up tinder and there are 25 messages waiting for you from good looking guys. It's so hard to keep up with because most of them reply instantly and they try really hard to get your attention. So chatting becomes a chore and it's so hard to think of ways to continue a conversation with all that going on. Guys should just do everything anyway right? It's not your fault if they cant keep a fun conversation going. Besides swiping is heaps of fun because every time you swipe you get a match!

That is the general mentality you'll be dealing with.

Docbear64 · 2016-05-01T00:26:15+00:00

Absolutely, i did that even before i found TRP though, to me a chick selfish in conversation would be selfish in bed. I've fucked chicks who might as well not have even been there they were so dead in bed and so yeah if a chick can't reciprocate with conversation i assume she just doesn't know how to reciprocate at anything .

ElCuloTeAbrocho · 2016-04-30T23:35:16+00:00

I expect them to show some 'basic initial curiosity' about me as I do with them. I know that if I wanted to I can feed the fire of an interesting and fun conversation, but why bother if they don't step up to the plate? Still, getting together early is the name of the game.

getRedPill · 2016-05-01T04:26:15+00:00

Some reciprocity is required. She must show some interest in some way. Smile, look impressed, something.

hhex · 2016-04-30T22:32:32+00:00

Save your questions for the dates you should be setting up. Texting is for logistics.

Darkredsubmarine · 2016-05-01T16:37:57+00:00

I sometimes send a generic neg along the lines of "well you're great at conversation" or "do you know more than one words replies?"

For the effort of a few seconds, the net gain is that a couple of girls will try to be more interesting.

Some will scoff and unmatch or simply ignore you. Fair enough, you know where you stand.

Just don't get butt-hurt about these things.

CircleOfO · 2016-05-01T08:45:27+00:00

This is pretty much 100% of my experience on dating apps. They are a complete bust.

I think women today are a complete bust. And hence why any time I read field reports, I don't believe a word of it.

Even going out to bars, last night I got my first ever compliment in about ten years. Some woman asked me if I was single for her friend, a pushing 45 hambeast eating peanuts of all things. I lied and said I wasn't single. She explained that I was a "handsome man" and that's why she was asking for her friend.

It's depressing to think that after all the work I have put into myself, training at the gym, being the best in my field of work (or one of), putting myself out there by going out alone to bars, clubs, classes, singles events, the best I will ever do is a beast like that.

AS for tinder, they respond 3-4 times, that's it. It doesn't matter what I do. Whether I get sexy instantly or if I am interested in some common ground. Yet as a man, I'm the one expected to send them something earth shatteringly ground breaking. What am I? A fucking performing monkey?

Speed dating is another complete waste of time. It's usually a group of girl friends that show up who aren't interested in anything more than getting bought drinks by saps. It's nothing more than a validation party. Guarantee you after they felt they have milked enough saps, they all of them fuck off into the night never to be seen or heard from again. That's about 30 minutes in real time if you're lucky. Then you've got a room full of sad fucks wondering how this whole thing suddenly turned into a sausage fest and I'm stuck listening to some bloke stinking of aftershave telling me about life in the plant machinery business.

There has to be more to life than this. Is this dating? Where am I going wrong here? I am out of ideas and close to just ending it all.

[deleted] · 2016-05-01T06:35:06+00:00

Yes, or she is a waste of time fishing for compliments

ThisTension · 2016-05-01T07:37:53+00:00

If I wrote the last message in silent until I get a response. This is usually a stale conversation anyway.

randarrow · 2016-05-01T15:00:54+00:00

Of course you stop responding.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-05-02T14:03:57+00:00

I do this to girls I know intimately to

Thotwrecker · 2016-05-01T06:54:39+00:00

Numbers based game, dude. Don't feel any type of way about any individual conversation.

When she doesn't respond, I'll say really dumb or offensive shit to try to polarize them into telling me to fuck off or bang. Like the text equivalent of shit or get off the pot. So if she's not responding, I'll do ONE more ping, and I'll make it overtly sexual. That will generally either get a response - positive or negative - which lets me close the lead or escalate to the next step.

Generally, chicks do this because you ask stupid ass questions or say things that go nowhere. Like "Oh, cool, I see you like to cook" in response to her first picture being her cooking something. Yeah no shit, what is she supposed to say?

Remember, girls (and humans in general in sales cycles) choose paths of least resistance. If she has to THINK in order to respond to you, then it's no good, she'll just not respond.

But what do guys think chicks want? Stimulating, intelligent, quirky conversation. So they do that, and she doesn't respond, and they get butthurt because they typed up some smart comment or something they thought was smart.

Dumb it down, get sexual early, polarize. Limit the brainpower she has to put in.

Title	Does anyone else stop talking to girls on dating apps if they don't try to continue to the conversation by asking questions back?
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Date	April 30, 2016 10:12 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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