Hey fellas, how to stop feeling like trash?

Big_Red_suppository · 2018-04-11T18:40:03+00:00

Learn to love self?

Learn to hate yourself. This isn't negative thinking by the way. Being a piece of shit for a decade getting high isn't working out. So you think year 11 is when things will take off? Is that the life you want? Set some achievable goals and get moving.

NewBoomAction · 2018-04-11T19:52:31+00:00

Get to gym on a regular schedule and become obsessed with the image you see in the mirror. Get to a point where you kind of turn yourself on because of how much effort and dedication it took to mold your ripped body.

Am I there? Fuck no. But I'm obsessed with getting there.

I find happiness in that.

needz · 2018-04-11T18:35:27+00:00

Meditate. Seriously.

midnightreider · 2018-04-11T19:23:30+00:00

I felt very much like you, and still do in some ways. You’re a piece of shit. What helped me was seeing a good friend at my university that I left also leaving the school a year after I did, and we’ve moved to the same school. He had all of my problems, excessive weed smoking, depression, anger, low t, never worked out, never found motivation, self loathing. I was stuck in my loop of complacency and never improved at all for a couple of years. I hated myself. When he came into town and we met up, he told me about his situation. I saw his situation as weak; why not change everything and go fix yourself? Realizing my hypocrisy, I began to work on myself and fix my problems the way I expected him to fix his. From then on, I looked at myself as someone guiding someone else in order to improve.

Imagine yourself as someone else. You’d almost certainly look down on him for not taking action and fixing his situation. His life sucks. Not only that, he has the power to flip his life, yet won’t do it. He is weak, and must either get outside of his anxiety and restrictive thoughts, or remain the person he loathes. This must be your mindset; you’re the counselor for your own self.

The hurdle at this point is trusting yourself. If you’re like me, you’ll doubt your own advice since your decisions got you to this point in the first place. This is the weak man inside of you speaking. You’ve already identified your problems in your post. Kill them. It will be very difficult to constantly improve, but improvement is the cure. You have to push against yourself and your doubts until you find reward and validation. The only way to get started is to move. Now. If you wait until you think you’re ready, you’ll never start. You’d be waiting for some kind of magical outside influence to start something that involves no other influence than your own action. You have angry thoughts, self hate, anger? Good. You’re not happy with your problems. It’s a sign that you aren’t moving forward in life and desire more. Be glad you aren’t happy with your complacency.

Stop smoking weed. That was the best decision I made on my journey. Why would you make exceptions to your goals that only set you back by making you lazy, cloud your mind, and cost you massive amount of money over the course of ten years? You’re angry because you’re stagnant, and part of why you’re stagnant is you’re getting high every day. Your hormones are probably shit. Take vitamins and lift weights. Do squats. The hormonal balance from heavy compound lifting is phenomenal. You will feel so much more awake and driven. Couple that with the removal of the haze in your mind from constant smoking, and progress will come much easier. Set success goals for yourself once you’ve traded in your demons for purpose and achievement. This is when your anger and self loathing will truly begin to go away. This takes time, and is incredibly easier said than done, but your alternative to the pain of change is constant anger and sadnesses. Im far from there yet, but I’m getting there. You need to as well.

youareshandy · 2018-04-11T18:59:28+00:00

What worked for me was to change my diet and sleep habits. Get some exercise in every day, even a 10 minute walk outside helps.

The weed and the porn isn't bad, but instead of jumping straight to it when the urge arises, use it as a self-reward for practicing good habits.

Happiness is progress. Even though you may not feel like your life is on track at the moment, every little step in the right direction brings you closer to a better tomorrow.

zHelios · 2018-04-11T19:36:14+00:00

I think you just need discipline.

Get a steady sleep schedule going.

Eat 3 meals a day. Eat healthy.

Shower every day.

Clean your room.

Wash your bed sheets.

Go for a walk every day. Think about stuff.

Pick up a hobby.

Then you can start to quit your bad habits with good ones. Remember that you won't quit all your bad habits in one day but it will take a lot of time and start with one habit at a time.

RedPilledRoaster · 2018-04-11T19:54:22+00:00

No weed and porn for 90 days. Start meditating for 10 minutes a day to train your mind to be in the present moment and away from negative thoughts about the past or future along with apathetic thoughts.

runawaychaingang · 2018-04-11T18:30:01+00:00

Why would you do any drug daily

PreOrgasmGroanLness · 2018-04-11T23:19:05+00:00

There's a book teaching you exactly how. It's Feeling Good by David Burns

Rollo_Mayhem3 · 2018-04-11T23:59:29+00:00

It's a journey, period. You slowly pull yourself out of the deep dark hole that is your life. Of course, it didn't have to be that way but right now it is. Mostly because of poor choices you made like smoking weed for 10 years. But you can't go back and the future is uncertain. Therefore you exist in the now...so ask right now what can I do to make me a better person, feel better, more successful whatever or however you define it. Right those things down on a piece of paper and set out to accomplish those items and NEVER look back. If you are addicted to weed, find a rehab program or therapist if you really feel you can't go cold turkey... you've also got to develop a positive relationship with yourself by thinking and doing good things for yourself...that should get you started for the next year or two...

BrodinsOats · 2018-04-12T02:10:45+00:00

I haven’t smoked weed for about 6 months now, after blazing pretty consistently for more than a decade. I really recommend making the change.

I’m also sober from heroin for something like 6 years now.

Change is possible, you just gotta put in the work.

Listen to this episode of Joe Rogan Experience with David Goggins for his own personal story of turning his life around from being fat and depressed to becoming a Navy SEAL.

Anything is possible. If you can visualize a better future for yourself and truly believe in it, then you can achieve it.

It’s a long road but it’s worth it. Sink or swim motherfucker.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2018-04-12T03:06:54+00:00

You have unmet emotional needs. See: Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs.

You deal with the frustration and stress by various self-destructive habits.

un_knownguy · 2018-04-12T02:54:46+00:00

The only thing that has helped me is understand who I am and trying to be more selfish, yes, I'm saying selfish, here's my story:

Ever since I was a teenager I felt this emptyness inside me, this feeling inside that made me feel like I didn't belong anywhere, I almost didn't talk, was bullied, etc....

Step 1 - Learn who you are(self awareness)

I started looking for answers and after reading a lot of books I realized that I did not know who I was, it sounds like weird idea, you might be asking "how can someone not know who they are?", yes, most people do not know who they are and why they do the things they do because they simply don't take the time to analyze themselves.

You asking this question here makes me think that you are at this stage, looking for answers because you just don't understand yourself.

What helped me was looking at my past, there's a good reason why psychoterapy is widely used around the world, is because it works, I personally haven't had therapy myself, but I basically applied the same concept to myself.

Questions to ask yourself:

What things/events happened in the past that created this situation?
What are my feeelings about that/those events?

After that you have to deal with the fact that those things happened, accept them and move on, but if you don't do this and recognize WHY you've been acting this way, you won't be able to find peace. Meditation also helps a lot too as some has said.

Stage 2 - Start being more selfish

Selfishness is one of the best things to have when used correctly, you have to learn to love yourself regardless of what everyone think/says about you, people will tell you that you cannot get better, and will probably tell you that you are a loser with no hope, but if you are selfish enough then you can start forgeting about what they think and start focusing on your goals(note: This can only be achieved after being self aware).

Stage 3 - MGTOW

This is the hardest stage to get into, I'm not here yet, but from my point of view this is the final level of a ilumination a man can have and it inludes the folllowing:

Living alone and enjoy being alone.
Doing what you love for living
Being able to bend into society without being recognized.

Do you remember that matrix movie where "agents" go to the "fake world" and they are among them but they just don't realize they are "different"?, I think that's our final goal.

Hope this helps...good luck!

[deleted] · 2018-04-12T03:40:43+00:00

Lift, diet, meditate, read, take cold showers, and get a good sleep.

Title	Hey fellas, how to stop feeling like trash?
Author	assholeofthesky
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Date	April 11, 2018 6:11 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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