How do you make conversations sexual and get the vibe across that you don't want to be friends?

Handsomebob103 · 2018-11-23T08:03:20+00:00

You identified one of your main problems in your first paragraph. Your waiting for cues. Your waiting on her to have her tell you she is interested. You are the man. You are the hunter. You are the leader. You make it known that you are interested. You do this thru body language. Deep eye contact when talking to her. You lead the conversation. And you always slowly lead the conversation from friendly to sexual. It sounds like your being the ear to listen to women blab. Find a woman. Talk to her. Make eye contact. Listen to your body. You will know instinctively when she’s interested. If she isn’t move along. Bar game is one of the hardest. When I’m running bar game I will chat with a women and let it be known that I’m into her. Then I will abrutbly leave and start new conversation with others. If they are interested they will come find you. Also do not ever buy them drinks. Girls knowingly exploit men for drinks these days. Set yourself apart as the man who doesn’t give out free shit.

Caper67 · 2018-11-23T12:29:43+00:00

Read the Book of Pook. Picture you two are 7 year olds in a sandbox. Do little boys sit and talk all day long to little girls? No, they tease them, pick on them, poke them, pull their hair, chase them.

Stop being afraid of your masculinity and your testosterone. You don't display desire through seen channels like conversation about Kenya, or flowers and gifts. But through the unseen realm of eye contact, voice tone, posture and getting to the point.

Don't underestimate eye contact. People think eye contact is simply staring into someones eyes. It's more than that. It's displaying all of your desires into her eyes. Glaring at her in a way where she can't mistake your intentions for anything else. An example from the Book of Pook when talking about a girl who once friend zoned him years before he became unplugged that he was able to fuck years later.

" I let it all out. All the desires I've ever had for her. All the work she put me through and all the frustration she's ever caused me. It all came out. I said not a word, but she knew every bit of it because she saw it in my eyes. She melted"

They key is the fire in your eyes, the fire in your lips and the fire in your touch.

Women want a man who isn't afraid of what he wants and who doesn't apologize for going after it. She has plenty of girlfriends she can talk to about fixing issues in Kenya.

Glare into her soul and treat her like a little girl.

Pluglord · 2018-11-23T08:03:46+00:00

Body language, kino, and escalation.

Bedtimeshine · 2018-11-23T15:03:21+00:00

The best way to get interest from a female friend is to put HER in the friend zone, be fun as hell to be around, be attractive, give her space and be indifferent, let her see you game other girls, and have an exciting sex life to talk about. That’s how every fuck buddy relationship I ever had started. The advice you’re getting is garbage

RaughKee · 2018-11-23T14:27:00+00:00

I can be very guilty of this. It's politeness and underlying that is a fear of rejection. If you are polite and pleasant you won't get rejected immediately, she will usually be polite and pleasant back. Then she will go make out with some other dude who triggered her on a more emotional/sexual level. You (and I) need to get more in touch with our hind-brain and how to be genuine, masculine, and unapologetically sexual. Funny thing is, I can and have done this in bursts and the response is amazing. Part of killing our inner beta is to modify these behaviors and be less worried about the outcome of being our genuine selves.

CryptoManbeard · 2018-11-23T14:28:54+00:00

It sounds like based on your questions that you want to know a friendly non confrontational way to sexualize a conversation. That's not really a thing.

If you want to be sexual you have to be confrontational. Be provocative and polarizing. Stir shit up. Make them uncomfortable. That creates tension which creates desire.

You're not the little bitch boy that makes her feel good and comfortable. You're the engaging man that keeps her on her toes.

Challenge her. Make fun of her (lightly). Tease her.

Try and be an asshole for a while and see what happens.

Tuplad · 2018-11-23T12:29:28+00:00

You're on a date, the vibe is sexual already. See if she's fun, kiss whenever you want.

I don't understand how to make a vibe sexual either, but don't let it hold you back. You invited someone on a date, it's obvious what it's for. If you're gaming in a bar, it's obvious.

People are over-complicating things.

Just have fun, kiss if she's fun enough, she wouldn't be around you if she wants to be friends. If this backfires, great, say "nice meeting you" and bounce.

SalporinRP · 2018-11-23T17:54:43+00:00

My conversations with women are generally friendly and I never express any interest. I feel like I'm waiting for queues from women to signal that she likes me but it never comes.

Yeah this is something I had a problem with too. Taking risks and expressing your interest in a girl is scary at first because you fear rejection. It's a lot "easier" to have a normal conversation than actually take the plunge and risk her telling you she's not interested.

i8a4re73 · 2018-11-23T08:21:47+00:00

Listen to Roger Allen Curries ‘mode one’ in audiobook

mikeyp_88 · 2018-11-23T13:40:02+00:00

Uhm, you tell her

jeff_vii · 2018-12-05T09:27:44+00:00

I do this quite well, more so because I enjoy mischevious conversation and detest small talk than through intention of attraction. Some things that will help

Try your best to be in shape, have style, good posture. How and who the message is delivered by matters, good-looking people are always more persuasive and less likely to be seen in the friendzone as the fuckzone compared to those who aren't.
Open conversations with high end women, with the aim of making them laugh. Other women see this and automatically associate you as high status and attractive.
As they say in sales, never be shy about telling the person you're calling to make a sale. Whilst you don't mention directly that you want to fuck them and that's why you're talking, imply it. Look them up and down before approaching and have them notice. Don't be afraid to have a little sexual banter.
Practise in traditional settings that are less intimidating to hone your skill. Everyone knows what's coming in a bar. People are there to hang with a friend or fuck.

Title	How do you make conversations sexual and get the vibe across that you don't want to be friends?
Author	Snazzy_Serval
Upvotes	27
Comments	55
Date	November 23, 2018 7:53 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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