I'm giving up

Il128 · 2016-07-31T20:50:17+00:00

Pills are a really bad idea. A gun shot behind the ear at ear canal level will do the job right. If you don't have a gun, your options are all really shitty unless you want to put together a "suicide bag" or"kit".

Or

You could stop being a whiny little bitch and start faking your way through life until you get happy. Hit the gm, read, go out and imitate people you respect in your behaviors.

Get up Bambi.

yomatt626 · 2016-07-31T20:32:51+00:00

OK, so you realize you have a problem and you're not living your life in a way that makes you happy and your answer is to wallow some more? Get your shit together, man. You're obviously a smart dude with friends who care about him, that puts you miles ahead of most guys. If going out to meet chicks isn't doing it for you then don't do it. Focus on yourself for a while and find pursuits that make you happy and enrich your life. Girls will come and go regardless, you have to be your own rock with a strong sense of self. Going out to meet people who you already hate is just going to make you more miserable and butthurt so give it a rest.

dragonpants6 · 2016-07-31T20:35:38+00:00

you'll be fine. just chill. step back and regroup. find a place where you can be happy with yourself, by yourself for a bit

648262 · 2016-07-31T21:22:29+00:00

Why don't you change?

Sementeries · 2016-07-31T22:12:34+00:00

What exactly are these changes you've made? Cause there really isn't a point in any of us trying to help you if you can't explain in detail what exactly you seem to be on about.

I won't help you nor should any of these other guys before you tell us what this "suffering" you are experiencing and what of these changes you've been making.

Frigzy · 2016-07-31T22:19:48+00:00

The best way to get rid of judgement I found was through meditation. Look up vipassana 10 day retreat. It should be absolutely free and open to everyone. May not be close by though.

Look at this post you've made. You describe how you judge others only to judge yourself. Result? Other people join in to judge you on their turn. You're in a vicious circle. But you are not trapped. You are only trapped as long as you are convinced that you are. The moment you harness the idea that there is a way out, a way out will become possible. I'm not the one that will convince you, it has to be you yourself, but if my voice is of any value at all, I know that it is possible.

These are (sentenced) criminals doing vipassana meditation to help them deal with themselves and their situation. In reality, they are very troubled human beings looking for peace of mind and worthiness. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WkxSyv5R1sg

There is a ladder to a better world out there, make it your only goal. Survival style.

pocketriki · 2016-07-31T23:04:40+00:00

Have you read any books recently? I know TRP is pretty toxic but there is generally good advice here about turning your life around. I've got the audiobook Models by Mark Manson, I know it's linked and mentioned here quite a lot. But as an anxious, depressed, and angry adult that has had no luck with women since I got divorced a year ago, this book is helping me tremendously. I don't really advocate piracy, but if you pm me, I will send you a link for it.

If you have anger towards women, it will explain why. You could and should be living a more honest, happy life. You just need to accept that life is hard, and that you can always be doing better.

Sibilant_Engorgement · 2016-07-31T21:27:19+00:00

Drama queen.

[deleted] · 2016-07-31T21:34:46+00:00

In terms of how you deal with women, you're giving off too much alpha (signalling quite a bit of bad alpha) and not giving off enough comfort. It's the opposite of the normal problem that TRP sees, which is why the standard advice probably doesn't apply to you. Look into relationship game a little to learn effective good beta and limiting bad alpha (which will show you how to do it without turning yourself into a buttfucking pussy), and read How to Win Friends and Influence People (I know the name is gayer than AIDS but it's misleading), and you'll probably have an aha moment and get it.

Funny thing is you're like 99% there and just need a small tweak. The average dude who comes here is like 10% there and needs to change the other 90% of his life.

Good luck.

EntitledShitHead · 2016-07-31T21:36:04+00:00

Dude, your friend is right. You seem bitter, and like you don't fully understand the red pill. Keep lifting, and work on talking to strangers. Talk to them until they reject you or leave. Thats the only way to learn.

4uu8 · 2016-07-31T21:49:37+00:00

You're doing it wrong. Your self-esteem is low. Work on developing it first. Once you like and accept your value, you'll hate yourself for selling yourself short for so long.

fridaykiller19 · 2016-07-31T22:57:15+00:00

Stars signs don't mean shit who gives a fuck what month you where born in doesn't change anything!

niczar · 2016-07-31T23:18:05+00:00

I have no idea what you're doing wrong here, and I get the impression you don't either. It's one of these cases where you would probably benefit from a therapist of sorts, who could help you figure out what you're doing that's harming you and hopefully reprogram it.

That's easier said than done, because in truth most are rather useless, but it might be worth exploring. Look into CBT more specifically.

the_red_monk · 2016-08-01T00:00:02+00:00

You have yet to swallow the red pill. This post is your inner beta having a temper tantrum. You care way too much what your friend thinks.

He's right though. You are a big wet blanket wherever you go.

Save yourself the trouble. When your ready, come find me and I'll chop your head off and put it on a spike in my back yard.

empatheticapathetic · 2016-08-01T00:27:24+00:00

Dude I'm similar to you. I get so Fucking frustrated and angry at times. I felt this way like an hour ago and actually read your post. I looked back in your history, and what I saw is just a LOT of anger, right at the edge. I believe you when you say you have improved but you're letting your emotions get so in control of you. I do as well sometimes but you must honestly be aware that replying to every comment on here with "I'm fucking useless. I'm a loser" is completely emotional and redundant.

If you're gonna kill yourself or whatever, then talk about that. If you're frustrated then talk about that. If you want help, then talk about that. But don't be an emotional mess, no one respects it. Have some self awareness.

If you're gonna kill yourself why post on here at all? If you want help then be assertive and ask for help and mention you think about suicide a lot and you'd appreciate any advice. Don't say one thing and do another for the purposes of attention, what are you a woman? You're not, you're a guy. So act like a dude and people will respect you. I understand acting desperate yields more results but you don't seem to act anything but desperate. Go and see an escort bro if you need to. I do and it helps me. Good luck.

mcarter7000 · 2016-08-01T12:03:32+00:00

Jesus man. Lighten up. Sounds like you just need to learn how to be warmer. Being warm is not being beta. Maybe you need to step away from TRP for a while and just spend some time talking to people and learning how to generally vibe with people and enjoy being social. After that I would focus on continuing to be warm but simultaneously reintroducing some of the TRP stuff.

vandaalen · 2016-07-31T21:02:33+00:00

/r/thatHappened

iabortedmytrphusband · 2016-07-31T23:44:04+00:00

The world has too many of your kind already. Please drown in pills tonight, k thanks!

Druidite · 2016-07-31T23:47:24+00:00

You should take a year off, just do nothing all year except whatever you want to do at all times. If you have to work to make money do that but at all other times just only ever do whatever it is that you feel like doing. Just go all out 'dont give a fuck' mode.

You should also find what is getting you angry. If someone made you upset you should go up to that person in real life and yell at their face until you feel relief

Title	I'm giving up
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	74
Date	July 31, 2016 8:20 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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