Is it just me or......

wobbleelbbow · 2018-08-17T05:51:18+00:00

Because marriage now it's almost worthless. Men get very little benefits and all the burden and obligations. At least in Western world

Quantum_Jiraiya · 2018-08-17T07:29:29+00:00

It is not unreasonable to get married, and you shouldn’t lose respect for everyone that gets married.

Plenty of marriages actually work out well, sex is consistent, and you raise healthy kids that go on to have kids of their own.

The issue is that these days you only have a 20-40% chance of that happening.

If Chad Bigmoneybags marries Sarah Putson40lbsin2yearswithnokids, sure, think lowly of him.

When Brad Imadoctor marries Brittany Nokidsbutstayathomewife, sure, think lowly of him.

But when Tim Imaredpilledandfiscallyresponsibleguy marries Cynthia Smartcaringmom, has 4 kids, sex every other day, and someone to care about him in his later years, don’t feel bad for him.

Bruchibre · 2018-08-17T06:00:25+00:00

I think getting married without a good and official reason is stupid.

- Having kids, good reason

- Becoming a president of the USFA and needing a first lady, good reason

- Getting a visa, disputable reason

- Religious reasons, well if you are religious OK

So many guys get married just for love etc. I've asked people before: do you have kids? no. They why did you get married? I don't know.

If you are with a girl for a while people always say "put a ring on her".

What for? does being married give you a false sense of safety?

prankster999 · 2018-08-17T06:46:12+00:00

I actually view marriage as a double edged sword of sorts. Just a way for a woman to lock you down, cash in her chips, after she's spent years having "fun". And then divorce you because of her inability to pair-bond, whilst still getting paid via alimony payments.

TheRedPillMonkey · 2018-08-17T12:10:35+00:00

That's because marriage was a man taking over the responsibility of a woman from her father and creating a family to further society. She was then dedicating herself to her husband's frame. Doing what it took to please him, support him, and raise his family in whatever way he chose. A few drunken abusers caused laws to be written acknowledging that women are worthless without a man, so for them to leave the situation, they needed to be still provided for.

Now, marriage is signing up to give a woman what she wants in her frame because she can leave you at any time and take half your shit because what was a safety net acknowledging women can't fend for themselves is now an entitlement she can get just because she wants to fuck the pool boy. She's trying to leave his frame the day after the wedding and insists "happy wife happy life" is what she's entitled to.

Marriage used to be the ultimate responsibility for a man, now its the ultimate liability.

light-----------dark · 2018-08-17T05:33:02+00:00

Nope, you’re not.

mugenowns · 2018-08-17T07:52:32+00:00

Men's only bargaining power is their ability to walk away. Marriage takes quite a bit of that away.

RedSkeller · 2018-08-17T16:01:18+00:00

It's a sucker's bet, and while I try to stay non-judgmental to my friends - it is disappointing to see them swept under the wave of popular opinion. That's all marriage is these days, it's a commitment of convenience. Women are told at an early age this is what life is all about and men are told they need to do it to be a stand up guy for a lady. Big daddy government and media push it because it reinforced social norms and keeps the capitalism machine running rather smoothly. So I feel bad my bro is under the impression he has to marry Jenny Suckabunchacockadis because he poked her for a few years and she wants to pretend they have a love story for the ages but you can't control the narrative obviously.

chazthundergut · 2018-08-17T20:30:30+00:00

Modern marriage is an abdication of power to the female.

It does serve its purpose though

bluechipmonk · 2018-08-17T13:51:10+00:00

Maybe they are secretly jeaoulus

oytrp · 2018-08-17T15:04:41+00:00

Depends on the context.

A guy who meets a young HB with (hopefully) a low N count. Spends years vetting and cultivating a relationship. Marries and has children. I respect that. It's not ideal and maybe not in your best interest, but respectable.

A guy who has had meh luck with women and meets a post (or fast approaching) wall woman and settles after dating for a year? Soft.

Seems like option two is becoming the norm among millennial. Like clock work, as soon as they get a LTR at 28-30s they suddenly get hitched.

Prodigalrockstar · 2018-08-17T15:55:07+00:00

I live in US, yeahhhhhh I see what you mean.

Most of the mates that have married are going to regret it very soon. I respect the ones that did it right though. They are unquestionably the minority IMO

Hyperintelligentwolf · 2018-08-17T18:44:39+00:00

You're not the only one.

Marriage in today's society seems to be a status thing, not a trust based on genuine long-term commitment...

Thunderfin · 2018-08-18T00:34:19+00:00

I don't get why you'd lose respect; I'd more-so just feel happy (or sad) for them, depending on the type of women they're marrying. I understand AWALT, but if they're ignorant of TRP, that's their problem, not mine to criticize.

mieato · 2018-08-17T16:49:03+00:00

Yes just you in the entire universe.

Khiv_ · 2018-08-17T08:26:30+00:00

Downvoted because of clickbaity title. Should have included a title that makes it clear what the question is going to be about.

Title	Is it just me or......
Author	nummas
Upvotes	94
Comments	70
Date	August 17, 2018 5:27 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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