Overcoming Complacency

GlennButerol · 2020-09-02T04:45:43+00:00

Look and research TRT.

Other than that, read The myth of siphisiss.

Seems you need another mountain to climb.

Counter to popular belief, a man NEEDS struggle in his life.

Aim towards learning a hobby, try martial arts or motorcycles.

Better yet, save up money to go camping or travel.

Really dig inside yourself and see what dreams you have. Dust off and take a look.

Dont worry about what men on the internet say.

You have to find meaning in your life. Only you can give it, or someone else will.

The meaning of life, is to give life meaning

axiscontra · 2020-09-02T06:22:04+00:00

Literally almost in the same position as you, just a few inches shorter haha. Life is a chore for me, I find solace in helping others (if I can't find meaning I'd like to help others too maybe and live through them), and just going with the flow.

Existential nihilism and stoicism comes with the game. I suggest maybe think about creating a structure that could help change society to be more beneficial to people like you (whatever that maybe) Good luck brother.

KillaJewels · 2020-09-02T10:57:21+00:00

I'm 29, STEM major + MBA, salary of $100k+, own my own apartment. 6'4, 195 @12% BF

Great.

Basically as I've reached this point I feel lately like my life is laid out before me and I can just continue as is day in day out. After some introspection I feel as though I'm missing the motivation or passion to build upon myself lately.

This is normal for people who aren't challenged or busy enough. Pick up a new hobby like DJing, live streaming/making YouTube vids (you could give advice to other men, for example), or take on projects around your apartment to give it more personality or build on the value.

With working from home because of covid, there's some slow weeks where I can literally do all my daily work in a couple hours and basically have 6 hours that I could put to basically anything...Instead I find myself wasting it on various online forums, youtube, etc.

I wouldn't call this a waste of time. You are learning and getting new ideas. I would suggest taking some of these ideas and apply to irl. Just don't spend ALL 6 hrs YouTubing lol.

My gym regimen is the one thing I maintain no matter what but its also beginning to feel like more of a chore whereas before I could hardly wait to work out.

Are you eating clean and meal prepping? Are you counting macros? Are you switching up your exercises weekly to shock your muscles? If you're not doing these things, start doing them. Again, use YouTube for inspiration. If you want to get shredded and lose that stubborn 4% BF to get you down to 8%, start drawing inspiration from others. Eat at a caloric deficit while getting your macros. Go high protein, low carb, low fat.

I'm planning on getting a hormone panel done soon

It's probably not your hormones bro. Just focus on challenging yourself. Get a low-maintenance LTR too. Nothing wrong with that. My girl and I have been dating a year and a half, and she makes my days lighter. When I'm super busy, she gets it, and vice versa. We push each other to do better and have healthy boundaries set.

As some on TRP have put it, LTRs are like game/Redpill on hard mode. Take it as great practice. Women in LTRs have a way of revealing things about you that you previously didn't know. Self-awareness is key for growth.

Vithtir · 2020-09-02T07:27:35+00:00

You need a mission. Not goals but something that moves you lifelong. Go read Unchained Man. The method he uses to expose and harness your mission is one of the best...

guynpdx · 2020-09-02T09:02:04+00:00

Is your mission to work for somebody else your entire life, let them decide what and how much you eat?

If you really want to get the juices flowing, work for yourself.

Zenwarz · 2020-09-02T07:55:47+00:00

Try Bjj bro :) you’ll get destroyed the first few month. If that doesn’t motivate you to get better I don’t know what :) plus You learn new skills

aDrunkenWhaler · 2020-09-02T10:16:04+00:00

Start BJJ, investing and a side business.
Set goals in everything you do. For example, instead of just going to the gym, set a deadlift/squats PR goal. Instead of just doing yoga, work to headstand/do the splits. Set precise deadlines as well.
Compete. Ostacle course challenges, marathons, bjj tournaments, kart racing, sailing, whatever. There's a long list of benefits to this.

2020-09-02T14:54:02+00:00

Pick up an instrument.

Start a new workout routine i.e. maybe hiking???

Get into sculpting

Maybe the things you are doing presently aren't touching your spirit. The material world i.e. pursuits of money, women, cars, etc are superficial pursuits IMO so get in touch with your mind as to whatever truly matters to you and pursue those things.

ive spent the past 4 years learning spanish and Im more or less fluent now and what that continued experience has brought into my life is immensly gratifying. In a sense you are uploading a new software (culture and grammar) into your mind and trying to incorprate that software into your personality. Its quite the challenge and very rewarding.

Im also learning the guitar. Ive experienced the same flow states as with spanish while practicing the guitar.

As for my professional life, im back in school for computer science but im also learning web design (css, javascript, etc) on my own but spanish, the guitar, the ukelele, reading, meeting new people etc bring way more joy to my spirit than the pursuit of my professional goals.

edit: try muay thai, boxing or some other martial arts. I recently got into muay thai about a year ago and its super fun going to the classes and absorbing not only the physical requirments to execute but also the philosophy of the instructurers. They often have depth to how they view the sport in relation to the human mind/spirit

get out there and volutneer or something to. Give back to the community. Thats always good for your spirit

WhatRemainsAfter · 2020-09-02T07:42:15+00:00

You lack mission.

niceguyputin · 2020-09-02T11:38:54+00:00

Meet new people in life and practise the act of “giving”. Loosen up on individualism a bit! Try to form communities and help other men

prostaddict · 2020-09-02T12:57:28+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you, but in my early 30s. I'm also 6'4'', I make $200k+ now, and I have 0 debt. I've been going to the gym for years and I have a build I'm happy with, I've hooked up with plenty of women - want an LTR but it's hard to find one.

My issue was I used to have alot of debt, I used to not being able to afford certain luxuries, I used to live in my parents basement and never be able to pull girls. I used to say I wanted to be a millionaire badly - but that was moreso out of scarcity. Once you reach a certain point where you can have pretty darn nice things, you can absolutely get comfortable. What keeps me going is the drive to compete with my other fast climbing friends. Also, I'm the only successful person from my family - I come from a lower middle class background, so I know I want to leave a legacy behind. Your motivations need to be stronger internally than just financial now

Rimefang · 2020-09-02T14:22:52+00:00

My brother thrives off complacency.

He says he has no time to do things when he spends his off time playing games and watching anime. He says he's tired and sleeps all day when he stays up all night. He says he diets when later on, he eats much larger portions to make up that calorie deficit of 8000 a day with takeout while his salads in the fridge spoil. He says he's always tired after work while sitting on his fat ass all day while I am constantly moving around at work all day.

I got no advice. I just wanna say I am more proud of you than him.

bugaboo-delight · 2020-09-02T06:55:55+00:00

Climb everest

forgetful_psychic · 2020-09-02T13:27:29+00:00

i call bullshit bait lmao

F0999Y · 2020-09-02T11:50:24+00:00

Start a side business and consider learning about stocks and trading

Dripsonhold · 2020-09-02T13:54:18+00:00

Have you ever thought about entrepreneurship? To me it sounds like you just hit a wall of success and you already have everything that you would really want/need in life, if your try monetizing a passion of yours it would create another thing you need to work for, while also helping you feel more overall happiness cause your doing something you love.

hhNibba · 2020-09-02T14:19:15+00:00

Whats your job?

-Bran- · 2020-09-02T14:19:40+00:00

I've been in same boat. I found every time I wasn't on a mission I felt that way. I find mini missions keep me happy. get uncomfortable often. Struggle more. Getting strangled in BJJ will make you forget all about complacency. Youll want to get better at it and focus on survival. Take ice cold showers. Sit in a sauna for 20 minutes. Or get into bouldering, when you're problem solving the wall you wont remember you're complacent. Practice meditation. Go to thailand for a few weeks. Hell travel to 3 countries per year. Lower LDL cholesterol by 20 points. Raise vitamin D to 80. Literally anything. Small goals give you a mission. Read 12 rules for life by Jordan Peterson.

A mission or mini missions gives you responsibility of completing smaller tasks to complete those missions. Responsibility gives you purpose. Purpose makes a high serotonin man.

Oh and definitely get a blood panel done for lipids, vitamin D and Testostorone. We are all just chemicals, anyways.

SoulRedemption · 2020-09-02T14:49:24+00:00

I do not know what your travel situation is, but take a break.

Do something different, not productive, something different to get a breath of fresh air.

reyes-shortshanks · 2020-09-02T16:03:19+00:00

A lot of the comments here are for doing something completely off-tangent, which is certainly worthwhile. But I think you're too complacent about your base- specifically your finances. At a salary like that with no dependants you should aim to become finally independent in the next 5-15 years depending on your savings. You need that pool of cash and passive income to jump on the next life-changingly good opportunity and ascend into the next level of influential/wealthy.

MysticalMike1990 · 2020-09-02T19:59:23+00:00

You could always get into tabletop strategy and Warhammer 40K. That'll burn up some of that money needlessly.

berttbeans996 · 2020-09-02T20:18:18+00:00

Do you do any STEM related work now that you have an MBA? I too have a STEM degree in electrical engineering but thinking of doing pursuing a new goal, possibly an MBA.

I too have faces this problem of complacency. The thing that has been giving me motivation is the thought of losing my cushy office job because of outside factors like jobs being shipped overseas or company failing etc.

michael1962-01 · 2020-09-02T11:41:10+00:00

Read Brodsky "how to dominate women". Aim for 1500k / year (now it is a chellenge).....

jeunpeun99 · 2020-09-02T10:46:05+00:00

As long as you chase outer (wordly, material) things you won't feel fulfilled. There is always something missing.

I do it myself.

You could read upon Eastern Philosophy/Yoga/Samkhya/Aidvaita Vedanta, there is more to it than you think at first instance. If you like an elaboration, please tell me.

kamalligator · 2020-09-02T11:21:48+00:00

Sounds like a case of ennui

krainex69 · 2020-09-02T09:35:23+00:00

Join military. It helped me quite a lot

Title	Overcoming Complacency
Author	GlennButerol
Upvotes	73
Comments	42
Date	September 2, 2020 4:38 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/il09ui/overcoming_complacency/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/overcoming-complacency.205742 https://theredarchive.com/post/205742

Comments