What do you do when it weighs too much?

Nugget_Muffins · 2016-06-07T15:48:06+00:00

Take a vacation and get yourself sorted out, sorry about your father man.

exit_sandman · 2016-06-07T16:40:18+00:00

Take a week off.

Koalasonfire · 2016-06-07T15:49:25+00:00

I have a designated shit day each week where I just do whatever the fuck I want, I try to keep it light and stay social that day but mostly I just relax. Usually sunday but it depends if I have work. It's nice to have a day like that to sort of look back on the week before it and chill out.

iamirishpat · 2016-06-08T01:42:45+00:00

This lifestyle is exhausting. Very rewarding, but it can be tough to live like this in perpetuity. This is why God created personal days.

Take a couple random Wednesdays off work. I usually do about 5 a year, on top of my normal vacation or sick time.

That Tuesday night, stay at home by yourself and down a few beers. Order a pizza. Sleep in Wednesday morning. Jerk off a few times, watch a movie you've been meaning to, play videogames. Don't shower. Basically, pretend to be a lazy teenager for a day. You'll enjoy it if you're truly exhausted, but by the end of the day you'll hate yourself for wasting a day. It'll remind you why you're living the RP lifestyle.

AlphaPhD · 2016-06-07T18:30:35+00:00

While many comments are telling you to take some time off, I would amend that to say take a couple weeks to slow down. What I mean is you can slow down or even pause some of the things you are doing, such as reading/studying/working, but I would NEVER COMPLETELY stop self improving. Always work on at least some part of your MAP. Athol mentions in the MAP that even a 0.01% improvement each day stacks up, and that positive gains can snowball.

I know death is one of those life events that no two people handle the same, and you have my condolences. With that being said I would not stop your lifting, if anything double down on it. Exercise is that one thing that will make you feel better even if you have to drag yourself to the gym.

Good luck OP.

absolucion · 2016-06-07T15:48:44+00:00

I'm struggling with that myself right now. What I've found works for me is just keeping my eyes on the prize. When I don't want to work out, I look at pics of guys I want to look like. When I don't want to do work, I look at the people who didn't put in the effort and where they are.

Taking a rest is important since rest is part of the process but a week sounds excessive. I build in cheat days/relaxation days into my schedule to help prevent burn out.

psyflux · 2016-06-07T17:17:38+00:00

Take a week...take two...decompress and get your footing.

Pro tip: Don't make any major decisions, changes, or over-extensions during the time off.

PillarofRed · 2016-06-07T17:28:27+00:00

I feel ya, bro.

Life is a mother fucker.

Take some time to yourself, and try to clear your thoughts.

Don't make any emotional decisions like a fucking women.

Seriously, go out by yourself and meet some people that don't know dick about your life and have genuine conversions.

Keep your head up, we have to keep fighting.

AlphaEndoGorillaKing · 2016-06-07T19:22:12+00:00

Prioritize and focus on one thing at a time, while moving in the direction of everything you want top accomplish. Eventually you'll be able to handle it all.

blackhawks93 · 2016-06-07T19:38:41+00:00

Don't stop. Self improvement is hard.

[deleted] · 2016-06-07T23:21:55+00:00

My condoleances. I'd take a week or weekend off and just focus on me.

DarkisKnight · 2016-06-07T23:49:28+00:00

How's your sleep? You sound burned out and sometimes over-training can zap motivation. A week isn't going to make or break your gains in the gym.

ouselesso · 2016-06-08T00:04:20+00:00

Get out of your head and experience something. Go camping or something you enjoy that allows you to relax and possibly reflect if needed. Sorry about your loss bro.

TheRedStoic · 2016-06-08T11:54:11+00:00

Schedule a day a week for yourself. Unwind, do whatever, treat it as any scheduled appointment, top priority, no interruptions. If you can't afford a whole day a week do an afternoon/evening.

I'm sorry about your father, I'll probably be dealing with that in the upcoming years. Maybe a week long hiatus is in order. Pick a place and go, silence the phone. Do you. But do not forget to get back on the horse when you return.

I heavily recommend the hiatus being a total change of scenery, several states away at the least, don't spend it milling about the house where others can find you, chores will be noticed, habit will be nagging, or even worse, you train yourself out of healthy habits in a location that provides most of your triggers.

Wishing you the best. Hang in there man.

AZTRP · 2016-06-08T15:24:57+00:00

There's strength in consistency

Your father didn't invest in you so you could slack when things got tough. He'd want you to be successful. Keep your blades sharp so you can keep cutting through life. Take a day off from everything if you must. Two days off from half your shit but no more.

The activity will move you through it. Get enough sleep, food, and time alone to remember the good things about your dad.

Equilibriun · 2016-06-07T16:25:14+00:00

I have questions for you. Why are you in a relationship that you don't see worthy of investment? Sticking around is a time and effort investment right? So if you don't want it, let it go. Dealing with a death in the fam is never the same for anyone. I would say realize you need to make you the priority now, and ALWAYS. This is what it sounds like your problem is.

Some wisdom I learned a few years back - you can't take care of others if you don't take care of yourself.

trippymofoAF · 2016-06-07T19:28:21+00:00

Endure. Take it, feel the pain, you'll only grow because of it, have HOPE, because nothing else is left, what? give up and live in misery? Feel it and acknowledge it, it's something that is not easily taken, so take your time, it won't be easy, but don't let it control you, don't be a victim, I know this all sounds chliche-BS but it can take your thoughts over and control you completely.

I was in a similar situation when I was a teenager, I was in a deep emotionless coldness for years until I realized, I am not a victim or have anything to live up to, It's my life it can be as shitty or nice as I want it to be everything else doesn't matter, the only person that showed me any type of affection died when I was 11, had a shitty childhood and bonded with a GF of basically the same background in highschool, then saw her get run over by a car in front of my very eyes, had to endure so much weight, so much pain, the world crumbling around me, it does stay with you though. So endure it, take it, quitting is the easiest thing to do, all you have to do is nothing...

glottony · 2016-06-08T00:50:39+00:00

Bro, I'm here for you.

Whenever you need, we can shoot some shit

Title	What do you do when it weighs too much?
Author	obionekennedy
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Date	June 7, 2016 3:39 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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