Why do they scream?

alpha-zach · 2019-01-22T14:05:31+00:00

Logic is exhausting for women.

Tomassi has a great article on this. Men rely primarily on logical reasoning. Women on emotional reasoning.

Men-“if it works, do it” Women-“if it feels good do it” (or avoids bad feelings)

Let’s say a 4 year old child asks you why the grass is green. And being the brilliant and logical man you are, you delve into a deep explanation about chlorophyll. You’d be an idiot. Even if the kid wanted to impress you and did their best understand(equivalent of having frame with a woman), he would at best be exhausted and confused. The best approach for bonding would be a fun story about a rabbit that made it his life’s goal to paint all the grass green because it was his favorite color. If you really wanted to teach the kid something of value, you might name the rabbit Chlorophyll.

Women aren’t children. However, for the sake of understanding them, it’s best for a strong man to think of them like big children(strong men should also think of weak men as children, imo.) A woman can handle more information and logic than a 4 year old. But she doesn’t really want to and sometimes can’t go beyond a certain point. My sincere belief is it gives them a physical head ache, like when I’d study a new subject in school with intensity. All the new information, focus, and logic caused mental fatigue and the occasional head ache. These things are helpful in that they create new neural pathways and learning, but it does physically hurt. Women aren’t equipped to handle this well.

Your best approach is to use an analogy or story if you really want to get your point across. Bonus points if it’s a real life story about something that happened to her. This is what your friend did, however he probably did it wrong.

“Hey! I got my kid circumcised!”

“You got your kid circumcised but thought that neutering your dog was mutilation. Both are cutting of the penis. Both against their individual will. Both cause the body parts to work differently and influence the sexual experience of the individual. Do you see how illogical your reasoning is?”

^{^{^Bad.}} Don’t do this.

“Hey! I got my kid circumcised!”

“Oh yeah? Huh. Cool.”

Wait ten minutes.

“Remember when you told me you thought neutering your dog was mutilation?”

“Yes.”

“Just checking.”

^{^{^Do}} this.

She’ll be confused for a bit. But she’ll recognize the interaction as having some sort of clear subtext. She may write it off in the moment. But she’ll definitely think about it later. She’ll have to make her own connections to the similarities in order to figure out the riddle. This will get the point across, and since it was done in a peaceable manner she can’t come at you yelling her head off. Women greatly respect men that can do this.

Lastly, recall a time in which you were exhausted by a woman’s emotional manipulation. Since we aren’t as emotionally oriented as them, we become exhausted by feeling lots of different emotion. This is how women feel when we try to logic them into agreeing with us or understanding something. She doesn’t necessarily want to know why you came to your conclusion, she just wants to feel like you are right. For this reason, frame and confidence are paramount in relationships with women. Use your logic to come to a conclusion, but once you are there, state it as cold, hard fact. She’ll just follow because she feels like you are right.

jacques_cousteau007 · 2019-01-22T13:41:40+00:00

Same reason you could end an argument with “BYE!!” right in their face, over and over again.

It’s your superpower.

exit_sandman · 2019-01-22T15:56:29+00:00

castration != circumcision, but her reaction was still retarded.

Vouch33r · 2019-01-22T13:27:07+00:00

Women are children. Children scream when they are powerless, this is their last resort.

FlexGunship · 2019-01-22T16:33:00+00:00

Another poster said "logic is exhausting for them" and I think this is closest to the truth.

I have a more subtle complaint. When my GF says something to me, or makes a claim, there's an expectation that I will immediately accept it and integrate it into my base of knowledge.

But there's plenty of shit that I can't just bite off all at once. "Hey, did you hear about that guy that ate a Zepplin and he could fart his way to Mars?"

"Uh. That doesn't sound right." (i.e. this doesn't fit with other facts I know... So either those other facts are wrong, or this new one is... Let's sort it out.)

"Why do you always have to question what I say? Why can't you just believe me?"

To be fair, there are plenty of times when she's right. But she doesn't support her argument at all. I think this is a female trait. "I said it, so it's true... If you disagree, then you think I'm a bad person and you hate me."

I get shit wrong routinely. Someone calls me out on a fact that doesn't make sense, I see if I can refute it, but usually end up "uh, fuck, you're right... So what the hell did I read?"

But, I think, women can hold all facts separately in their head. Conflicting things can be true at the same time. Their worldview is a patchwork of contradictions and it doesn't bother them at all.

It's also a trait of lefty males. "Gender is a construct and an illusion, but you need more women in the workplace." "There's no difference between men and women, but transgenderism is a very real thing."

You either learn to deal with this or you don't.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-01-22T15:33:09+00:00

Women are emotional creatures, and they often aren't punished for misbehavior, nor taught restraint (particularly in the era a "Grrrrrl Power!")

Also, never bother arguing with a woman; it's a waste of time.

Kommanderdude · 2019-01-22T16:59:21+00:00

Because they are children.

NeuroMnemonic7 · 2019-01-22T18:28:51+00:00

I find it interesting that while you're asking about the lack of logic in women, you can't find a logical answer to your question. They basically get emotionally overwhelmed, no one likes being wrong and most people deal with it by getting upset. Women being more emotional tend to scream and yell when frustrated more often than men. You also have to look at variables, when people feel like they aren't being heard the natural tendency is to get louder, they want to be understood. There's also cases where people, in this case women, are so spoiled that they just want their way, and so they tend to get irritating to make the other person give in or give up.

Melanoma_man · 2019-01-22T21:06:16+00:00

Because they’re mentally still adolescent

Rosace_89 · 2019-01-22T13:27:45+00:00

' don't shatter my fragile worldview and values on which i'm build and incapable of questionning because my "sanity" depends on it '

there OP

MattyAnon · 2019-01-22T16:34:20+00:00

Why do women always resort to yelling when they've been shut down by logic, something they are incapable of?

Because it works.

The man confronted his sister about her logic and she immediately began to scream at him and cut off contact with him.

People are illogical and will go to extreme lengths to prove they are right, winning in literally any way they can - even if completely and utterly illogical.

Admitting you've mutilated your son is a step too far for people devoid of responsibility.

While the screaming and removal from ones life really sucks, it's a fast way to remove morons from your life.

Also: don't argue or use logic with women, it's pointless.

Kabuki431 · 2019-01-22T17:32:50+00:00

I used to work in car business and heard this everyday multiple times a day.

MAN: do the numbers make sense to you hunny ?

WOMAN: Oh i love the car

Man: SMH

mineralranch · 2019-01-22T20:45:50+00:00

Someone who resorts to screaming is showing you that they lack self-control. Self-control is one of the qualities that primarily distinguishes adults from children. If someone is easily provoked, over-indulgent, or resorts to violence when the situation doesn't warrant it, they're an immature person that isn't worth bothering with. Over-reactivity is found in both men and women, but let's be honest, women are more likely to freak out over little things.

needoptionsnow · 2019-01-22T21:08:02+00:00

Anger problems

TRP8myfeels · 2019-01-23T00:05:48+00:00

It works.

Just laugh and stay calm.

aanarchist · 2019-01-22T16:38:56+00:00

Just an emotional tantrum due to cognitive dissonance, it's indoctrination at best that results in them saying one thing and doing another. Angry unstable women are always dishonest, they're always hiding something.

AnyDoughnut · 2019-01-22T15:11:44+00:00

Women and logic should never be used in the same sentence.

Title	Why do they scream?
Author	Thrist4knowledge
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Date	January 22, 2019 1:11 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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