Am I alone in this?

hunterpua · 2018-12-19T22:22:03+00:00

You're not alone.

I've fucked many guys' girlfriends and wives when I was younger and going on a serious rampage to get as good as I possibly can and I used to not give a shit because all I wanted was to get laid.

But here's the thing, once you actually become a better person from all the self improvement you would be doing trying to become as attractive as possible, you'll learn that a lot of your callous or even hostility towards the boyfriends or husbands of these women was all pointless.

I used to look at cool guys that women loved as assholes just because they were cool guys that women loved but when I acquired the ability to get as much if not more women and status than them I realized they're not assholes. In fact, most guys like that actually have better characters than the loser friends I had who were "not shallow".

And here's the thing I say about following the kind of advice you can find on this subreddit: Its basically like accelerating and multiplying the amount of life experience you get.

We all know that the guys here who really put in the work both have sex with more women and get rejected by more women than the average guys.

But also, based on my own experience, because I'm meeting so many women at such a fast pace I've also fallen in love and had my heart broken way more times than the average guy has.

And some of those times when I had my heart broken was because a girl left me for a different guy.

So I know how that feels and since I can honestly say that at this point in my life I have grown up enough that I harbor no ill will towards any guy no matter how douchey or extravagant he comes across, as long as he has never done anything specifically to harm me, I would feel really fucking bad about putting any guy through that sort of pain.

You are lucky.

You already feel bad about doing that shit. That means that portion of your head is already in the right place, which could mean your journey of self improvement might be a lot shorter than mine. You sure as hell seem more mature than me when I started.

DrSleeper · 2018-12-19T21:59:09+00:00

Definitely not who I want to be but it’s none of my business what two adults do together, they can be assholes if they like. Worry more about yourself and let others do what they will do.

ImJustSo · 2018-12-19T22:37:56+00:00

I just don't see it as my duty to keep a woman honest. If I slept with her and didn't know she was married, then nothing changes for me. Just because I knew she was engaged, or married, doesn't change my guilt in the issue. I did not owe her husband anything, she does. I have developed a relationship to this person, not the other person.

If I've developed any kind of standing with a woman, why would I care more about a stranger than I do her? I'm supposed to uphold the sanctity of marriage? No, not to anyone else but the person I choose to uphold that sanctity.

Who am I marrying? Am I getting married to marriage? No, I'm marrying a person and I owe this particular person whatever it is we both decide that I owe her.

Same goes for every other person. It's their duty only.

Should I assume she's a cheating whore? What if their relationship is open? Their relationship is none of my business. Should I take her decisions away from her? Should I patronize her and believe she can't make her own choices?

If she's cheating, that's her decision. She'll make it regardless of what man she meets and it doesn't soil my morals in any way if I'm the man.

Edit: I don't fuck my friend's girls. I have a duty to my friends.

One_Insanity · 2018-12-19T22:00:42+00:00

Personally, as a non pimp, I agree. On principle I find it a very shitty thing to do.

Who fucking cares about her circumstances, if she's that miserable that she needs to get dick somewhere else then that's on her and it's a major character flaw on her part.

I think it's mostly a matter of dudes getting their dick wet and making up the excuses for the women that are cheating on their SOs. It's not right. Sure he may not be the baddest of dudes but it's messed up to give him the finger.

It's just wrong, in my opinion. Why would you want to add to the incel population of the world.

mileshendricks · 2018-12-19T22:05:14+00:00

Not a lathario, and I wouldn't actively seek it out.

But if it happened and I found out later, I would continue for as long as it was fun.

tvvin · 2018-12-20T19:22:31+00:00

As a man/past husband/father who's been subscribed to this sub, while even married to get tips on how to keep "woo-ing" my (ex)wife, and also as someone whose relationship/marriage was ruined because of infidelity... Let me start off by saying, it's not a pretty situation at all. Some of the guys commenting on here, are total losers. You are right, trying to get with a woman who's broken or in a tough situation relationship-wise is tasteless and of course its not the "right thing". You'll end up seducing the wrong type of woman bro, and that's NOT what this subreddit is about.

Like ok, you can say I'm a loser because my wife left me, sure whatever, but having strong morals and a decent character is what seduction is all about on our part as males right??? If you're here to just get laid, then I feel you belong in one of the NSFW subs just throwing yourself out there. Those people don't care, nor do they judge!

californiawaves23 · 2018-12-20T02:11:44+00:00

Appreciate the responses here gentlemen... everyone has their own views and opinions. Happy hunting.

wai_yu_do_dis · 2018-12-19T22:28:46+00:00

And what's the point of this post?

TheXXL · 2018-12-20T07:06:01+00:00

What a lot of guys don't understand or don't realize is that women are not some kind of innocent babies who cannot say no.if a woman cheats on her guy, it was herdecision. She is the one to blame,not the guy who fucks her, and you know why? The guy is not the one who is in a relationship with her guy. Its that simple.

Also something I have noticed is that guys who argue like you, saying its "wrong", are just super insecure, and/or those pesky moral busybodies who act like they are the arbiters of what is right or wrong.

In short: if a girl cheats its her fault. Not the guys fault. Period.

lockalockalocka · 2018-12-19T23:40:40+00:00

If the woman is in an open marriage, then it isn’t tasteless or the wrong thing.

Funkimonkey · 2018-12-20T11:23:32+00:00

I think it’s def wrong to actively pursue something that will fuck up a good relationship. But when the woman comes for you, well....if it’s not you, then it will be another guy. I don’t think it’s the most noble thing in the world, but the cheater is the one at fault, not the other person.

Title	Am I alone in this?
Author	californiawaves23
Upvotes	14
Comments	30
Date	December 19, 2018 9:51 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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