Best article I've read for learning how to talk to people

buu700 · 2011-08-22T05:55:30+00:00

Forget seduction; this is amazing life advice.

boyfrienddestroyers · 2011-08-22T08:28:28+00:00

I've had to learn many aspects of interacting with girls trough painful (yet often hilarious) trial and error, but I can proudly say I am a true natural at this part. Yay!

Just realize every person is an opportunity to learn something new and you'll go very far in creating the illusive 'rapport' thing you often hear mentioned.

Synroc · 2011-08-22T12:39:43+00:00

Girlchase is the only seduction blog I follow anymore.

DesignMyself · 2011-08-22T06:33:52+00:00

Often, I'm great at breaking through small-talk, but there was this one girl I developed a crush on and I didn't do it. We had the dumbest most pointless conversations. Looking back, I feel more confident that she liked me too, but I didn't lead things past facts and liking/not liking enough.

Good advice here.

packetjones · 2011-08-22T04:06:42+00:00

Nice article. I feel that I am always stick in small talk. I am not the conversationalist,i an working on it though, thats all that counts.

bcktth · 2011-08-22T05:15:50+00:00

This is a sticking point of mine when going direct in the day. Great find!

merlinho · 2011-08-22T07:30:18+00:00

Great article; useful for networking too. I had to do a role-play exercise in work all about this sort of thing; talking to an actor, but the issue was that I couldn't ask any of the same questions asked by other people, and I had to go last. I wish I'd been armed with this first.

2011-08-22T17:41:56+00:00

I see posts here all the time that bring me back to my days as a salesman, so I have to ask the sedditors a question: have any of you tried being a salesman, or any current/previous sales people here care to chime in?

This is an article on small talk, which is essential to qualifying your buyers, and you learn how to ask bated questions, when selling, so that you can steer conversation into the direction you want it to go to get to the information you need to get to. [IIRC, there's even an article on that site called 'qualifying.']

The PUA's tool bag and the used-car-salesman's tool bag are remarkably similar -> small talk, qualify, handling objections, closing. Any other salesmen past or present care to chime in?

SnacklePop · 2011-08-22T18:28:28+00:00

“Hmm. Well, the reason I ask is, I first left Australia about two months ago, and my mission was to ski the Alps. I got seriously sidetracked though – that's how I ended up here. I'm planning on getting back to Europe and skiing those Alps before I make my way back to Melbourne though – seeing how charming and adventurous you appear, I thought to suggest you come with me.”

If someone wanted me to go on an international trip with them before I even knew their name, that might creep me out a bit. What this article doesn't really warn you about is having too rapid of a rate of self-disclosure. That can end someone's interest quicker than failure to get past small-talk.

jakedebest · 2011-08-22T19:06:13+00:00

Basically : act (or be genuinely) interested in what the other person does and ask questions about it. form relative opinions/thoughts on the response you got.

thebroxo · 2011-08-23T00:42:18+00:00

small talk

Sed5 · 2011-08-22T09:54:09+00:00

Wasn't this posted before?

Title	Best article I've read for learning how to talk to people
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Date	August 22, 2011 2:05 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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