Can some brown guys share their experiences?

amadeus_x · 2014-03-01T11:57:23+00:00

Half-Indian here. Well, I think race can just be a little handicap when it comes to the initial interest of the girl. You can still convince most girls, but you would have had an easier time if you were a different race. Her level of attraction for you might have sort of a lower starting point. Two reasons for this:

1) Genetic preference biases. We just have different general preferences when it comes to physical appearance. But race is not a special case of a handicap here, it's just like being not very tall, being a little overweight, or being not very rich. They can all be easily overcome with confidence etc.

2) Prejudices. When you have a different race, she might think that you may not share her core values. It's a reasonable assumption, because after all, it's statistically more likely that someone with a different race has different core values and ideals. And you might not want to date someone who is, say, very traditional or religious. So just talk to her and show her that you are a cool guy.

I think you can get rid of the race handicap within minutes of talking to a girl. But it's harder to do this when it comes to online game.

Kidcurry · 2014-03-01T18:50:32+00:00

Good luck on your bio/accounting/engineering exam.

All jokes aside your view on race is a limiting belief. There's no need to weigh the effects of race on your game. It's part of who you are. It's not going away. So embrace it. Have fun with it. For example, I break out the Indian accent when hitting on girls and convince them I just immigrated to the states. Eventually I stop doing the accent and tell em they're suckers for falling for that.

This type of stuff shows that you're comfortable with who you are– an important requirement for most women.

When you meet girls who show disinterest you need to gauge whether they can be swayed or not. Some girls are very picky and no amount of slumdog millionaire Bollywood flow will help.

But would you want a girl who let's something as trivial as race get in the way of something potentially awesome? I love the chase and often times you'll find women that are just testing you and don't give a flying fuck about your race. They just want a man who's won't take shit and gets what he wants. Ultimately, you need decide if you're gonna chase or just move on.

throwawaysundayz · 2014-03-01T13:15:18+00:00

Black guy here. Let me start by saying it's always gonna be hard to quantify and pinpoint if it's your race that's off-putting to women or if they just plain don't find you attractive--but I'd like to say that I've been denied, on average, by more white girls and more likely to attract girls of other races.

I think location makes a little impact too. I live in the South. These women often come from a strong conservative and RACIST background, so it affects how they view men. And it sucks because you have to overcome your race hurdle despite the fact that, say, you have a decent income/lots of social value, etc. I hear that in New York City, where the women outnumber the men, I'd have less of a problem overcoming race because the women are more receptive of men of all shades.

My goal is never to convert a female who seems like the type to say "I'm not into black guys, sorry." Just move on. Repeat this mantra to yourself: It's her loss. I don't mean that in a, this girl bruised your ego and you need to put a bandaid on it. No, actually internalize it: it's her loss. She's unwilling to take a chance based on some arbitrary reason and now she's missing out on what could be a great thing for her.

micro-jackass · 2014-03-01T15:21:29+00:00

Brown dude here. Any woman is attainable if you build her attraction for you. You should be looking for the best woman you can find but if she's not attracted to you, then move on. Don't sulk, there are many women out there

destinys_parent · 2014-03-01T14:52:08+00:00

Online game is not for you full stop. I'm a brown guy and only do real life game because there's less picky girls. Also understand that every girl on OK cupid is bombarded with messages. How many real life men approach them? Not many. Use this scarcity to your advantage.

EsseVideri · 2014-03-01T18:59:16+00:00

Own it. I'm asian, I'm also a stand-up comic, amateur powerlifter, and whovian. I talk about the last three way more than the first.

You can't change being short and dark but you can become strong and funny.

TailoredSuccess · 2014-03-01T17:09:19+00:00

First, brown here.

I've gotten so much confidence lately. Not because I've been reading tips saying, just be more confident. The confidence I've found has been within myself. Being true to who I am and pushing myself in a direction to be nothing else.

I've been pressing the boundaries of what I think I'm attracted to. Growing up in a white society, I was only attracted to white girls up until after graduating college. Now I've pushed my interests into southeast Asian and Indian girls. What I've found is that some of the white girls I dated, had some characteristics of the Asian and Indian girls. Those characteristics are the ones I like.

Lastly, don't stand there with your dick in your hand. You must take what you want. 3, 2, 1, Approach.

hiimabeast · 2014-03-01T17:44:38+00:00

Hey, I'm Indian and even though I don't have any experience with OKC, I do have a little bit of experience otherwise. I just recently got into pickup (like, a month?) and the two girls I've hooked up with were both white.

Honestly, I didn't even care about race and talked to the girls. I asked them if they could understand my accent (or if i had an accent) and then go on to talk about where I'm from etc. It didn't really matter what I said, I just tried to have as much fun interacting with them as possible. And even if they might not have had any interest in me at first, they definitely liked me while I was talking to them. I tried to use my race as an advantage, talking about how my hometown is different from the US etc. It provides for some good small talk before you get to teasing, flirting.

I think there is some preference involved, everyone has them. But a lot of people do not care and if I've learnt anything from pick up, its just that you can't pull every girl. Some girls are just not into you.

lodidodi122 · 2014-03-04T18:30:54+00:00

Let me ask you something: when you see a pretty girl of another race, are you able to see her attractiveness as a human being? girls are the exact same. Yea a girl of your race might be more inclined to date you but that is because of familiarity.

And I'm sure the majority population on dating sites are white people.

1brajesh · 2014-03-01T14:55:56+00:00

If you think its a problem they will think its a problem.

HappyJerk · 2014-03-01T13:16:22+00:00

First of all, you can't stress about shit you can't change. Your brown. Fucking deal with it. If you're with a girl, just be like "do you have a problem with brown guys"? That's all you can do.

Second, the key for any race is to act the opposite of your racial stereotype. For example, a black guy who wears nerdy clothes is cool, whereas an Asian who does so is not. Similarly, a black guy who dresses like a "thug" immediately gets pigeonholed as trouble, whereas a black guy who dresses like a white frat boy can gain points. Some girls are just fucking racist and you can't change that, but you can improve your chances by stepping out of your stereotype. As an Indian guy, I would suggest working out, looking athletic, and not coming off as sleazy/desperate (brown guys are very desperate) or like you work in IT. I'm from the Middle East and I have no problem with anybody. My style is more surfer-casual (I grew up at the beach) and not your typical Arab club douche with a Gucci watch and shit.

destiny24 · 2014-03-01T13:26:52+00:00

Of course it affects your game, I didn't think it was a huge secret.

Harmonic_Minor_Shred · 2014-03-01T15:09:13+00:00

Oh this topic again.

Look mate, it's all about feeling entitlement, it's all in your head. You should feel worthy, and happy with who you are. If you're not (which is the whiny vibe that these posts give) then forget it gramps.

If girls aren't showing you interest it's not due to your race, it's due to you holding back showing then who you are.

Be bold and proud. Race disadvantages is just a limiting belief - what you believe is a self fulfilling prophecy.

Sort it out mate.

Title	Can some brown guys share their experiences?
Author	aintnothnbutathang
Upvotes	16
Comments	24
Date	March 1, 2014 8:32 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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