DAE prefer going out alone?

RedErin · 2010-11-15T15:25:28+00:00

Use this trick when you do go out with your buds. If a friend 25 bucks, for each set you get into, he has to give you back $5. That way you have a big incentive to sarge.

MexicanRedditor · 2010-11-15T14:37:23+00:00

I usually prefer going out with 1 friend only, you know, the wingman. When going to clubs/bars/lounges, 3 guys or more can become an instant game-kill.

intjpua · 2010-11-15T16:47:11+00:00

There seems to be a delicate balance...I've found a group of three (one male, one female) is the perfect group size and composition for me. I've had my best nights ever with a group like that. But, it depends on the people in your group. If they aren't being social, being friendly, being fun, they'll bring you down rather than helping you stay up. But, I've done OK solo, too. It's not a big detriment to go out alone, by any means.

In short, no friends is better than shitty friends that drag you down to their level. So, good on you for recognizing the situation and being proactive about it. One of these days, you'll probably meet some people who aren't shitty to hang out with.

EVIL5 · 2010-11-15T18:51:41+00:00

HELL YES. I've been screaming this advice from mountaintops and to my friends for years. Sometimes it's hard for them to understand, probably because they have the confidence of an earthworm. It speaks volumes to people when you show up alone, have a smile on your face, make eye contact with everyone in the room (not in a creepy way) and roll through a crowd like ambulance drivers. (Thanks, Beck!) I can't count how many lovely ladies I've met by starting my night this way.

Now, after a while friends usually find me out and we'll work a room together, but alone (hard to explain). It usually works with your best mate/wingman. Try it out! That way, if you're in a dead room you always have someone to anchor you.

Just remember: People respond to confidence, so if you don't have it...fake it till you make it.

Go with god. Come back a man.

Mouthpiece · 2010-11-15T14:41:12+00:00

You're experiencing herd mentality. When you go out with a bunch of beta AFC's it rubs off on them and you tend to adopt their ways. When you're out by yourself, you don't have that handicap, but you also have the additional incentive that there's no one else to talk to if you don't meet a bunch of new people.

Good for you.

even people in line This should be your warm-up routine anyway.

Edited for typos.

MrRisky · 2010-11-15T23:22:34+00:00

most of my friends are just wall flowers that stare

Yep, looks like I found yer problem right here..... I can see why you would prefer to go out alone if your friends are useless. I go out alone quite frequently as well.

However, the true value of a wing isn't to help you open. It's to help you close to get you the same night lay.

Keep looking for a good wing while you're out. You'll eventually see a guy who knows what he's doing in a club or bar, chat with him, that's how I met my best wing ever. Too bad his long distance girlfriend just moved here.

LeSpatula · 2010-11-15T19:08:23+00:00

I do. Since few years I go out alone every weekend, occasionally with a friend. First it was strange and I felt like everybody was looking at me. But people don't care nor notice if you're alone. I really like it now. I can do whatever I want and don't have to make compromises.

VoodooD2 · 2010-11-15T19:45:15+00:00

Way better. I can barely meet people when I go out with friends. A few weeks ago I went into a bar by myself and talked to 4-5 different groups of people alone which is something I've never done with a wingman and this was all within a little over an hour.

executex · 2010-11-15T16:55:06+00:00

Well if you don't have a wingman, someone who is dedicated to go out sarging specifically. Then it won't work.

You should go alone if you have to. It gives you complete control and ability to leave at any moment.

cheddarchexmix · 2010-11-15T17:47:47+00:00

I do best when out with 1 or 2 people. I don't like going out solo because I don't go out just to meet women, I go out to have a good time with my friends. Luckily I have a great group of friends who are really social and like meeting people even if they're not PUA's per se.

sockthepuppetry · 2010-11-15T21:06:37+00:00

The only problem is you have to invent an imaginary place you stashed your friends in.

kjaernet · 2010-11-15T21:56:21+00:00

Yes, I find that more adventurous and easier to meet new people. But I admit to having a few problems smiling and feeling at ease without a couple of drinks first - anybody have any tips to do this wihout drinkies?

onlinedatingscum · 2010-11-15T23:40:07+00:00

Some questions:

Girls themselves usually go to bars in groups. Isn't it really awkward/terrifying to approach a group of girls solo and try to have a convo with one? How do you do it?
I've been itching to do this and asked my female friend what she thought about the idea. She said it'd be pretty creepy for a guy to go to a bar alone. How do you avoid being perceived that way?

acllee · 2010-11-16T02:06:38+00:00

I enjoy it because your friends can end up being a crutch when you need to be social. Its really easy to just fall in with them and not talk to others. I've come to enjoy going solo because venue changes are up to me and also it makes me meet not only women who are out but I also try to talk with other guys my age and I end up meeting some fun people.

side2 · 2010-11-16T03:54:14+00:00

Yes. It only helps you when the people you go out with are into meeting new people as well. Otherwise you are generally inclined to stay with the pack. It gets really boring really fast. Then again I just said fuck it and let my friends wall flower if they want. If they want the help I will but I am tired of people holding me back. It's difficult to find any guys that want to wingman around here. Not fun when everyone is either with someone or too damn shy to even try to talk to women. I guess that's how women feel about being approached by awesome guys. Oh well.

I would really enjoy a wingman though just to have conversations with in between surges of sarging. I gots to take breaks once in a while.

Title	DAE prefer going out alone?
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Date	November 15, 2010 10:50 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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