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CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-11-01T11:35:52+00:00

When you stop texting for 4 days like that, you lose the momentum you had with her, her mood changes, and things go cold, so any promises to meet up don’t go anywhere.

Your mistake is assuming that when a girl is interested in the moment, she will still be interested a few days later. That’s usually a huge gamble with women.

With women you have to strike when the iron is hot, and if you let the iron get cold, the window of opportunity to escalate or make something happen is gone.

If you can’t meet while the iron is hot then you have to maintain the heat of the iron, meaning you still have to text her, not go cold turkey.

Basically you have to start over from scratch now, you have to build a good vibe, similar to the one you had, and if she is truly engaging, then ask her out to now, not 10 days from now.

Club__Paradise · 2022-11-01T11:09:59+00:00

What should you do? I'm sure you know the answer, it's quite easy - do nothing.

If you're thinking of going for that double text. Don't man. The ball's in her court. We've all heard the tennis analogy before.

"What are you up to today?" is not a good question to be asking a girl over text at this stage of talking. It's sucking energy rather than giving energy. She's either got to take time trying to explain her day or she's got to be boring and say "nothing much" - in which case she probably thought you would ask her to hang out, which she wasn't prepared to do.

I'm sorry about it man. It sucks, especially when you liked the girl and thought you had something going, but it unfortunately happens time and time again.

Plyster93 · 2022-11-01T13:53:47+00:00

Get your noodle wet somewhere else while her brain is processing

dyldo__ · 2022-11-01T15:08:49+00:00

bench press

revente · 2022-11-01T11:32:56+00:00

What should I do?

Go meet some other girls. And next time use text just to set up a date.

I also asked what is she up to today

And don’t write such needy shit.

IrrelevantAfro · 2022-11-01T11:21:29+00:00

Move on lol

Smiley_Overl0rd · 2022-11-01T14:13:36+00:00

Talk to/date multiple at once. This means that if one goes south you barely notice/not bothered.

norwegiandoggo · 2022-11-01T11:09:33+00:00

Wait until the day before the date and ask "are we still on for tomorrow?"

sinhaanip · 2022-11-01T12:38:04+00:00

For one thing, don’t write long and frequent texts. Forget that she told she’ll meet. Restart. No neediness. Act cool and display value.

The-Dude0411 · 2022-11-01T16:29:02+00:00

I'm personally fond of calling them out

"Hey I thought we were having good interactions, what's up?"

"I really don't appreciate you just deciding I'm not worth a reply, did something happen?"

"Hey, I've felt a disconnect recently, is there anything big going on in your life right now?"

Most of the time, the way they respond will give you a better answer than anything they say

If they immediately start spouting about their moms cancer or a recently dead pet, they're struggling with their own stuff and that's an opportunity to deepen the connection if you're interested, if not give her space and hit her up later.

If she gets mad or gives you excuses, I just unadd without another word. They know, you now know. No use in wasting the time.

Intelligent_Badger96 · 2022-11-01T13:14:16+00:00

Small talk is boring to women. They get asked all the same questions by many men. If you're going to text try sending something unique. After a couple of text I usually just call them just to get my point across quicker.

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-11-01T13:31:18+00:00

the most i go without messaging a new girl.... like a 3-4 hour between texts, leaves them thinking a bit but give them some relief when you answer, and MOST of the time they respond quick with enthusiasm

mangoem_8564 · 2022-11-01T21:03:48+00:00

You find someone else that will. Seduction is about having a mindset of abundance, if it ain't her its gonna be someone else. Stop focusing on just one person, its gonna make you look and feel desperate. People can tell that others are desperate

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