I think I just (miserably) failed an occasion to get laid

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-10-08T00:48:47+00:00

This happens because you don’t establish beforehand that you are hitting on her, so by the time you are in her bedroom it feels weird because you were acting like a friend and randomly want to get sex out of nowhere.

If you were honest from the beginning about your intentions, then it wouldn’t be so weird to make a move once you were watching a movie.

lux_indigo · 2022-10-08T00:36:48+00:00

Probably

DinoRubis · 2022-10-08T01:18:05+00:00

You blew it instead of getting blown.

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-10-08T00:51:17+00:00

You gotta FUCK bro

creativedave73 · 2022-10-08T03:21:30+00:00

Lying on her bed, sounds kind of intimate. If a woman's on my bed, or I'm on hers and I like her, I'm going to at least try cuddling. Never pass up an opportunity. I'm like you, where my natural instinct is to be the nice guy who doesn't try anything. But, I've recently learned that if you like her, it's better to just make a move.

What's the worst that could happen? She cuts you out of her life? I've found that it's not a big deal, especially if you have other options.

musclemaniac3 · 2022-10-08T02:14:58+00:00

Bro you need to give off more romantic/ sexual energy so she won't be surprised when you try to make a move lmao.

sandywreckedmybodega · 2022-10-08T04:09:00+00:00

It really depends, man. Men and women can be platonic. It's about establishing things beforehand. Making it clear why you're there and what you're interested in.

I had one friend who was strictly platonic and we would watch YouTube and smoke cigarettes. I'd lay on her bed while she cleaned her room or tried on clothes and talked. We decided to try having sex one day and it wasn't great so we went back to hanging around and doing nothing as friends. Sometimes you can be super platonic and still get sexual.

If you're that comfortable with her, do you guys talk about sex at all? All friends talk about sex. Get into some deep sexual convos or try slapping her ass and doing something cheeky. It's not weird because you're friends right? But when she gets turned on and you're all alone then you have your answer.

Mundane_Natural5131 · 2022-10-08T00:53:44+00:00

Yeah it is better to show interest early on like by the second interaction i think you should have atleast tried to put your arm around her or get closer to her to where your legs were touching and see how she reacted and then proceeded from there or something but you should try to set up a second one dont give up

RProgrammerMan · 2022-10-08T05:23:55+00:00

It’s okay to have female friends. I think it’s very toxic to want to sleep with all of your female friends. Maybe ask yourself why you feel the need to do this? Is it insecurity? If you don’t see her as a romantic partner then maybe it’s good to have some healthy boundaries. Female friends are underrated, they do so much to improve your confidence and prepare you for a relationship.

help-im-alive451 · 2022-10-08T08:09:50+00:00

If it makes you feel any better I've had a chick say wtf are you doing after she knew I wanted her sexually. We had known each other for months, we kissed I grabbed her boob and she flipped. Word per word like your situation. I get the feeling sometimes she was genuinely fucking with me but I'd rather not feel like an incel.

simplyaguyonline · 2022-10-08T20:15:04+00:00

Nah, you're fine. :) You're young, so even if you make a mistake, it's ok. You gotta do what you're comfortable with. (that goes for your partner too!) You'll both get more comfortable with each other, and yeah, maybe push the envelope a little bit more. Get closer while watching the movie. Is she getting closer to you? Is she talking the whole time? It's not gonna be perfect, but that's part of growing up.

46yearoldpimp · 2022-10-08T00:52:54+00:00

Yes, you missed an opportunity. You are a man and need to be more aggressive in that situation. Don’t over think it go for the kids next time and take it from there.

EstablishmentLimp477 · 2022-10-08T04:21:52+00:00

I would say, yes - but don't feel bad about it. There will definitely be another girl like her in the future. Maybe she did not mind you not trying anything and actually appreciated you trying to take things slow. This only shows that you care about her feelings and respect her. If she did feel like you missed an opportunity, do not worry about it and just wait for another girl you like and try again. But I think that you did the right thing and should not feel nervous or scared. You got this, be patient :)

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2022-10-08T06:37:38+00:00

That moment when she invited me for a tea but never brew one!

Nah dude. Movie means movie. Nothing else. Dont make her mad 😊

zapadz · 2022-10-08T00:59:40+00:00

Next time here are some videos on how to smoothly escalate.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rkfXuIIfULU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bRChsxT7p24

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fzKZeaCa9lc

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=twTrrGiRXtY&t=30m51s

Yarmanite · 2022-10-08T01:15:40+00:00

Since you didn't make a move you're clearly not ready. It's okay bro you'll get it next time, don't force it.

CometAzur42069 · 2022-10-08T08:23:33+00:00

Lol you’ll get em next time

incognito3107 · 2022-10-08T08:26:56+00:00

Sure, girls don't do such things with guys that they don't fancy. Next time, if you feel the barrier of making a move, just make a smaller move. Small moves are extremely important for girls as a foreplay. Even coming a little closer to her, slightly touching her hand for a moment or looking at her little more than necessary may bear a big significance in your relation and change the mood completely.

FUCKYOUINYOURFACE · 2022-10-08T08:41:51+00:00

You should ask her to try and catch your dog.

Dismal-Revolution941 · 2022-10-08T12:03:42+00:00

Well I might be wrong but you could ease the pressure off by admitting you're a virgin, then she could help you feel there is nothing to worry about

Reasonable-Pea-2772 · 2022-10-09T18:27:20+00:00

Yes you missed an opportunity. If you're in her bed and you're watching netflix, 9 times out of 10 she wants to bang. In bed cuddle her during the movie, kiss and progress to doing handsy stuff until you have full blown sex.

Context matters. In this context it was as close to a layup as you're ever going to get. As a virgin man you're going to need balls to go to the next step. Get this lady in the exact same situation and make your move. But hurry up now because she's not going to keep letting you miss chances like this over and over again.

Title	I think I just (miserably) failed an occasion to get laid
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Upvotes	21
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Date	October 8, 2022 12:35 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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