Why does it seem like I’ve done everything I can to become sexually appealing but women in college won’t just give me the time of day

sussykeke · 2022-09-17T08:50:40+00:00

I don't know you personally but here's a list of things that might be problem: - have you even tried to get to know a girl? - maybe you care too much what people think and come off as needy/desperate? - maybe you say the wrong things when talking to girl (lack of game)? - maybe you're going out with the explicit purpose of getting numbers/lays instead of just enjoying the moment - maybe you're not focused on a mission that doesn't involve girls first and foremost

5_7pickup · 2022-09-17T08:50:55+00:00

Define not give you the time of day. Are you meeting enough girls? Are you approaching girls? Are you waiting for them to approach you?

aviator122 · 2022-09-17T09:36:24+00:00

Have you considered you taking the approach to this to seriously? College shouldn’t be the time to seriously build rotations and invest your time into women. Invest your time into your skills and take opportunities to join clubs and social circles. You’ll get more attention when you’re not desperately seeking it

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-09-17T08:56:38+00:00

So you're having trouble communicating well with and attracting women? How many hours of talking with women do you think it would take before you start to expect some results? How many hours of talking to women do you have?

JenniSun · 2022-09-17T09:50:29+00:00

Women can sense when u’re trying to hard. Instead of making ursef sexually appealing just be urself & add that hint of sexual appeal to it :)

CometAzur42069 · 2022-09-17T10:17:54+00:00

No details so how do we know you did anything

RinkyInky · 2022-09-17T10:18:16+00:00

How’s your social circle like

Atomic_Betty27 · 2022-09-17T11:58:41+00:00

Don't try too hard. I can only speak for myself here but I found it awkward and uncomfortable when guys tried too hard to get to know me. Be yourself so those who do get to know you, know the real you 😊

HumblyEgotistical · 2022-09-17T12:29:39+00:00

1

If you were a mechanic in an auto shop and someone walked in without their car and asked you to tell them what's wrong with their car but they didn't come with their car, what would you say to them?

You have done the equivalent of this.

2

I’ve legit tried....

Let's back the train up here.

What is seduction, really?

It is a form of social interaction between people. It requires social skills to navigate a social interaction if you want to get to things like sex or relationship.

Nothing you've listed in this very short post seems too constitute social skills of any kind.

A.) What have you actually tried out?

3

male friends tell me in attractive and all but I just can’t do well.

The only way it matters if your male friends tell you that you're attractive is if you're trying to date guys.

Being attractive does not give you the ability to navigate social situations any better, clearly.

B.) So can you detail what you've done to level up your social skills?

4

Dm to find out how I look if you want....

Completely irrelevant.

Asking people to say how well you look to them as you're trying to fix your social skills, is like asking an auto detailing shop to give an opinion on your car's paint job when you need engine work done.

You want relevant? Here are some more questions you could elaborate on:

C.) What does your social life look like? How often are you exposing yourself to new people?
D.) How are you meeting people in general right now?
Are you dating around right now?
E.) At what point are things failing for you?

BurnItDownSR · 2022-09-17T11:08:13+00:00

Because certain communities around the internet (even a portion of this subreddit) has mislead you into thinking it's all about looks.

Men and women are different. Just because as a man you're very affected by how women look doesn't mean the same is true when it's the other way around. Looks has some effect on women but it's not even close to everything. If all you've done is improve your looks you've only covered 20% of your attractiveness at best.

If lots of people tell you that you look good then just maintain that but move on to working on developing other things that simply matter more to women than looks like popularity, pre-selection, status, confidence, and get this....actually knowing how to talk to them. I know, what a concept, right?

butter-my-croissant · 2022-09-17T11:21:38+00:00

Woman here. We can tell when youre looking at us as a conquest instead of just trying to get to know us and “have a comversation”. Maybe dont approach women with the intent. Dont befriend girls if youre just trying to fuck them its fake as hell. Also, respect that theyre in college. Dont bother them if they have headphones on, are in the library studying, are walking to class or during class.

Jacob_Soda · 2022-09-17T11:39:32+00:00

It could just be bad luck. I only dated one girl in college. That was just pure luck and timing. I joined a club and approached women, but stopped due to #metoo. Basically, college is an awkward transition after high school and same for post graduate degrees. I would focus on getting an actual job and then try what your doing. Talk to them like regular people and before you leave make your intentions clear.

If you notice a genuine lack of reciprocity or body language, just don't entertain the thought. Make sure they ask about you too because it's not an interview.

neotonne · 2022-09-17T10:33:34+00:00

I wonder why women don't want the type of guy to go on reddit and make a thread like this

male friends tell me in attractive and all but I just can’t do well. Dm to find out how I look if you want

You give off ultra creep/incel vibe

Keithlct · 2022-09-17T11:23:35+00:00

Read a book on How to attract ladies.. And approach those mama.. 😂

FRlEND_A · 2022-09-17T11:40:16+00:00

because they smell the desperation

atomant88 · 2022-09-17T08:53:28+00:00

because you havent actually studied game, or even read the rules to this sub; NO ROOKIE POSTS!

raatdigedi · 2022-09-17T10:10:45+00:00

Us bro

Throwawaycauseimvery · 2022-09-17T11:30:22+00:00

Send me your pics op

Deep_BrownEyes · 2022-09-17T11:44:07+00:00

Time to go out with the homies

QuietRulrOfEvrything · 2022-09-17T12:06:06+00:00

Because they're intimdated by what they see. I look at dating in college like dating at the workplace; It's just bad practice & I wouldn't do either. Too close as far as proximity if the relationship goes bad and she wants to spread the word of any of your 'negative' traits to your female classmates.

Stay high value & go higher. Keep improving but remember that going to University is just a stepping stone for greater things ahead.

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2022-09-17T15:47:17+00:00

Women don’t care about your looks. They care about your attitude and how you handle shit when it’s handed to you.

Title	Why does it seem like I’ve done everything I can to become sexually appealing but women in college won’t just give me the time of day
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Date	September 17, 2022 8:40 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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