How do I prevent myself from becoming the texting buddy of my date

theyuta · 2022-08-18T19:18:19+00:00

Dude, she likes you and wants to connect. Play with her and arrange for dates when you feel like.

Agreeable_Wolf_3834 · 2022-08-18T22:02:19+00:00

You are better off calling her. Give her a call and have a short conversation with you basically flirting and setting up another date.

Also, you wanna escalate the situation the next time you go out on a date with her. Learn Kino and you’ll be fine ;)

Liberaler · 2022-08-18T19:21:00+00:00

Keep your answers short and point to your next meet up in real life. She probably has enough social intelligence to adapt her texting frequency then.

"Interesting, we should talk about that, when we see each other"

Nullroute127 · 2022-08-18T23:35:23+00:00

You've likely succeeded in making her chase you. She's texting you because she wants to see if you're interested. Your pulling back is actually probably working in your favor (or not, in your mind) making her wonder about you.

You need to make a decision on if you're interested or not. If you are, make plans. If not, you need to say so.

It's your job as the guy to take things to the next level. She's basically giving you the layup to do so.

hannahmeip · 2022-08-18T23:48:10+00:00

She wants to be in a relationship with you. She is feeling out wether your interest is long term or strictly banging.

nanoepoch · 2022-08-18T19:54:40+00:00

You don't want to feed into her interest? You only had one date so you aren't spending time together everyday, so this is all of the communication you have in between dates. Either talk to her or tell her texting is only for planning and nothing else.

Confidenceisbetter · 2022-08-18T19:20:53+00:00

Well what do you want? What’s your goal of dating her if you don’t want to text her or tell her anything about yourself?

Therocksays2020 · 2022-08-18T19:21:31+00:00

Set a second date if you want to see her again. She’s probably initiating so she can see you again

-Mavs · 2022-08-18T22:23:40+00:00

"I'm not really a big time texter and I don't feel like we should be mainly planning dates through text at this stage."

Do exactly this.

Let her know, "hey I'm not the best texter but I still think you're cool" or something like that and definitely save texts to make plans for the next date.

Guys need to give girls a chance to miss them, otherwise they start to get bored of you easily.

Zealousideal-Put-981 · 2022-08-19T01:48:02+00:00

Highly recommend how to text girls: a girls chase guide

Neo-Rio · 2022-08-19T04:12:25+00:00

Because you didn't have sex with her after the first date, you're pretty much on the back foot.

You need to set up the next meeting so it only goes for about an hour tops before you take her to the sex location, or upset her trying to get there.

You also need to communicate that you are BUSY. You can't respond to her all the time because you have other things to do. But you have this window of opportunity for this second meetup, but that's it, and it's all you can afford her, and if she won't show then it's tough luck.

You need to spend the second meetup talking about her thoughts, feelings, and mental patterns that let her know that she is getting really turned on with a man. If she's a talker, get her to talk about it constantly. If she's not a talker, then you talk about it constantly.

If she hijacks and distracts that chain of conversation, that's OK, only that you lead it back there after a while.

If none of that works, then I would bail. Women are good at keeping you hanging on forever - so you need to be the one to hard "end it" if it gets beyond your skillset. Especially if you feel that you're slowly getting angry or frustrated - for your own sanity.

Competitive-Link-912 · 2022-08-19T12:08:40+00:00

Haha girl shows interest in me and texts me unlike past girls who showed no real interest. WTF?!?! 🤣🤣🤣

Bro, is this really a question haha. She is literally telling you I don’t play games. This is great.

Enjoy it.

CometAzur42069 · 2022-08-18T20:56:09+00:00

I'm not really a big time texter and I don't feel like we should be mainly planning dates through text at this stage.

Then just do that. Don't text much. Did you guys even have sex yet? If so, just arrange another date (within a week) and just keep the texting very minimal. Maybe just a text or two a day

atomant88 · 2022-08-19T03:58:24+00:00

only use texting to set up dates.

Macky470744 · 2022-08-19T07:28:47+00:00

just for more context what was the outcome of date one what did y'all do and how did it end?

makethisperv · 2022-08-19T12:04:42+00:00

It shouldn't dissipate attraction necessarily, i thin you are doing exactly what you need to do by letting her chase more because you text less but also not ignoring her.

It's something similar to comunicating to her "im still interested in your offer but im not necessarily totally bought in" If you stop texting completely would be like saying "im not interested anymore" And texting a lot would be like "i will for sure buy the next time we meet" and that would dissipate attraction because in that message there is no tension

Soy i think you are doing exactly the right thing, texting less that the girl with some calibrated flirts here and there until you see each other again

Title	How do I prevent myself from becoming the texting buddy of my date
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Upvotes	14
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Date	August 18, 2022 7:06 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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