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Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-04-13T17:03:53+00:00

You're having a self confidence problem, not a height problem

norwegiandoggo · 2022-04-13T16:58:35+00:00

When life gives you an insecurity, it's your job to address that shit

nopenotmedude · 2022-04-13T17:51:11+00:00

I have a friend that is 5’5 and has dated nothing but good looking women. He’s in a band that sucks, puts on this fake nice guy thing that is supposed to be charming, dresses well, and projects a confidence that I simply do not care for because it is also inauthentic but hey it works for him. Lose the excuses and believe in yourself

NoLeftGo · 2022-04-13T16:59:06+00:00

Stay off the incel subs my man and live your best life

OneMoreBasshead · 2022-04-13T17:49:44+00:00

Dude who pulled the biggest game I ever met was short. He was in good shape but not amazing by any means.

Super friendly, went up to everyone, great attitude. He was very interesting as he had traveled to tons of countries (want to say over 100) and had some gnarly military experience (but i meam not the gnarliest by any means). Saw him pull foxes taller than him in foreign counties without knowing a lick of the native language.

Then again sometimes its easier to be a foreigner, he did say it was easier to approach when traveling. So maybe just go travel but honestly american women kinda suck

Just get out there. You don't have to be mr right, sometimes its about being mr right time.

5_7pickup · 2022-04-13T21:41:18+00:00

Im similar height and pull girls from nightclubs all the time. Your height is not a death sentence.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-04-13T19:51:28+00:00

Nothing worst than a guy who is ashamed of who he is or who dislikes himself because of his “flaws”… Imagine thinking that the entire only reason girls might not like you is just because you lack some inches…

As if nothing else mattered… I know plenty of guys who are super tall, and they complain they get no action, and feel bad because everybody says that with their height they should be getting laid.

Sorry, but guys who complain about their so called flaws, tend to be guys who just lack a lot in so many other areas starting with their inability to understand women, banter and flirting.

Guys who talk with a woman, and don’t really know what to say to them, they don’t feel comfortable doing any moves out of fear they might be rejected, if they make a move they do it in an awkward way that isn’t smooth at all, if they talk it’s boring and platonic conversation, mostly composed of questions and questions and more questions…

I met short guys who have just the right charisma, and tall guys who are stiff and dull…

Guys who are daring and not giving a fuck about the outcome, and guys who are stuck in their head thinking of all the things that could go wrong if the girl doesn’t like them…

I guarantee you even if you were taller, you would still have problems with girls, because your attitude and mentality wouldn’t change, you would move to the next excuse… That maybe you need a bigger dick, that maybe you need a ferrari, that maybe you need a social circle, that maybe you need a better jawline…

You are so focused on what you lack and your flaws, that you can’t even appreciate yourself for your virtues and strengths.

Do you not think that women feel insecure about what they lack? Many girls are very pretty and yet they feel insecure because they don’t have a good ass, or big enough breasts, or maybe their nose isn’t like a hollywood nose, or maybe they wish they were taller, while taller girls wish they were shorter…

Do those flaws stop them from finding boyfriends? Not really, and flaws like height doesn’t stop guys from finding a girlfriend neither.

Many guys in the world with same height as yours who managed to find a girlfriend.

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-04-13T17:08:32+00:00

That’s not too short. But you wil have a harder time if you are avg compared to avg taller guy.

KahnKlingonme · 2022-04-13T20:28:28+00:00

What's your weight? I'm the same height and I've only had two complaints one ankle biter and a girl that was 5'8 she said she couldn't wear heels around me. Just approach girls shorter than you. 4'11-5'3

PaleontologistNo2785 · 2022-04-13T20:47:52+00:00

Dude everyone in rsd is around that height.

ikeepon · 2022-04-13T23:56:26+00:00

If you don’t feel comfortable with it how can anyone else? Learn to accept your height and so will everyone else. You got this!

ThatgreatSpartan · 2022-04-14T00:20:13+00:00

I'm 5'11 and I can't approach women shorter or taller than me without stumbling over my words.

ThatgreatSpartan · 2022-04-14T00:25:42+00:00

You would think that but it is always easier said than done, especially if you are an Introvert like me.

thetryhard06 · 2022-04-14T00:33:53+00:00

I’m 5’8 too, but I’m comfortable with it. Women are human beings. They eat, they shit, they pee, they fart, they screw up, you name anything and they do it like us. What makes them different? Communication.

Another way to look at it is perceived height vs actual height. Let’s face it, unless you’re below 21, your height is unlikely to change. Your perceived height, you can change.

What is perceived height? Charisma, social skills, self-worth, your intelligence. I know it equated to self confidence but it’s powerful.

Now, know that not every girl will like you. Some may be blunt, especially at night time. And who tf cares, but your perceived height should not feel affected by it.

Besides, 5’8 is the typical norm for guys.

P.s. I know guys that are 6’ and above and they still lack self-confidence. And just last week, we had a 5’4 guy sexually assault some girl on our campus. It’s fucking crazy how he did it but he must have been that bad in shape. Don’t let it get to you.

coma_eternal · 2022-04-14T01:03:26+00:00

You need therapy

BangaiiWatchman · 2022-04-14T01:27:15+00:00

I really don’t think height is as big of a set back as people think. I knew a guy who was 5’5” who was a total player. Got laid from hot girls all the time.

And if you really feel like you need height, wear elevator shoes from Don’s Footwear.

Miggysmalls801 · 2022-04-14T01:40:56+00:00

Do you want advice or would you like us to just listen?

ConsiderationNo9804 · 2022-04-14T02:23:15+00:00

I wish I was 6ft, I could give you 4inch and still be happy. Being tall is not that great. I’m 6’4 and hit my head on everything 😭

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