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nuc1earwessels · 2022-03-11T23:53:56+00:00

A friendship is always worth risking for something more with a woman, 'cause being friends with a woman you desire will destroy you.

Dodechaedron · 2022-03-11T23:40:11+00:00

Very true

Informal_Wait_8471 · 2022-03-12T00:12:15+00:00

This just happened to me unfortunately and it hurts. Using this as a learning experience.

Archyblackcat · 2022-03-12T01:38:16+00:00

What hurts more about being friend zoned is seeing how another guy comes and with zero effort already has her dying for him lol fuck it, gotta learn to move on from this quick.. when you weren’t blessed with looks, you gotta develop more courage

Important-Quote9544 · 2022-03-12T00:00:46+00:00

its not skillset or knowledge it's she wasnt attracted to you from the begininng. Women know who they would date/sleep with within the first interaction with someone.

cutanddried · 2022-03-12T00:48:37+00:00

Hard lesson to learn

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2022-03-12T04:39:17+00:00

True. That’s why it’s vital for guys to learn to match a girls energy. If she is going to deny the value of your friendship as a key ingredient to a romantic relationship, then walk away from it. Women defend these kinds of decisions a lot but in the long term learn that they’ve missed out on someone who really thought they were special. They waste their time with guys who just want to use them. So be it. There’s a woman out there who needs to be appreciated and will appreciate a nice guy. Go find her instead.

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-03-12T01:49:03+00:00

If a woman is truly attracted to you, she will make sure you fuck her. If not then she was using you for money, attention, validation etc

Chronfidence · 2022-03-12T04:29:30+00:00

Damn this is so pathetic to read. Move the fuck on and stop pining over someone you didn’t have the balls to move on. You don’t actually know if you had any chance at all so why worry about it.

AngeloMacon · 2022-03-11T23:50:42+00:00

No, what you describe is a friendship which is why you got friend zoned.

mightymite88 · 2022-03-12T01:23:42+00:00

There's no such thing as the friend zone. If you dont wana be friends be honest and fucking leave her alone

recyclablebanthas · 2022-03-12T07:01:36+00:00

You just didn't have the skillset / knowledge to move it into a romantic direction so she forever moved on.

It's absolutely true that a lack of game can screw things up for a guy in situations where the girl happened to be up for it.

And it's tricky because without the ability to read minds, it's sometimes hard to tell when someone is up for it without good game.

The misconception is that game creates attraction. It doesn't.

Not everyone has the same tastes, or is attracted to the same people.

And some people can certainly get along well as friends, with absolutely no attraction beyond that. And when this is the case, there's no amount of game that can change it.

Long story short, we need to stop with this unhealthy narrative that if the girl isn't interested or it doesn't work out, it is solely on the guy.

Seduction is a two-way street. A team sport. And there are a lot of factors on both sides that can lead to something failing.

The guy should definitely do what he can to improve things on his side, but if the girl isn't interested, it's not all on him.

fzgen · 2022-03-12T06:58:01+00:00

Women are always interested in "good" men. They get obsessed madly even.

The thing you need to do go for yourself and find another one. Set a boundary, spend less and less time with her because you have other options. Show her that you have other options "better" than her. or Say that you like her more than a friend, get rejected, cut the contact to the very minimum, spend time with other girls and enjoy them.

if she doesn't want to loose you, she will break the silence, she will stare long at you, she may put some common friends and let you know etc etc.

that will happen "only" when you really focus on yourself, enjoy life and other women (particularly better looking ones)

that's the game. don't blame the gamer, blame the game. women evolved like that. in their realms, attention and validation is their prize.

feedthekitty · 2022-03-12T04:46:17+00:00

This sub is getting so bad

Important-Quote9544 · 2022-03-12T01:05:28+00:00

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Infamous_Winter_3209 · 2022-03-12T04:25:23+00:00

Nah I’ve “friend zoned” women. It’s not just that you can’t move it to a romantic relationship or didn’t make the right moves. I’ve had women that we didn’t click sexually but had a great connection otherwise, sometimes shit just doesn’t work out and it’s nobody’s fault.

I’ve also been “friend zoned” a time or two. It’s generally that the connection wasn’t as strong as I thought it was, or priorities were different.

Yes you have to strike when the iron is hot, but being “friend zoned” isn’t always about that. In my experience it’s more about being emotionally compatible but not romantically. It sucks for the person who is still into the relationship but at the end of the day it’s better to be honest and upfront and get it over with.

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