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Havocnumbanine · 2022-01-26T02:40:39+00:00

IMHO it sounds like u went from 0-100. Girl: “hey” You: “I like you!” Now it probably didn’t go that way but you startled her. Her immediate reaction was no. Now as to stay high value…she doesn’t matter. Stay on your purpose/grind and in that abundance mindset. Good luck.

K_Sleight · 2022-01-26T04:11:56+00:00

Drown the awkward in normality. Ignore any discomfort she seems to prohect, and maintain indifference, pretend that everything is perfectly normal. She'll eventually figure herself out.

slaybrownbeast · 2022-01-26T05:48:25+00:00

DO NOT apologize if you DIDNT do anything wrong. It makes you weak,

There is nothing unlawful and immoral about you telling you like her.

Instead, you should have just told her" I understand you said no. I hope we can be professional and friendly going forward." But DONT apologize.

Lockybrah666 · 2022-01-26T02:56:47+00:00

You done everything right, all you need to do is just keep at you, an let her roll her way, if you want to step it up, maybe get a woman you know pick you up from work, an or her ask for you when she gets there an words will travel that a woman came for you, if she see maybe she will move on in her own way, it's worked for me before

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-01-26T03:35:07+00:00

Ignore her

blackstonechery · 2022-01-26T02:39:38+00:00

Get over it and move on. Demonstrating confidence is your best friend. Go on some dates with other girls.

Serenatadeputeadas · 2022-01-26T04:44:12+00:00

If you move on, but for real, you'll get her attention back. Now, consider that she's not looking for anything serious, to me she seem like the kind of a capricious girl who is looking for attention anywhere, so if that's what your looking for, then go for it, but she's only playing.

VorpalPaperclip · 2022-01-26T04:43:35+00:00

Stop trying to label yourself as a beta or high value man and then applying that label on yourself for others. Just knock that crap off. Your a human being, not a character in some distopaDisney world of made up dating terms.

You liked someone, took that risk and got hurt. Its embarrassing. That's fine.

Get yourself through your grief and laugh at yourself and just smile when you see her and be professional.

sillieidiot · 2022-01-26T06:07:31+00:00

I know everyone says to ignore her. But if you don't want to, then act indifferent around her. Say hi to her when you see her, but don't hover around. Act like nothing ever happened and go about your business. Go be social with the other girls in your workplace. If she's interested in you, then she will come around again, then this time don't go 0-100 lol If she doesn't, then who cares. The fact that you are trying to get her attention (from what I read in the comments) is what makes you look weaker.

alexandhisworld · 2022-01-26T06:38:38+00:00

I would stop believing that she thinks about you as much as you think she does. You are likely not a central character in her story, and aren’t the reason for her actions (flirting, eye contact, etc). She is likely mildly uncomfortable, especially given the ongoing nature of this. That’s normal. She is not likely analyzing every one of yours moves.

Be a normal person and be kind. Let it just progress, just as your initial friendship did

Also there’s no such thing as beta or alphas. Don’t restrain yourself to fake roles

Motor-Ice-4439 · 2022-01-26T06:56:26+00:00

Don't focus on this girl. Remain professional, serious, confident, and kind. Act normally around her, even if she isn't. Don't shit where you eat, work relationships are just that. Get a hobby that puts you in a position where you're around and interacting with women that have similar interests. I recommend ballroom dancing because it is intimate and will improve your confidence in approaching women. If you're around enough reasonably attractive women who love interacting with you, then you will have an abundance mindset. Don't chase women, make them chase you.

Representative-Camp2 · 2022-01-26T03:01:27+00:00

firstly I'm glad that you know you have to become a high value man in order to get over her.

try doing new stuff, go out, socialize with new people and also with your colleagues, make yourself more interesting by have fun in your life and your vibe will change which will later lead to her noticing the change and might even want to get you back.

... also don't invest too much time into her, that is don't give her a lot of attention coz from what I could decipher she wants attention so if you don't give her that she'll try to get it from you

Head-Combination-299 · 2022-01-26T04:20:21+00:00

Ignore her. Like she does not exist. And if she passes you, keep looking straight. She sounds like a B- honestly. Flirty and then rude and cold 🥶 in a group. Like…. That’s mean. Let it go. She seems immature so - just be mature and focus on the objective at work. Make the money. If you get a tingling feelings she is looking at you- focus on work and whatever you’re having for lunch.

Ocasionally_stabby · 2022-01-26T05:02:14+00:00

The best thing you can do is accept that this opportunity has passed and move on. Only then, will the awkwardness go away and if there is any left when yall interact again it will be on her side.

Also move away from this thinking of "i messed up how do i get get her to give me attention again?" It's not the way you want your frame to be, it makes you needy. Specially since you barely know her and there tons of girls out there. Shift your thinking to this: i went for this girl, my approach was lacking and it didnt work, that's cool i went for what i wanted and learned something from this. Next time i see another girl i like i can apply what i learned.

jwaters0122 · 2022-01-26T04:59:38+00:00

She is your coworker and treat her as such. Whatever she thinks of you is her problem, not yours. Keep everything work related and leave it at that

Alextryingforgrate · 2022-01-26T05:04:09+00:00

She is now just a coworker. You can try to be friendly later on and just have regular conversations with her in the lunch room etc. Aside from that just get going back to work and start getting shit done.

Sup3rHD · 2022-01-26T04:57:31+00:00

Never tell to a girl that you like her

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-01-26T05:22:58+00:00

Rejection sucks. I asked a girl to marry me and she said NO. lol. I look at it as a good thing as I was kind of infatuated and she was kind of a bitch. F her. Better to try and fail then to not try and never know. You good! Next! Watch what happens when you completely blow her off.

KaleWeekly · 2022-01-26T05:30:24+00:00

Don't say it, show it through flirting, bantering, and kino. Women want a mystery, what fun is it when you just tell her. You're not in middle school anymore.

itsthechamp2022 · 2022-01-26T06:31:33+00:00

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